I need advice from experienced littles please

[Guest CharmBracelet]

So, I am calling today my Little birthday because I just learned today that I am a Little. A guy I was talking to online told me to look up DDLG. Since doing so, I am intrigued and finally feel like I found my place in the world. He lives in my city and is the right age to be my Daddy. The problem is, he wants me to be his little girl and he is married but his wife knows that he sees other people. I kinda want a Daddy to myself because I am kind of a brat. If his wife wanted to also be my Mommy I would be ok with that because I am bi, but that doesn't sound like what he is going for. Our conversation started off with sex anyway so I really don't know. I am still figuring out who I am as a little. So my question is should I bother pursuing this relationship at all?

[sunchaser]

It sounds like you have a lot of doubts and that this isn't your ideal relationship so I would say walk away.

 

That's hard to do especially as a little because we really crave love and affection but walking into something with concrete doubts will only get you hurt.

 

My last relationship was not what I wanted and I settled for something that I had major doubts about. Then I met someone who matched me in every way possible. You'll meet someone who doesn't give you doubts and who fits you better. Maybe even a Mommy and a Daddy or a Daddy and a sister.

[StarEyed]

So, I am calling today my Little birthday because I just learned today that I am a Little. A guy I was talking to online told me to look up DDLG. Since doing so, I am intrigued and finally feel like I found my place in the world. He lives in my city and is the right age to be my Daddy. The problem is, he wants me to be his little girl and he is married but his wife knows that he sees other people. I kinda want a Daddy to myself because I am kind of a brat. If his wife wanted to also be my Mommy I would be ok with that because I am bi, but that doesn't sound like what he is going for. Our conversation started off with sex anyway so I really don't know. I am still figuring out who I am as a little. So my question is should I bother pursuing this relationship at all?

Life is a journey. You should try everything and make mistakes. But at the same time don't take unmeasured leaps of faith or huge risks. This conversation sounds like a huge leap and a possibly bad one. I'm happy you found our little (hah) part of the world but at the same time this relationship that you're talking about sounds very sketchy. If you do pursue it do research into what he tells you. And if you do decide to meet, meet in a very public place, do not go anywhere private or in a car with this man and make sure that a family member knows where you've gone and when you expect to be back. Not only is this good etiquette for going on a date with someone you've met online but especially when you're dealing with someone from a fetish community. While there are many people out there that are amazing and wonderful, there are just as many wolves that are ready to tear you apart. I'm not trying to scare you but I want you to be very aware of what you're getting into. If you think CG/l is your thing then read the forums and do the research. We're a happy community that will answer pretty much any and all questions. If this isn't the community for you then at least you have had an experience and you'll know. I wish you lots of luck. =) 

[LoralieHaze]

Do you know for sure that his wife is okay with it? He could just be telling you that (aka lying to you) so you don't feel as guilty.

 

I was in a similar situation with my first daddy. He was married but by the time he told me, my feelings for him were already too strong so I ignored the part of myself that wasn't comfortable with having a relationship with a married man. I also had second thoughts very soon, like you're having now. I didn't listen to my instincts though and I see that in hindsight I really should have listened because it would have saved my time and my emotions.

 

If you're questioning this decision, that is both good and bad. Good because you have enough self-awareness to know that you want a daddy all to yourself, and bad because this is obviously a red flag for you. Don't ignore it! If your gut is saying that he isn't right for you, please pay attention and heed its warning.

 

From my own experience, I say don't pursue this relationship. Also I think it would benefit you greatly to learn more about DDlg and, even more importantly, your Little self before jumping into having a daddy. 

 

Another thing I had to learn the hard way was that if a conversation with a potential daddy starts off with sex, that's probably all that he is looking for, especially if he is married. If all you want is sex too, that's totally fine, but if you want more, my guess is that he won't be able to provide it.

 

Feel free to add me as a friend and send me a message if you want to talk/hear anymore about this.

[Guest CharmBracelet]

thank you all. i was feeling like it wasnt right, and you all confirmed that. its interesting finally being ok with my littleness. when i get nervous, i start to slip into my little space. i just started sucking my thumb while reading and hoarding my sons toys. i think i will definitely tell this guy no. i think you are right littlekitten. i do want to get to know my little self more before finding a daddy. thank you ladies!

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

Walk away. It's okay to want to be monogamous with a DD and if you are uncomfortable about sharing you don't have to. If he is talking to others online it's possible he is lying about his wife being okay with it unless you have talked to her directly. There are a lot of assholes out there that only want sex. Hell I've been told I was childish for going on a public chat and not dirty talking perverted old men three times my age. Just be cautious. There are a lot of bad people out there that give this community a bad name.

[LoralieHaze]

thank you all. i was feeling like it wasnt right, and you all confirmed that. its interesting finally being ok with my littleness. when i get nervous, i start to slip into my little space. i just started sucking my thumb while reading and hoarding my sons toys. i think i will definitely tell this guy no. i think you are right littlekitten. i do want to get to know my little self more before finding a daddy. thank you ladies!

 

You're welcome  I'm glad we could help. 

 

I think that for both of us, when the right daddies come along, there won't be any doubt. We won't have to ask people if it sounds okay to them because we'll know within ourselves that it is okay...if that makes sense.

[Guest CharmBracelet]

You're welcome  I'm glad we could help. 

 

I think that for both of us, when the right daddies come along, there won't be any doubt. We won't have to ask people if it sounds okay to them because we'll know within ourselves that it is okay...if that makes sense.

yes that makes a lot of sense little space first!

[Guest CharmBracelet]

yeah i tried telling him no and he is pressuring me. blocking...

[Guest CharmBracelet]

thank you little friends!

[sunchaser]

I'm proud of you! When you find the right Daddy you'll know.

[DaddysLittlePrincess93]

The bottom line is what do YOU feel you should do? We can all tell you what we feel you should do but this is something you are going to have to make a decision on for yourself. But, if you want some guidance, I would really say read everything and anything about DDLG. Read like your life depends on it. You can never learn too much about being a little or learning more about yourself.