DDlg Hate

[PortlandDaddy]

I think this is a perfect example of someone who, purely in my opinion, deeply wants to be a little but can't or hasn't yet given themselves permission, and their only escape valve is to talk passionately against it.  Her Disney love, stuffies, glittery makeup are tells.  And she clearly craves attention because she is a youtuber.  I hope she gets the love she needs.

 

I speak from a little bit of experience.  Before I realized I was a bit of a sadist I thought BDSM was sick.  And when I realized what I was, I thought I was sick.  It took me a long time to work through that.  I went through a similar thing when I realized I was a caregiver.

[Guest MontBlanc]

I saw this video and it upset me ...

 

 

I found her so mean with people into ddlg ... I don't know ... what do you think about it ? Was she right about them ?

 

I didn't watch the whole thing so maybe she said 'mean' things and i missed them.  but i agree with her - there is a time and a place; getting 'kinky' in a Disney store is not the place.  I would feel uncomfortable witnessing what she described and if i had children with me I would be royally pissed off. 

[Sixtytwofifty]

It's also hate for the sake of hate, and bandwagoning.... simply joining a band of assholes being assholes.

Most that don't understand, I would venture to say, simply don't want to understand.

But most imo just seek things to fight against to be pr*cks.

No matter what you do, someone will disagree with your choice... especially when hiding in mommas basement, in the dark with a face full of doritos.

 

I am an adult, and I will do as I please as long as it's within legal and my own moral bounds.

We do need to pay close attention to who we interact with etc., but that comes in every realm of life.

And that includes other adults, both Dom or sub, that are "here" for the wrong reasons... that helps them, us, and our community as much as anything else.

 

Predators are everywhere, and come in any flavor.... including haters who spew BS about things they don't understand, or care to understand, for any reason.

Most of them break various laws more than any of us who care and love so deeply to allow the other, or others, to be, and feel free to be!

 

That's the way I see it... or the tip of it anyway.

Don't worry honey, it's just the tip.

 

Edit: And I fully agree about time and place! For all of us, and them.

Edited June 29, 2016 by Sixtytwofifty

[hislg14]

I've noticed lots of "anti dd/lg" blogs popping up on Tumblr recently. They're really horrible and judgemental.

I came across fetishpolice on tumbrl the otehr day and found like a huge following of the fetsh hate community and more specifically hating on DD/lg. it broke my heart

[Big Red]

It's on all forums of social media. There is a large percentage of hate with the general crowd because its definitely out there and has had little exposure until recent years.

[WickedJax]

There are things in this world that that should absolutely be kept behind closed doors, among these things, hatred and BDSM lifestyles are, in my opinion, at the very top of the list. Just after religion. 

[Cherry41]

I think some of the hatred comes from misunderstanding. We all know this, but there are many who truly do not understand that:

 

1. DDlg has nothing to do with children or the desire to have any form of sexual contact with children. The terms "little" and "Daddy" are titles that indicate a Dominance and submission dynamic and nurturing relationship. 

 

2. DDlg is not about pretending you ARE a child and that your Dom is your father. Nobody in DDlg really wants to have any form of sexual contact with their parent. 

 

3. People who engage in DDlg are fully consenting adults. Nobody is tricked into doing anything they would not like to do. 

 

 

These people may misunderstand because they met or encountered someone online who was a child molester who tried to excuse it by lying and saying they were "DDlg" or who committed incest with the same excuse...or committed sexual assault and tried to pretend they were "dominating." They might genuinely not realize that those who truly are into BDSM and DDlg find child molestation, assault, etc. repugnant and wrong and would never engage in or condone such things. 

 

 

Other hatred comes from people are just going to hate anything that is not to their taste. Some people are just like that, on a lot of things.