Kink Shaming

[GlitterUnicorn]

So I've noticed that kink shaming is something very prevalent not only among the vanilla crowd, but also among us. Being into Ddlg, I know that we're often judged and made out to be incestuous or pedophillic by people into other kinks. I also know several people into Ddlg who make the more intense parts of BDSM out to be some sort of taboo, which I just don't understand.

I just wanted to know everyone's view on inter-kink shaming. Not sure if that's what I'm supposed to call it but it seems like the most appropriate thing   

[Guest NYGuy]

Yeah you'll especially see a lot of people making wild claims about fetlife and how "totally gross" it is. The mind boggles. We're already into some fringe territory of interests yet they judge others. Pay it no mind and just do you as usual

[LolitaDaddy]

Good observation (yet so young), keep your eyes & ears alert.. there will always be some bias or variations of what is suitable or acceptable to others.

In general, "If you don't mind, it probably don't matter." See.. https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/8501-bad-reactions-from-the-ds-and-other-bdsm-communities/

Edited April 18, 2016 by Braddy

[northerndaddytobemaybe]

i think ddlg includes lot of variety in itself, those who judge it probably don't know much about ddlg? as some of it don't include sexuality at all from what i understand. anyhow they're not in your relationship, you are. so..if they like to badmouth things don't give a crap? lol. ppl should find relationship n partner that suits them both..general opinions are often given by those who don't know much or even less. lol

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

There will always be judgment in any community or interest. It's not fair to judge someone because they like something different or prefer other things. If you are uncomfortable with talking about it or don't want to bring it up, then just don't talk about it. Kink shaming shouldn't ever be a problem and everyone has a right to like what they do. That goes as well with assumptions about things. If you assume, you're an ass. We all live differently and experience things differently in life. No one is the exact same as the other, so why be mean to those who don't do what you do?

Edited April 18, 2016 by LavanderRabbit