Scared to go on vacation

[Octoberrose11]

So I'm going to visit my fiancée for the first time in June. She's not to sure about the whole little thing but is trying, I'll give her that. I'm going to be gone for ten days.

 

How do you guys deal with being away from your mommy or daddy? Mine is just my birth mom at the moment but I'm already having a panic attack thinking about leaving and being gone and flying by myself. (I've been watching Mickey Mouse for like nine hours now trying to calm myself down)

 

I know everything will be okay and that alexx loves me but I'm scared.

[Guest cookie_crumble_princess]

Hi Miss Rose! I'm not sure what all you want advice on, just how you get over the anxiety of bei

 

I feel for ya, and have made a couple journeys by flight alone and lived in states away from my mom. I am extremely attached to my mom, much like you seem to be. *hugs* It's going to be okay. First off your going to have to put on your big girl panties. Be prepared for hiccups, its the best way to get over them quickly when they happen. I nearly cried several times and got lost, when I had to take 2 plane rides, buuut I made the whole journey myself, with two kids in tow, so you can too.   It's okay to be afraid, just remember to ask for help when you need it and you'll be fine. 

 

To minimize anxiety you want to have several items:

 

1. Get a cute but small stuffy to take with you. Key chain stuffies are good. No one will question it.

 

2. If you use a paci, you may want to find a substitute, not sure what, cause I don't have a paci. I twist my fingers or find a small something, like clothing or my hair to gently tug. You may have some jewelry you love from your mom to take with you. 

 

3. Get a number from home besides your moms to beat back homesickness. Me I used our cities weather line phone number. It was a familiar voice that I grew up with and I didn't have to explain why I was calling. Plus, I could call as much as I liked because only an automated service picked up. 

 

4. I don't know how you deal with anxiety, but I use mental mapping/planning of places and events to help me through being alone, even just going to the store by myself.

-------Instead of blocking the possible experience I need to embrace it as a whole. If you're going to be making the trip yourself you can call the airline, bus station, train station whatever and ask how you get to them or what colors their logo is anything you need to put you at ease in preparation for your journey.

 

------Think over any plans you have, bring a little notepad and draw or write about all the exciting things you may see and get to do and fantasize about  the positives. You're leaving you mom for an adventure! I rely very heavily on my fantasy world, if you don't totally disregard this.

 

5. Know you mom wants you to enjoy your time. Ask her if you can send pictures of the fun your having. Talk to her about how many you can send per day before you do it, so you aren't overwhelming her. 

 

I hope some of these will work for you. If not let me know. I will try to think of more. Oh and Don't forget to collect something for your mommy to send home to her, before your journey ends. A post card or something like that, it will give you something to focus on, other than your panic of being alone. It helps to stay connected to her without being a barnacle. LOL

Edited April 24, 2016 by baby_squirrel

[Guest cookie_crumble_princess]

Ohh and I wish you the best with your fiancee. Hopefully she loves you and your little side. 

[Octoberrose11]

Hi! Sorry it's taken me so long to reply, I've been out of town seeing my cousin get Married!

 

Thank you for all the suggestions, I'm going to use all of them! Mommy got me an owl key chain to take on the flight!