Am i being used? /:

[Bunnybebee]

Haiii guise!

Im new to this site & lifestyle. So im not sure what im doing at all.

I made an acc on a site & a couple guys started messaging me.

When i speak to them, most try to dominate me & ask me for nudes.

So my question is, how do you know when youre being used vs being dominated?

 

Thanks :3

[sushishui]

You know by how much you're getting out of the relationship. If you're not getting as much as the other person, you're being used.

 

A Dom should do more than issue orders. He should guide and protect you, and console you when you're down. He should care about your safety and your desires. If none of that ever comes up, he's not worth it. You can do better.

[Guest FrenchDaddy]

Maybe they should try to know you better before asking nudes...

[Mr. Grinch]

To be honest they deserve dick pics hook them up.

[Guest Mr TwitchPool]

This is frustrating.  DDLG is a lifestyle NOT just sex, some DDLG dont even have sex. Its not about pics, its the same as any other relationship,  I would suggest you read more into the lifestyle.  If this was a vanilla relationship and someone said hi send me nudes, you would tell them where to go.

 

or listen to Mikey, send them big floppy donkey dicks

[Princess-P]

Whether they are a self titled Dom, Daddy, Master, or whatever... No decent person is going to ask you for nudes right off the bat. Those people are just looking to get off. Depending on the site you joined, it may be catered more toward a sexually explicite purpose, make sure you state exactly what your looking for. Anyone unwilling to respect your wishes, such as "no nudes, no sex talk", is not worthy of your attention. Many people don't even read profiles. They are also not worth your attention.

 

Being new to CG/l doesn't mean your stupid so don't let people prey on you or treat you like you are. Don't let anyone tell you how you should be or do anything that feels uncomfortable to you. Explore on your own and don't worry about a partner until you know and are sure of what YOU want. For many this is a life style, for some its just a kink or a role play. All of these options are correct. It is whatever you make of it.

 

Since your chatting with these men online remember that you can always ignore/block/delete them. If they make you uncomfortable you don't need a reason and they don't deserve an explanation.

[A&Ω]

That question that popped in your head, driving you to ask us for guidance? Listen to it. Always. It will never fail you.

[Bunnybebee]

Thank you all for the advice!

I think im just gonna stick on here for a while & try to figure some things out, make friends & hopefully find a Daddy.

I hate feeling like im being

Thank you all so much (:

[Gregisthedaddy]

Haiii guise!

Im new to this site & lifestyle. So im not sure what im doing at all.

I made an acc on a site & a couple guys started messaging me.

When i speak to them, most try to dominate me & ask me for nudes.

So my question is, how do you know when youre being used vs being dominated?

 

Thanks :3

You're being used. You know you are hun, that's why you asked. Take it easy, just talk