Hardest Thing I've had to do in a long time...

[Lazarus_1_506]

After aprox 7 months of a relationship with someone, it became apparent that certain mental problems and insecurities were beyond my ability to care for.  The negativity, stress, and drama of dealing with a hot/cold, unable to ever care for themselves person became TOO taxing.  I started having emotional problems as a result, and went from a daddy that cared for someone else to someone who could barely keep myself together.  We went from a caring relationship to one where my little would sabotage my professional and personal goals as a way to control me, even attempting to sabotage my career.  I finally had to break off.  This is the first time I have had to break up with someone i still cared about.  And damn its weird feeling.  Anyone else had to go through something similar.  What was a great relationship devolving into something unhealthy, but still feeling attached even when u realize staying would be self destructive?

[Guest AmberDoll]

I've been in a relationship very similar to that and all I can say is when you see signs like that it's best to end it before it ever ends up as far as it got with you and your little, it turned into a toxic relationship, it sounds like your little didn't like you having other priority's other then her and that's not right for any type of relationship wether it's a DDLG one or not each person in the relationship should be giving to one another and supportive, i'm sorry you had to go threw that and just know when one door closes another one opens keep positive! 

[Chak051]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. It always sucks when you have to let go of someone you really care for. Its something I've had to come to terms with myself.

It might not just help you It could help them to learn from there mistakes and grow as a person.

I hope you never have to go through it again and I wish you the best.

[Lazarus_1_506]

thnx guys, just unique situation, cause normally something drastic happens to make me fall out of love or atleast dislike the person...sad part is I still care for her, and don't want to see her fail in life...but I am just not the one to "fix" her...she gonna have to listen to what everyone say and make efforts to fix her self...

[WickedJax]

Truth is you can't use love as a fix, you know? Try to do that and it becomes an addiction, which will turn a relationship toxic pretty damn quickly. It's unfortunate, but as long as you're honest and outright, then you did the right thing.

[littlelili]

I think that someone who uses his problems and insecurities to manipulate you, and your goals is nothing but a toxic person.

I'm so sorry that the relationship got to that point, but you were really brave to cut things, even when you felt you still cared for that person. That is really kind. But in the end relationships should be reciprocal, and you should feel that you're receiving good, positive, affectionate things in exchange for all the care and energy you're investing in the other.

 

You did the right thing, for your mental health and well being. Of course it can be difficult at the beginning, but I'm pretty sure that seeing how things in your life start to be organized again, your career, your goals and stuff, you will realize and be sure you took the right choice.

 

Finally you can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped... that will only be frustrating for both.

 

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