[Guest sevenpetals]

[GlitterUnicorn]

Hi!

 

I found your post interesting because I can relate to it!

 

Okay first up, there is no "perfect" attire for a little. It's just a tumblr fuelled stereotype that's been circulating. You may enjoy dressing up in pretty skirts and pink dresses, or you may not. Either way, it doesn't make you any less little. Same goes for coloring. To be honest I'm not big on coloring, and even on the days I am, I'd much rather prefer coloring anatomy and weird things like that XD Again, it doesn't make me less of a little.

You don't need to beaten black and blue to be a sub either. It's really a personal preference. 

As for giving up authority goes, I don't need to have a Daddy or a Master. I could survive without it. I'm happy with where I am and who I am. But when I did get Daddy, we didn't start off with 100% power exchange. I can't even begin to explain the number of ways I rebelled. But he took his time, moulded me, and without realizing it, I was his. I don't believe in the concept of meeting a random guy and saying, "Yup. He's my Daddy." The relationship, like any other, requires a tremendous amount of trust.

I think, you can be whatever you want to be. There's no rigid definition for every type of relationship. Although, from what you said, you may just be a mix of both slave and little. 

I hope this helps! And if you ever want to talk, don't hesitate to message me!

[SweetMarie]

Hi! Welcome

 

I can also relate to your post. & what came to mind is that you might want to think about what kind of little you are. I very much agree with what GlitterUnicorn said, & would like to add that there is a post in this same forum called Small Guide to the Differences in DDlg posted by LavanderRabbbit with a useful link. Maybe you are more of a middle? You don't even have to have a specific little age, but maybe one of the descriptions will feel right.

[SweetMarie]

Sorry, it double-posted. Edited May 18, 2016 by SweetMarie

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

No two littles are the same and it's possible you may identify more as a middle, rather than a little. 

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

It glitched and made a double post ^^"

Edited May 18, 2016 by LavanderRabbit

[LuvCurveyBaby]

Thanks for this post, tia!

 

I'm personally more drawn to being a Daddy playmate/caregiver/making it up as I go along and the pain/dom side is not on my radar either.

 

As for how a little should be, I agree with GlitterUnicorn, SweetMarie and LavanderRabbit - expectations and labels are not required and you should feel 100% comfortable to be as free/genuine as you wish.

 

Since I am still discovering the cross over between my experiences, tendencies and hopeful part of the ddlg community, I'm finding the support and information to give me confidence to be the CG/D I want to be. Might be less popular, less common but it is my truth

 

Right now, a perfect first interaction would be the casual banter between two people who "get" each other, where one is pushing the boundries and the other is gentling leading back to a mutually agreed place. Be that watching cartoons, coloring, exploring or just cuddling.

 

Maybe it is influenced by the dynamics of best friends/true loves I've seen in anime, movies and shows but, it doens't have to be lolita/princess fashion based for me.

 

Wear what you are comfortable in, bring your authentic self and our interaction will be the key for me.

So, yeah...that's what I want to try out

[Guest sevenpetals]

thank you for replying everyone!

 

I get that being a little and submissive is different for everyone. I hope I didn't sound too ignorant or offend anyone.

your answers helped a lot thank you for that!

Edited May 18, 2016 by sevenpetals