Having a boyfriend and a caregiver?

[I-Am-Princess-Maddie]

[Guest StainedBlack]

First off, you need to be upfront with your significant other about it, don't hide anything and be blunt. Different things work for different people.

 

Personal opinion: Ddlg forms a very strong bond, that is generally all encompassing and time consuming. It's a lot of effort for little to no pay off. Why would someone spend their time and energy with someone they dont have a future with? And in most cases asking someone to be your caregiver while you're in a relationship is unfair to them and your significant other.

[Guest Olderdaddyca]

I must disagree. There are many daddy's out there that are looking for the nurturing aide only. Like all dynamics there is something for everyone. You do not even have to tell your boyfriend about the dynamic. You can just say your dad....I know many couples that live the lifestyle for real and do not have the physical relashionship. Personally I do not understand how a daddy can not crave the touch of his little but for reason unknown to me they do....so be patient and you can find a nurturing daddy to give you the structure and guidance you need.

[dnswd]

There are some that have an SO and a non-sexual caregiver. So long as all parties involved know what to expect and not to it will work. For me personally when someone says caregiver that is what I always assume, someone that provides structure, help with little space etc. 

 

A CG still has a relationship with a little, just not the living togther/sex part. There are quite few that I know personally that are in this type of relationship. Just as not all littles are the same not all CGs are the same. Some provide care cause just doing that recharges them, some do it to help littles and by doing so it also helps them.

[snuggleprincess]

Well she didn't state whether or not she currently has a boyfriend, so why immediately lecture her on honesty?  Though I do agree with the idea. I think that all people involved should be aware of one another if you ever have both.

 

I've been curious as to whether or not people have these separate relationships as well, and I wondered if it works.  Personally, my relationship with my Daddy would be sexual, so I wouldn't need or want a boyfriend as well.  But if your SO isn't into the lifestyle,and doesn't want to be, I think you might be able to make it work.

Edited June 14, 2016 by snuggleprincess

[daddy4babygurls]

to the responders, first, read Maddie's profile, she says she IS in a relationship...

 

and to Maddie, it is perfectly fine to have a non-sexual caregiver, as well as a boyfriend who accepts that he cannot fulfill your need for being a little girl and having a caregiver/Daddy, and supports you in searching and having one.

 

There are some of us who ARE non-sexual Daddies/caregivers. And am happy in that role, to those who are doubters...

[little-michaelis]

I'm in the same situation... My daddy is giving me less attention.

[neko]

Yes is possible to have a Dom AND a caregiver. Just be open and honest with your Dom about your feelings and why this is something you want.