Tired of Serial Posters

[Daddy Itzae]

Note: Mods I placed this post in the general discussion subforum because I don't know where else it would fit better. If you want to, move it to the Suggestions sections or the Personals section or wherever.

 

Aren't you guys getting tired of all the serial posters in the Personals?

 

I mean, there have always been serial posters and spammers here and there will always be. But lately they seem out of control.

 

Just the most recent example, this guy Luxury who today in the span of less than 20 minutes posted exactly the same reply to 6 different littles. He didn't change a single word to personalize it and make the girl know that he actually read her Ad. heck, he even didn't include the girl's name in his reply. All of his posts start with "Hi, I seen that you were looking for some fun & attention! I'm almost 22yo,...." ..."

 

Clever but what if the little in question is not looking for just "some fun" but is actually looking for a meaningful serious commitment?

 

There there's this guy JBOT1971 who 3 days ago covered an entire page of the Personals with a dozen of his replies to littles. Again not a single word changed. His posts start with "My name is James. I am 5’11”, 220 pounds, 44 years old, black/grey hair"

 

At least his reply doesn't start with something implying he actually read the Ads, it's just a presentation of himself to a potential little. But if I were a girl in here I would be asking myself how interested he may be in me if he has responded to 12 other girls with the same message in a few minutes time.

And even if he actually bothered to read the Ads, how is the little going to know? There's no single reference to what he (maybe) read, what he liked about her or what caught his attention to reply.

 

Come on guys, you can do better... Replying to girls this way just make you come out as desperate and sends the message that just any little will do as long as she is willing to call you "daddy".

 

Have a little more class or in lack of it have a little shame.

 

 

P.S. Girls do this too but with less frequency and usually to only 2-3 guys at at time, but it's still irritating/sad when you see a reply to your Ad and you get your hopes high only to be let down when you check and see she has sent the same message to 2-3 guys the same day... not a single word changed either.

 

I honestly rather have my Ad totally devoid of replies than see it slowly filled with replies from serial posters... 2 and counting.

 

Too bad one can't remove replies from our own Ad threads.

Edited May 16, 2016 by Daddy Itzae

[Big Winnie]

I'm not gonna argue with you because everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I just wanna explain why I do it & if you understand my methods fine, if not that's fine too. In the females posts they talk about who they are & what they want, I reply with who i am. I explain myself personally & as a "daddy", if she likes what she reads she send me a friend request, if not we all move forward in our journey. I'm sorry that my tactics upset or disrespected you or anyone in any way, honestly. I'm not here to come off as a spammer, jerk or an insensitive person and I truly apologize if I've come off this way. Thank you for taking your time to bring it to my attention, I will reconsider my methods in the future.

[Guest sirdude77]

I agree with you Itzae but to make it worse I think someone is messing around using a bot in the personals.

[Daddy Itzae]

I agree with you Itzae but to make it worse I think someone is messing around using a bot in the personals.

 

If you suspect someone is using a bot in the forum I highly encourage you to report it to the Mods.  Use of bots is a bannable offense in here and the last thing we need in the forums is fakes.

[Guest sirdude77]

its a guess, but I think they will notice it.

[Daddy Itzae]

its a guess, but I think they will notice it.

 

ok cool then

[Daddy Itzae]

I'm not gonna argue with you because everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I just wanna explain why I do it & if you understand my methods fine, if not that's fine too. In the females posts they talk about who they are & what they want, I reply with who i am. I explain myself personally & as a "daddy", if she likes what she reads she send me a friend request, if not we all move forward in our journey. I'm sorry that my tactics upset or disrespected you or anyone in any way, honestly. I'm not here to come off as a spammer, jerk or an insensitive person and I truly apologize if I've come off this way. Thank you for taking your time to bring it to my attention, I will reconsider my methods in the future.

 

I can sense in your words that you are sincere with your apology and honest on your explanation of how you see things.

