Angry Daddy?

[Vatisbabygirl]

Hi, my daddy gets mad at me a lot. And I don't always know why. I've told him so many times how it makes me feel horrible about myself. And always brushes my feelings away. He also ignores me. He's mad at me right now because idk if I'll like one of his favorite shows lost. I don't want to watch it. And he's fuming. He's ignoring me. And the last time he did that I cut myself. He doesn't know that though. I really do love him, and I believe he has genuine feelings for me. But I feel like I'm just being used. I want to have courage to ignore him too. But I don't. I use all of my might. Idk what to do anymore.

[LittleMissyMinx]

Hey cutie :3

 

I understand your confusion about your daddies anger. My daddy gets angry sometimes and I'm always get really emotional and blame myself. My daddy threw a hissy fit the other day about his uncomfy trousers and he shouted so much at me! Does your daddy ever reflect back on his actions and calm down? Sometimes it's best to ignore daddies temper till he realises he's being a poop :3 you need to safety confront him. When he's calmed down, you need to step out of your little and confront him like the big girl you can be for special occasions. I support happiness and safety, and I have no doubt you two may love eachother. So I would safety take him to the side out of little space and say 'am I the cause of your anger? If so what can I do to help stop it?' Maybe even write a letter and leave it for him before work. I have harmed over tempers and it's never worth it. I can't tell you to stop, all I can say is that you're beautiful and I hope your daddy can stop having a hissy and you two can move past this and be happy ☺️

[Guest]

Firstly, I am so sorry that you are going through this Please no matter what, don't hurt yourself. You are doing NOTHING wrong. Having a different opinion doesn't make you "bad" it makes you YOU and you are wonderful 

 

This sounds like a mentally abusive relationship. And incredibly unhealthy.

 

You need to leave that relationship immediately. Ignoring someone as punishment is so wrong on so many levels. You do NOT deserve that no matter what you may have done wrong.

 

There is absolutely no reason for you to be in a relationship with someone who makes you feel bad or any less wonderful than you are. 

 

Your feelings should NEVER be ignored. The person you are in a relationship with is supposed to make you feel better and comfort you. You should become a better you in a relationship.

 

Getting that mad and overreacting over something as trivial and silly as a television show is ridiculous and I cannot imagine how he reacts over something serious

 

You should not ignore him, then you are simply playing into his game. You need to tell him what he is doing to you and then leave him.   I know that this may seem really difficult and hard but you deserve so much better and there are so many people here who will help you through it 

[Vatisbabygirl]

Thank you both. But I've tried. I'm so emotionally attached. Sometimes he apologizes. It's hard for me to leave

[Guest sirdude77]

It will only get worse for you Vatisbabygirl.

[MadameButterfly]

This really doesn't sound like a healthy relationship of any kind, and the fact that you hurt yourself as a result from it, makes it that much worse. There is no reason for him to get angry over something silly like a TV show, and because he gets angry a lot with you makes me worried about your well being. It sounds like he has anger issues. I really think you need to remove yourself from this situation, because its only going to keep hurting you and making you afraid of him, and no little she have to be in constant fear of their daddy.

[MellyBoo19912015]

Ok right now you are not in a healthy relationship. He's mad because you don't know if you will like Lost? Seriously, over a TV show? Looks to me like he's being abusive and that's not a word I use lightly. Cutting yourself because he makes you upset by being mad isn't an answer. Believe me no man is worth self harm. Their are plenty of places that can help joy escape an abusive relationship. Womens aid for one.

 

You are a strong person and you do not deserve someone trying to pull you down.

[pyonchi]

My Master does the same; instead of screaming at me though, he keeps everything bottled up inside and ignores / talks to me like I don't even matter, then bursts into anger whenever he has the chance. Still, knowing your Daddy's angry "because of you" can make you feel like the worst person on Earth. I used to cut myself whenever he was angry, too, since we couldn't have a healthy / mature conversation without him bursting out crying (which I obviously blamed myself for). I understand how terrifying it can be to not be able to ignore him, it's perfectly normal to feel helpless in this kind of situation.

I know lots of people have already said it, but this is an extremely unhealthy relationship. I'm not here to tell you what to do, I wouldn't even have the nerve to since we're in a fairly similar situation-- that would be extremely selfish of me-- so this is only my personal opinion. Seems to me like your Daddy has not only anger issues, but stress issues as well; watching or not a TV show isn't something worth throwing a tantrum for, especially coming from a grown up adult. You can't control how people will react and feel about something you said or did; the only person you can keep control of is yourself-- this goes for both of you. You're not the reason why he's acting up; he's just using the current situation as a "reason" to let out his anger and bad feelings. Maybe he isn't even aware he's doing that, stress / anxiety can cause this kind of behavior, but it still isn't okay at all and very abusive. If you guys can't have a serious and calm talk about the situation (I know you already tried, but it's honestly the only way I can think of at this point), then maybe he doesn't deserve to be with you; especially if he really does blame you for his own actions. Don't ever put up with toxic people, you're worth so much more ! ! Be strong ! ♥

[Guest]

Vatis, I think that everything you've said points to you needing out of the relationship. I understand your attachment, but I cannot say enough how unhealthy this is for you. The undue stress and anxiety this is causing you will only get worse if you let it continue. You need to get out. Taking out his aggression on you constantly is not right, and in my opinion, he thinks only of himself and is not a real daddy. Please please please get out before it gets worse. You need to heal. Edited April 23, 2016 by Guest

[TigerCoolCool]

communication is key. if he's mad and you don't know why that's not healthy at all. I'll admit that i'm bad at expressing my feelings sometimes but if i'm upset and someone wants to konw i should at least try to explain if i have a connection with them.

 

I agree with the above though, i think it's time to get out. Esp if you are cutting as a result of his emotions. you don't need a permanent reminder of the pain someone else put your though when you look down at your body.

 

feel better! Be strong and assert yourself!!

[Jeffbax]

Vatis

 

Your post made me so sad. Relationships are about building each other up. Together you are stronger, you being with each other should bring joy and happiness.

We seek out this lovely dynamic to give us what we desire and need in our life. It sounds like you are not having any of these benefits.

 

Instead of happiness and support in dealing with lifes ups and downs it seems like your daddy is adding to the stress and downs.

 

Thinking of you and I hope you can see the strength of feeling in all the posters....how they are genuinely concerned and worried for your safety.

[daddyslilpeach]

If you don't feel good about it, and you sense it's wrong, get OUT. Sooner rather than later, there's only two outcomes. Good or bad. The latter being the most likely. 

Don't let him make you feel like you need to hurt yourself. 

 

Sending good vibes and hugs to you. It gets better, there's plenty of real Daddies out there who need love and don't want to get angry at you like that.