Still learning! Definitely submissive, sort of little, maybe confused...?

[PiggytailsAndCummies]

Hello! I'm new here, and you can call me Mandy. I really enjoy studying sex related things (I know it isn't always sexual), and recently DDLG has caught my attention. It's not the first thing I've found that I find myself being interested in learning about, but I am beginning to think that I am so interested because I may identify as a Little. I am still learning all about what I like and dislike, and what I am okay with. I know some things, like that I am only okay with blood and cum play when it comes to bodily things. I am submissive, and I have known that for a very long time, and I do personally enjoy a lot of aspects of DDLG. But, the one things I know might be a problem for some, is that I'm not very little. I know a lot of Littles are usually fairly young acting, but that doesn't appeal to me. I don't like wearing diapers, and I can be independent. I would do these things if I had a Daddy that wanted me to, but they are not natural to me. They don't disgust me, and I don't think that Littles who enjoy them are weird or anything, but I don't feel the need to behave that way. I don't know how big of a factor that is, or if I'm more submissive than a Little, but I would like to hear about if any of you guys are the same way, or what your thoughts are! Let's discuss

[Guest AmberDoll]

I totally understand this feeling I found out that i'm not a little i'm a middle as in I still want a daddy/mommy and i'm still some what immature but my middle age is 13, I was a dom before I came to learn about the DDLG lifestyle and i've always been into cute girly things but not that much into baby clothing/paci's/diapers, so you might just be a middle still needing a daddy but not baby like!~ Hope this helps, Welcome to the site!~  

[PiggytailsAndCummies]

Oh, that's interesting! I do definitely feel like I want the relationship style that comes with having a Daddy--if that makes sense. I love the comfort, trust, and the bond between a Little and a Caregiver. I want that for myself. I've never been Dom, ever. Haha. I'm okay with pacies and stuffies, but I don't NEED them. I don't know if I'm a "middle" for sure, but it is something to think about. I think I am usually mature, but I really need affection and attention sometimes as well. Maybe it's when I'm in Little Space, I'm 100% in, and when I'm not I'm 100% out? Is that a thing? Haha. Anyway, thank you!

[dnswd]

These are just my opinions.

 

Little doesnt necessarily mean baby clothing/paci's/diapers/watching cartoons/colouring etc. Yes people do mention ages but forget about part, dont categorize. Everyone's idea of little is different. Amberdoll mentioned she is a middle but can also be seen as a little NOT cause of she what likes and doesnt like but cause she wants a daddy/mommy. For example to a parent you will always be their little girl/boy, in similar vein for daddy/mommy/caregiver you will be a little. The activies littles (broad term for littles and middles) do vary some like colouring and cartoons but wont like paci's and diapers. Some like them all or various mis-match of things.

 

Me am a daddy but I love cartoons, comics, children's books, legos (I love building stuff and its far cheaper than building PCs). Hell I even have collection of various TCGs, G.I.Joes, Transformers (G1 only). For me interacting with them unwinds me so I enjoy doing that.

 

In similar fashion find out what you enjoy doing and incorporate them into your activities with daddy/mommy/care giver. Just remember its something you ENJOY doing, not something that should fit a particular label.

 

DDlg, D/s etc are just simply labels. Think of them as a giant umbrella, you dont have to fit a particular mold. You create your own and if anyone says otherwise tell them to go kiss their own asses.

[PiggytailsAndCummies]

That's what I think! The reason I posted this is because I view DDLG (and most fetishes/kinks) that way, but, having little experience, I wasn't sure if that was an appropriate way to think of it. I don't want to force myself to fit a label or a mold, but I wanted to hear everyone else's ideas. Thank you  

[dnswd]

You are welcome and dont worry about it being appropriate or not. Everyone started as beginners.

[sunchaser]

You're doing the right thing by asking and listening. I think reading different blogs helps me too. I learn more about myself the more I read. But it looks like you have a good starting place.

 

I'm a little and a sub. Most of my little tendencies are more me as a toddler then a baby and it comes out most in aftercare not during a scene. I don't wear diapers and I don't have a paci. I'm like a little girl who thinks she's a big girl.

 

I think one piece of advice I have I figure out what you like and don't just do things because your Daddy likes them. Nothing is as fun unless both parties are excited about the play. But that's just my opinion.

[PiggytailsAndCummies]

I totally get that. I wouldn't do things just because my Daddy likes them just because I think a Little is supposed to, but because doing things to please my Daddy would make me happy. I don't have a problem with baby talk or pacies or anything, but I don't find constant comfort in them--or, at least haven't yet in my life, but I don't know if I have ever gotten the opportunity to really be in Little Space--but, I would not have a problem incorporating them because my Daddy enjoys it. Thanks for your comment!

[Guest CharmBracelet]

i think going into little space is the best way to learn about your little middle self. i kind of regress into my little space either when i am nervous or excited. its all about what feels right to you. im not into diapers or pacis, but i love my sippy cup and i literally only suck my thumb in little space. and as we live in a society wherein we have to sometimes go "be normal" little-habits arent always necessary in the big girl world. even before i figured out i was a little, sexual stimulation always filled me with a sense of "childish" excitement. also i have always been drawn to cutesy girly stuff but never had the money to purchase as a youngster. at this point (even without a daddy) i am spoiling myself with stuffies and dollies and all kinds of happys that fulfill that little inside of me. again its all about you knowing what you like!

[PiggytailsAndCummies]

I have never been super girly, but I do like bows and chokers and stuffed animals. I have never been in a DDLG style relationship, sexual or otherwise, so I have not had a lot of opportunities to find out through practice. When I get anxious and stressed, I do crave affection and attention from those I'm very close to. But, I don't think I have ever been..."allowed" to really go into actual Little Space. Thank you for adding to the discussion!