Does anyone else feel like they will stop being a daddy/little when they're older?

[Guest AvatarMew]

I'm 22 right now but I can't really see myself being a "daddy" when I am in my 40s-50s'. I don't really like the idea of my hopefully then wife acting like a little girl when she's in her 40s'-50s'. I feel by then we would have grown out of it and be a normal husband and wife.

[doll face]

I'm 44 and it's just who I am as a person. It's not a dynamic or a kink for me but just a way of life that has always been. If I could choose to be different though I guess I would want to be a Dominatrix and very independent and financially secure.

It must be nice to choose just to be something for the fun of it.

[pyonchi]

I've always been a little without really knowing it, it's kind of a part of me. ♥
I'm only nineteen so I don't know how I'll feel about the dynamic itself in a few years, but I know I'll never quit being a little/sub.

[sushishui]

It's the opposite for me. I see all these teenage Daddies, and I wonder how on earth a guy could think this is right for him at that age. Especially teenagers who list six years of experience with BDSM or something. Like, did you ever even try vanilla?

 

But yeah, I see no reason why it should stop at some point. I'm sure the dynamic will change when I have kids, but why abolish it completely?

Edited May 7, 2016 by sushishui

[Sunny]

I think this perspective could be slightly more common from the Dom angle than the Sub angle, but as Pyonchi said, being a little is a part of me. It was a way of life I lived before I even knew what it was, and a way my relationships always developed organically before I even knew the word "Daddy Dom". I don't think I'll ever stop enjoying cartoons, or getting overly excited at rainbows, or needing someone to guide me and give me the stability of a DDlg dynamic. I could be wrong, of course -- only time will tell.

Edited May 7, 2016 by Sunny

[Guest AvatarMew]

I think this perspective could be slightly more common from the Dom angle than the Sub angle, but as Pyonchi said, being a little is a part of me. It was a way of life I lived before I even knew what it was, and a way my relationships always developed organically before I even knew the word "Daddy Dom". I don't think I'll ever stop enjoying cartoons, or getting overly excited at rainbows, or needing someone to guide me and give me the stability of a DDlg dynamic. I could be wrong, of course -- only time will tell.

It's okay to watch cartoons and do other childish things. I still do it and I will most likely always do it.

Unlike a lot of people. I don't regard this as a lifestyle, I don't understand that at all, it would be like saying that playing video games is a lifestyle. It's just a hobby for me.

For me daddy/little time is a way for me to show my girlfriend how much I love her, it's a way to look after her in a special way. It could also been seen as a way for us to get emotionally closer. It's not something I want all the time as I can't be myself and I want to be able to do normal couple things 70-80% of the time.

Edited May 7, 2016 by AvatarMew

[PenguinPrincess418]

I dont believe I ever will and neither will my daddy. See ive always been a little I just came to realize that i was a actual little a little less than a few months ago! and daddy will always be daddy cause as long as he loves and takes care of me thats all we need in our relationship. Love and care.

[Guest hissubmissiveprincess]

I'm 33 and my Daddy is 33 and we don't plan on ever changing how things are between us. We love what DDlg has done for us. It has made things so much better for us.

[sunchaser]

Ddlg is a lifestyle for many of us. I would describe my littleness as a need and my Daddy feels the need to be my Daddy. I don't think I'll ever grow out of it and it's an essential part of my normal life with my partner. He's my husband, my Daddy and my Master. Our relationship is normal for us. What even is normal??

 

If this is more of a hobby for you or a tool to help you grow closer to your partner make sure she sees it in the same way.

[ashwee]

I don't think I'll ever stop being little. It's quite simply a HUGE part of my personality, and a core part of who I am as a person. I'm still in my 20s, but I'm like 1000% sure when I'm in by 50s and 60s I'll still be the same way  I can't imagine such a huge part of myself just going away.

[Guest AvatarMew]

I don't really understand how people can say that being little is who they are, I find it cute when someone acts like that but I don't understand how they can say it's who they are when they're just basically pretending to be a child and their boyfriend/girlfriend is pretending to be their daddy/mummy. (Please don't say that it's not like that because if it wasn't then the "daddy" would be a child minder or baby sitter but they're not as they're called daddy) It's just basically one very long role-play.

Edited May 8, 2016 by AvatarMew

[Princess-P]

Actually for many it is a lifestyle. And for others it is not. You can take the Caregiver/little rolls any way you want. But you can't judge others for the way they live, which is exactly what it sounds like your doing.

