I needs helps

[LittleStarChild]

Hi. I'm new here & I have a big problem. Me & my daddy have been together for a while now & it's been wonderful. I brought him into this world & he's been a great daddy to me. Well when we first got together we said we were open & that was fine & still is okay. But he wants other littles...& I hate it. I have a really hard time trusting & being with someone because of my past. I'm just so not comfortable with it. But I told him to go ahead & do it because I want him to be happy even if I'm miserable. I feel like I've done this to myself by even telling him I'm a little. He knows all these littles & they want him & he wants them. I don't want to share. I want him to myself. Honestly it makes me cry. It makes me feel like I'm never enough & never will be. I've never been enough for anyone. & it's eating away at me. He tells me that I'm more than enough but I don't think I'll ever feel that way. I'm been hurt so much. It really just makes me want to throw all my little stuff in a pile & burn it & burry that part of me forever. Maybe I'm not meant to love like that. Maybe I'm just meant to be only loved partly by someone. Not be their world. I guess I was right & I'm really never enough. It makes me want to hurt myself & that's getting harder & harder to fight. I hate my body & I hate my bipolar & that I'm selfish & want to be the only one. I just wish I was better, prettier, skinny, & just good enough for someone to fully love. I really hate this. I really hate myself. I just want to make him happy. Even if that means I'm not

[Guest ♥️ ashcake ♥️]

Hi there, I think its important that you and your daddy have an honest conversation about your feelings. If you aren't ok sharing him, he needs to know that. The dd/lg relationship is about both partners benefitting, so while its great that you want to make him happy... you shouldn't do so at the expense of your own happiness. I think the problem is that your daddy is into poly relationships while you seem to be strictly monogamous. In that case, the best advice I can give you is to communicate with your daddy... it might turn out that you two aren't suited as partners because of this conflict. But, whatever happens, I want you to know that you are more than enough as you are - even if this daddy isn't the right one for you there is someone out there that will see you as the perfect little. Please don't allow this setback to make you feel like you aren't good enough. You are not selfish for wanting to be your daddy's only little. Some littles are monogamous and some are poly; both are perfectly fine. It's good that you know yourself well enough to decide that a poly relationship would not suit your needs. Keep your head up and talk to your daddy about this issue as soon as possible, ok? I'm here to talk if you need someone; just send me a friend request. Best of luck to you. 

[Gregisthedaddy]

Hi. I'm new here & I have a big problem. Me & my daddy have been together for a while now & it's been wonderful. I brought him into this world & he's been a great daddy to me. Well when we first got together we said we were open & that was fine & still is okay. But he wants other littles...& I hate it. I have a really hard time trusting & being with someone because of my past. I'm just so not comfortable with it. But I told him to go ahead & do it because I want him to be happy even if I'm miserable. I feel like I've done this to myself by even telling him I'm a little. He knows all these littles & they want him & he wants them. I don't want to share. I want him to myself. Honestly it makes me cry. It makes me feel like I'm never enough & never will be. I've never been enough for anyone. & it's eating away at me. He tells me that I'm more than enough but I don't think I'll ever feel that way. I'm been hurt so much. It really just makes me want to throw all my little stuff in a pile & burn it & burry that part of me forever. Maybe I'm not meant to love like that. Maybe I'm just meant to be only loved partly by someone. Not be their world. I guess I was right & I'm really never enough. It makes me want to hurt myself & that's getting harder & harder to fight. I hate my body & I hate my bipolar & that I'm selfish & want to be the only one. I just wish I was better, prettier, skinny, & just good enough for someone to fully love. I really hate this. I really hate myself. I just want to make him happy. Even if that means I'm not

If this is something he has to do, you may need to leave him. If having a good man all to yourself is what you need, then you need it. You shouldn't cuck yourself and suffer for it. In my humble opinion there is someone out there for everyone. 

[LittleStarChild]

Thank you guys. We have talked about it many times & he knows how I feel & he said he won't do it if I'm not ok with it but in the same breath gets frustrated because he doesn't understand. All my relationships, (including my marriage that just ended), have ended with me not being enough. My last daddy(ex husband), was terrible & if this ends badly I really don't see myself trying again. I'll just be alone. At least I won't hurt again

[Princess-P]

I may be slightly confused by your post so correct me if I'm wrong...

 

If your telling him to take on more littles... Then that's what he will do. No one is a mind reader. If this is something that you just can not accept than tell him no. Put your foot down. You are in charge of your own future, no one else is.

 

Your profile says you are 22... Your still very young. Being with someone feels great, its wonderful to feel like a part of something bigger and love is intoxicating. But if your not happy... Then its not worth it. Everyone deserves happiness.

 

Now if you've told your Daddy you don't want him to have other littles and he gets frustrated and you give in... That sounds manipulative. On the other hand you say he told you he wants an open relationship from the beginning. So you asking him to change that, while it might be fair to ask, should not be expected. If he was honest with you in the beginning and you agreed. Sometimes people change, sometimes they don't.

 

You need to do what makes you happy. Making him happy if it makes you miserable isn't healthy. And if that means being alone for a while than do it. There are all kinds of happy single littles out there. You don't NEED a caregiver until the right person comes along who makes you happy all the time. Never settle.

[BeardyDaddy]

have you thought of you picking the other littles? if there is chemistry together in your little space then maybe it could work.

 

if not, maybe you need to tel daddy you need to be an only little and thats ok.