Little Lost

[Lostgirl912]

So I'm not even sure how to start this. This is all 100% new to me. When I discovered this it really peaked my interest more then I ever thought it would. I've done a bit of reading on the topic but I still feel like so many of my questions aren't answered. Which makes me feel that maybe I'm not perfect t for this. I feel like I'd be the most opposite you'd image for a little. I have colored hair, tattoos, piercings, and have more of a woman's figure. Am I just reading into the sterotype?

 

What really concerns me though is I don't know if I would be able to do this lifestyle 100% of the time. I'm oddly independent and an "old soul" in the friend group, but I feel that always having to be the adult has left me with a side of myself I have yet/ want to discover. Is this something you need to do every minute of your life or is it okay to just want it as a personal time thing? All the reading has made me feel like I'm blurring the truth with the sterotype.

 

I was really hoping someone might help me out and guide me a little? I don't know what to expect or even how to start....

[Princess-P]

Littles come in a wide variety. From small to plus sizes, short to tall, all races and ages and genders. Don't confuse the social media little with what CG/l is all about.

 

You don't have to have a little age, you don't need to commit to being little 100% of the time, you don't have to like pacifiers, you can be independent, you don't have to like pink or frills or cartoons or colouring.

 

Being little is a feeling. And everyone has a different reason for feeling little. CG/l for most is in fact a life style but for others its role play. And some people who do not identify as either a little or a care giver still enjoy some aspects of this part of the BDSM umbrella. There is nothing set in stone about how you must act to fit in.

 

Chatting with other littles will help you to self identify. Maybe your little maybe your not, but that's up to you. Either way by chatting g you will see how diverse this community is.

 

I for one am a full time little. I'm also a mom who works full time. I use my adult brain 97% of the day, but I'm still a little. I'm also plus sized, smoke, and am very independent even though I have a Daddy.

 

The best way to "start" is like I said. Don't worry about stereotypes, chat with people in the community, and don't worry about labels too much. Find what interests you,try a variety of things, and if this isn't for you 100% then oh well,at least you might gain something from the experience.

[KayBaby♥]

 

Thank you for this post. Even though I didn't create this thread it still address some of the questions I've had being so new to DD!g.

[LuvCurveyBaby]

As a caregiver (yup, I'm owning my title) I agree 100% with Princess-P - there should be no requirements to being a little. None, zip, zilch.

People will have preferences as I have mine and you yours.

 

I know I am more attracted to women who are curvy or plus sized so, I can expect her to have a woman's shape.

Hopefully, she will have strong opinions, views, ideas and thoughts on everything so, ditto for being not being 100% little all the time.

Life will be complicated or tricky to find time to enjoy our play but, we will navigate that too.

 

When we are together, I hope to provide her with the space to act as she wishes without fear, be that world leader, mad scientist or little.

 

She will be able to play, laugh, explore and see the world through her little eyes whenever she wants to for as long as we she wants to.

My role will be to instantly assume the role of caregiver known as Daddy and keep us in that blissful space.

 

From where I sit, just an hour or two every day fully immersed in the cg/lg world will always be worth the effort

[Princess-P]

I also want to mention that while the name of the game may be CG/l you can also be either one without the other... Or both, there are quite a few switches out there.

 

But you don't need a partner to qualify, if you meet one when your ready that's great, but if you never do then that's also great. Your partner can also be "vanilla" or not identify as a CG or a little and that doesn't change who you are.

[LoralieHaze]

Princess-P, you are so wise. You always give the best advice. 

[Princess-P]

Thanks so much

 

Mostly I share my perspective, if it helps someone then that's awesome. Its impossible to know it all, never trust someone who claims they do lol, but I think years of experience has taught me a lot. But just like necomers I'm still learning too.

[Lostgirl912]

Thanks everyone! I'm happy this place seems so open....I get really shy sometimes and have trouble saying what's on my mind. Everyone seems so nice on here X)

 

Can someone break down some of the slang....I think I may not be understanding some of it. Like for example a babysitter? I'm assuming it's not what most people associate with that...?

[Guest SillyLittleKitten]

I have coloured hair, piercings, and tattoos too. It's okay c: It's just a personal time thing. I'm very mature and adult-like out with friends and stuff, but when I'm at home, I'm totally Little. It's alright. You're still learning what you like and don't like about the lifestyle.