So there's this problem I have? Am I normal :(

[Guest Lolitalilac]

I have dated Daddys with kids, some around my age and some with younger. My adult self completely understands the love that parents have for their kids A) because I'm a kid and because I have parents. One thing with parenting and dating that I understand is that parents always put their kids above the person that they're dating or even eventually plan on marrying which is natural and is what every good parent should do. Now when my little side kicks in it completely takes over my logical reasoning adult self and I get extremely jealous of their kid when they want attention or to play or essentially the same things us Littles want from our daddies. I find that I get jealous because I want to be the only little girl my daddy beholds and want to be his #1 priority but know that that will never be the case if my daddy has kids and it breaks my heart. My little side just can't seem to get past it. I even had one daddy break up with me because I would get jealous of his 10 year old son while at the same time his son would get jealous of me and want his dad's attention and Id find myself competing for attention (like siblings sometimes do growing up) but of course naurally his son always 'won' if you will. This is the main reason why I know that I can't have kids with my future daddy. I want to be his only baby girl. On the other hand, I do often see myself being able to play with them in little mode and it be like us being siblings/best friends but my jealousy takes over. Am I normal? :/ does anyone else struggle with this? My little self won't reason with the ridiculousness I know this to in adult mode.

[Guest pearlpizza22]

Wow! Funny you say this, because i was just talking about this with my daddy the other day. He admires how well i get along with the kids i volunteer with, but i get jealous easily too, and i know if we had children, i'd probably be very obnoxious. So hopefully we're both normal! If not, at least we're two of a kind.

[Guest Lolitalilac]

@Pearlpizza22

 

Omg!This is such a relief! All I needed was at least one person who understood! Thank you ♡♡ idk I think we normal we may just have a lot of love to give our daddies that there's no room for others.

[Jeffbax]

Wow Lolitalilac

That was such a lovely post explaining the dynamics and struggles you have in that situation!

As a daddy with kids it really made me think!

Something to really support my little with in the future.

[Guest cookie_crumble_princess]

Hi  *waves excitedly*

 

Yessss!!!! You are perfectly normal, not all littles are this way, but there are littles that feel the same way. Your post reminded me of an older one I read!  Here it is so you can have some perspective from previous members 

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/3-jealous-of-your-daughter/?hl=have+kids&do=findComment&comment=16

 

Now I need to embarrassingly admit, your question triggered a memory for me. I have been in the same situation previously and only just realizing it. I had an ex that had a 5 yr old daughter when we first got together. She didn't live with us, but I remember being very upset and angry when she would get toys and large doll houses, but I wanted a frying pan or a pair of fuzzy socks and not getting it. Those thing to me were my 'adult toys' and I wanted to bake and cook for fun. Her father would get very angry and tell me his daughter deserved those things because she just got over being sick. Not really fair to me because she was always sick, so she was always getting stuffs. OMG, I remember having a miscarriage - we were long distance at the time and he couldn't/wouldn't come visit me. He bought his daughter five new scarves and a purse. I only wanted $5 to get my own little purse. When he wouldn't, I begged and pleaded and told him how good I was. When he wouldn't send it I screamed and banged my phone and kicked on the bed. At the time I didn't identify with being little, but I never compared myself to her the girl's mother - only the five year old. It should have been a red flag for both of us that he would preface every one of our financial arguments with don't bring my daughter into this!

 

I can happily say that I did become a little more mature, even in that unfair situation. I realized that I could not compare anything he gave her to what he gave me - like you said, the kids always win. And, his daughter was a sweet heart (when she was younger) so, I would go over their house and we'd play together, have tea parties and dress dollies, etc. I think I spent more time with her than anyone else when there was at his house, especially for parties. All the teens and adults thought I was being patient by playing tea party in the other room with her when really I preferred her company to theirs. When my ex's family would talk (negatively) about my dresses and hair looking like a little girl's his daughter would always lean over and whisper how much she liked my hair and clothes    .

 

Don't give up!  I hope that you get a fair daddy that can tolerate the occasional instances of jealousy and help to fix the rivalry. There is hope for you yet

[dd.simon.4lg]

It's perfectly understandable that there should be that conflict. Some ppl are fine about sharing someone's love but not everyone is. Each to their own and I'm sure there are daddies that feel the same

[Guest Lolitalilac]

@jeffbax thank you! That's kind of you to say hehe hmm I'm glad to have helped you think of your little feelings!

[Guest Lolitalilac]

@little bit open

 

Hehe hi!!! Thank you so much for sharing and opening up about your past expereinces! Wow I'm so happy that you got away from your ex. Although he may have been a good father and may have not been your daddy he was awful at catering to your emotional needs. I'm sorry he wasn't there for you when you needed it the most-hugss- but at least his daughter would make you feel better hehe. I could see myself doing the same things you went through but being more of a pouty sad crybaby. thank you for your encouraging words I hope one day I'll overcome it or like you said get a daddy that'll be able to take the jealousy away. ♡♡♡

[Guest Lolitalilac]

@dd.Simon

 

Thank you!I'm currently realizing now that their are perfect daddies for all of us Littles that will accommodate our needs that other daddies may not be able to because to each their own like you said.

[Guest RedDragon]

I'm a Daddy with a child and I never thought about this. Thank you for sharing! I don't currently have a baby girl, but I can see how jealousy could be a problem. I'm usually naturally inclusive, meaning I typically recognize when someone is being left out or neglected and I make it a point to give extra attention. Its good to know this could be an issue so now I can prepare myself for it. I just want to be a good Daddy so thank you!!

[Guest Lolitalilac]

@red dragon

 

Yay!I'm sure you'll be a great Daddy by wanting to learn everything you can for your future little!:3

[littleprincess_01]

[Guest RedDragon]

@red dragon

Yay!I'm sure you'll be a great Daddy by wanting to learn everything you can for your future little!:3

Aww... that's sweet thank you!

[Guest Lolitalilac]

@littleprincess_01

 

We're exactly the same :3 and thank you ♡♡

[Mica]

I think it happens to a lot of littles so you are perfectly normal. I'm good with other kids but I don't think I could share the attention for too long. I have yet to find myself in a situation where I have a partner who already has kids so maybe with time I can learn to adjust my needs but until then I'm probably in the same boat.