 

It's not like you can't reply to as many littles as you can/want to. After all you have every right to look for a girl whom you can make happy and be loved in return. It's only that if you took a little more of your time to personalize your replies it would show you have a genuine interest in that particular girl. It doesn't take long and you don't have to rewrite your whole presentation. Only 2 or 3 lines at the start letting her know she got your attention for x or y reason or x thing she said in her Personal, and then you can add your own info.

 

Girls in general like attention but Littles bask on it and if you give them some of yours in your initial introduction to them I can assure you that your probabilities of them reacting in a positive way will increase tenfold. And it will show that you care. Remember we are Caregivers first and foremost.

Edited May 16, 2016 by Daddy Itzae

[Guest MontBlanc]

It's lazy, unbecoming, shows little respect and overall no class  - and I say that without any due respect.   Nevertheless it may work and if it does then good luck to 'em.  I ignored it but I feel you Itzae.

 

Back in the day when I had a personal I noticed one reply was a copy paste job - what a turn off.  Didn't bother responding.  

 

I'll also add it defeats the purpose of the forum - having people just float around the personals like it is only a hook up site.  I think the Personals are a great idea but if it turns into a sleeze feast it would turn off a lot of new comers who may get the wrong impression that the forum is no more than just a hook up site. 

Edited May 17, 2016 by MontBlanc

[sunchaser]

Girls in general like attention but Littles bask on it and if you give them some of yours in your initial introduction to them I can assure you that your probabilities of them reacting in a positive way will increase tenfold. And it will show that you care. Remember we are Caregivers first and foremost.

This is super important. As a little what I want from a Daddy is someone who wants to pay attention to me. I have such a strong energy with my Daddy for the very reason that he loves this babygirl not just any babygirl.

 

I can understand where you're coming from Luxury but it shows a slight lack of understanding about how a Little works. We want to know what drew you to reply to us. And we don't want to bear the brunt of the work of seeing if we match a Daddy. Often it's hard for us to even admit we're Little and looking for a caretaker, someone who wants to share responsibility for us.

 

That's my two cents at least

[Princess-P]

Not that I've ever posted a personal add but I would think a major drawback from someone who posts on multiple adds within a day would be that they didn't take the time to wait for a reply from the first person before moving onto the next.

 

If I was the little who posted the add then saw the reply I'd get excited... Then immediately be disgusted when I saw the exact same reply to multiple other littles. Or even a differently worded reply to be honest. It would just make me think that the person replying is looking for just any little and that I didn't stand out but rather was just another add in the list.

Edited May 17, 2016 by Princess-P

[Daddy Itzae]

If I was the little who posted the add then saw the reply I'd get excited... Then immediately be disgusted when I saw the exact same reply to multiple other littles. Or even a differently worded reply to be honest.

 

THIS ^^^^^^

 

If as a Daddy with a thicker skin I felt such a letdown when I saw the only 2 littles responding to my Ad were copy-pasting, I can only imagine what a sensitive Little feels when she sees her supposed suitor sending the same words to six or twelve littles.

And to be honest too even if they had worded the messages somehow different the fact that they reached out for 2-3 Daddies within minutes would still have weighted on me.

 

Even though I know that's the nature of the game in most vanilla dating sites/forums, DDlg is quite different in the sense that Littles want to feel they are are unique from the get go and that they belong. And even though in a lesser measure it's the same for us Daddies. Even when starting as friends.

 

Even if things don't work out or one finds out we're not a match after all, one wants to feel from the start that there's the potential for this especial CG/lg bond and this sense of belonging. I think that's what most prospective daddies and some potential littles don't grasp when they come first into the forum.

[Ceequean]

Just a point of view from a woman - and to reiterate what Princess-P has already said:  If you take some canned response that shows no effort beyond cut and paste, she is going to pass you over.  Instead of offering yourself up in the same cookie-cutter pose, respond to HER specifically.  If you are an immovable object who feels that he is up for auction "as is, where is" by all means, carry on!

[DaddySkellington]

I just think they are "imposter" daddys that have no clue how to be an actual daddy, just perverts looking for a new victim. I would bet most are predators. Maybe a DDLG correspondence course would help, lol ?