 

Im 27, my Daddy is 40. There's no growing out of it. I call him Daddy, our daughter calls him Daddy. We do all the normal adult things like work, pay bills, raise a child. We both do these things. I'm the little yet I cook, clean, and function completely as an adult... Because I am one. But all the while I'm still calling my partner Daddy, I still love to color, do puzzles, watch silly movies, dress up... This is just who I am. I act silly, its my personality, I get overly excited, again its my personality. Why would I grow out of who I am?

 

I can take care of myself alone,being little doesn't mean you can't be an adult. Were adults first. And being a Caregiver doesn't mean you need to do everything for your little partner, you don't need to feel as though you must support another adult completely as you would a child.

 

Its all in how you view it. You see Caregiver/little dynamic as a role play... That's fine. Others call it a lifestyle, your approval or understanding is not needed for them to do so. If you have a negative outlook on how the people here choose to live their life then a forum such as this one, which accepts everyones lifestyle choices,may not be the place for you.

[sunchaser]

Well said Princess-P

[babygirl_]

I think I've always been a little, even when I was 7 and 8 (I had a binky till I was 7 and drank out of soppy cups till I was 12) and that was before I knew about it being a kink. I don't think I'll ever stop being a little, at least in private.

[Guest RedDragon]

I'm 37 and just getting started in Ddlg. I can't know for sure, but I have the feeling that my desire to be a Daddy will continue to get stronger over the years.

[Big Red]

I don't really understand how people can say that being little is who they are, I find it cute when someone acts like that but I don't understand how they can say it's who they are when they're just basically pretending to be a child and their boyfriend/girlfriend is pretending to be their daddy/mummy. (Please don't say that it's not like that because if it wasn't then the "daddy" would be a child minder or baby sitter but they're not as they're called daddy) It's just basically one very long role-play.

I have known some littles who have kept that personality trait for many years. They grow older but still like things like hello kitty blankets and sippy cups time from time, but definitely indulge in it less because of increased responsibilities. Also some littles are the way they are because of trauma, like losing a parent figure, so keep a child like mindset to offset depression or anxiety, its how they deal with it by expressing a inner child.

 

Also a little doesn't need a daddy or mommy and can indulge in that lifestyle regardless of relationship status, so its more constant and just becomes embedded into their personality opposed to some who like to switch to 'little space' when in private moments or with their significant other or daddy/mommy.

 

There are others who 'grow up' that I know of, or those who simply got involved with the dynamic for the kink, then moved onto different things because their partners are not into it. What I noticed is that if its a kink for some, they switch to 'little space' and can switch out to be normal, while others have bits and pieces of being a little in their everyday life take it as a lifestyle and tend to stay littles longer. This is just from my observation though, so take it with a grain of salt :x

 

As for me, I don't think I will ever get out of the DD dynamic because its both a long term kink and lifestyle for me, like it or not :/

Edited May 10, 2016 by Big Red

[LoralieHaze]

The first post made me sad but your other responses honestly just pissed me off. Just because you see something one way, that doesn't mean you need to judge people who see that same thing differently. 

 

I have a slight interest in cooking but I'm not going to go on a message board for chefs and say things like "I don't understand how you can make food all day" or "If you cook food, you should call yourself a cook and not a chef." Do you see how rude and pointless that is when put in another context?

 

Don't come on here as a guest just to give us all the side-eye or shame us for being who we are. If you honestly don't understand how people have made your hobby into a lifestyle, then politely ask us to explain.

[Ceequean]

​I am very glad to have found this place, and these posts in particular. It is so clear to me that this is a forum of experience, open-mindedness and acceptance.  @LittleKittenLo if I could like your post 100 times, I would!  Well said.

 

Until a while ago, I had never even heard of DD/lg or CG/l, but I stumbled upon it in Tumblr and something about it just resonated with me deeply.

 

I am more than old enough to be the OP's mother - in fact, I am a single mom, have a full time career, and am financially secure and fiercely independent.  Perhaps when the OP is in his 40s and 50s, more experienced or a real "dad" he will understand better that for some of us the appeal lies in the escape from the burdens of adulthood.  It isn't pretending to be anything for some of us.  My burgeoning Daddy has no issue with the mantle of responsibility - he is my protector and makes me feel safe, something that has earned him my submission.  We do not live together, do not 24/7 and we do not age-play - it's all still new and we are developing what feels right for us.

 

To the OP, I am glad that you can use this as a way to feel closer to your gf - you may just find that aspect of caring for her in a special way is one that endures and keeps your relationship strong.  Being a "normal grown up" isn't all it's cracked up to be.