Question for littles

[Guest weeniehutjr]

What's most important about a daddy?
Is care and love at the top of the list? Is it being financially supported?

What are the biggest things you look for when finding a daddy? What isn't important to you?

[Guest Shania]

Personally, I look for a passion for the lifestyle! I fell in love with it, and I look for people who are in love with it just as I am! ♥

That's the main thing I look for! ☻♥

[Guest weeniehutjr]

Thanks for the response! Passion is definitely a good indicator of what kind of person you're involving yourself with

[Sophie]

I think a dominant personality and intelligence are the most important things I look for. If they don't have that, it probably won't work.

 

Another really important thing is their age, I'm not into guys much older than me (for a relationship). 

[Guest weeniehutjr]

That's another thing I was curious about. I see a lot of big age gaps. For me, I feel a close-age relationship makes more sense. But it sort of contradicts itself at the same time.

[Guest]

If we're talking about a relationship and not just mere attraction, then:

 

(1)Intellligence

(2)Playfulnes

(3)gentleness/kindness

(4)Emotional stability

[Guest weeniehutjr]

What about attraction?

[Guest]

I'm exclusively attracted to Statue-ified Elvis impersonators

[Guest weeniehutjr]

I'll write that down, thanks! Hahahaha

[jellicle baby]

a daddy is for love and protection over all. i think financial support comes after, because littles are in actuality, adults who can be self-sufficient if the need arises, but some littles aren't super great at keeping themselves motivated, happy, and productive, which is where daddies come in. 

 

the traits my daddy has that i enjoy most are things like his level-headedness, self control, and logic that help me know what's best and he's not too impulsive like I am. He's strong physically, very caring, and protective which means he has the ability to punish me, and doesn't abuse his power because he cares so much for my well-being. he has no capacity for abuse at all, because he gets turned off and virtually sick when im not enjoying something or i'm uncomfortable. He expresses his care for me often, and shows me how much he loves me. we are very close in age, and i love these more-mature-than-i qualities in him. he also understands me and can relate to my personality and we have fun together. he treats me in a way that makes me feel like a precious gem. 

 

whats not particularly important is financial status and age, because certain personality traits can cancel out the downfalls of these facts. like, a mature 21- year old daddy doesn't have the naivete expected of a 21 year old. or an encouraging low-income daddy can help alleviate the problem of the difficulty littles have being self sufficient. 

[Nathlana Kittensoul]

The most important thing for me is a loving and compatible relationship outside of the DDlg lifestyle. If we can't be best friends and lovers without being Daddy and little, then our happiness will never last. The least important thing would probably be financial, I'm a kittencorn...kittencorns need to be spoiled but mostly with love and lollipops

 

 

That's another thing I was curious about. I see a lot of big age gaps. For me, I feel a close-age relationship makes more sense. But it sort of contradicts itself at the same time.

My Daddy is just 11 months older than me. xD

Edited April 15, 2016 by Nathlana Kittensoul

[Guest weeniehutjr]

Thanks everyone. Ducky, great points!

[Guest lilstonerassbitch]

I feel it varies from little to little. For me, what i look for in a caregiver is protection. There is something about knowing that my daddy/mommy/caregiver will scare the monsters under my bed off or hold me when im scared that makes me feel happy. Also its defiantly a bonus when im not in little space and we still can talk and have it not be awkward. They have to be accepting and be ok with me like spamming them with memes.  *insert super dank meme*

 

The biggest things i look for outside of physical appearance is dedication. It takes awhile to earn the title "daddy", "mommy", "caregiver" etc. If a person is willing to stick by me and get to know me then thats really rad. 

[Guest weeniehutjr]

I agree 100% on needing to be able to communicate well outside of little space. And wicked dank memes NEVER hurt

[Guest lilstonerassbitch]

tru. i can out meme anyone 

[Guest weeniehutjr]

Those are fighting words

[Guest pumpkinpatchPrincess]

Okay. Let's get started.

 

DDLG, for me, is about passion and love. I personally need my Daddy to possess the same attributes as a real father. I am a person who needs a lot of love and in this, He will get super excited about me and want to take care of me. I have had 2 Daddies; and I can tell you that my past was lacking attributes to keep me satisfied and desired to be with other people and get a Mommy, not to mention he had cheated on me several times (a cheating Daddy; not cool.). My past partner also liked to mess with my confidence and keep me sick, and decided to go party when I was ill in bed, with a possibility of death. The positive with my past partner though was that we lived together, so i would be able to be little every night, which was my bliss. My current Daddy encourages me to work on myself and wants to see me improve, which is something i never had before. He seems to love everything that makes me little as it brings us closer each and every single day. With Him, i feel as though i want to dance and sing and celebrate. I want to be little at all times. We even went to the point where, for my birthday, we had a princess pink themed party with my family! My mother even knows about our dynamic and is entirely supportive. 

 

The very important attributes are nurture, desire, love, passion and going out of their way to make their little happy. 

 

Also, for me, if my Daddy didn't like me in diapers, i don't know if i'd be able to handle it Diaper sanctuary FOR LIFE!

[Guest BittyKitty]

I agree with a lot of what the other littles said, with the most important being intelligence. Someone close to my own age is preferable, a few years younger or older is fine, as long as he is stronger than me in both big and little space. Another thing I find very reassuring, is a Daddy who doesn't put much emphasis on actual chronological youth, but focuses rather on the "age play" that is the core of DD/lg. I'm 26, I think that for a lot of Daddies, that's a tad above their age range, which is perfectly fine, I respect individual preferences. Outside of DD/lg though, I am still young, and still highly desired by traditional Doms solely for my age, and it doesn't make me feel safe or truly desired at all. A Daddy who considers the entire package and appreciates everything his little has to offer, is 100xs more attractive than one who will discard me when I'm 40 or probably even 30.

[Guest weeniehutjr]

Thanks so much for your response!

[xbabygirlbx]

I think a lot of "what makes a good daddy" is very personally for each little. For example, my daddy was (and still is) my boyfriend before we got involved in the lifestyle. Whereas others may be looking for just a daddy. But, for me at least, some qualities that I love in my daddy are that he's understanding and compassionate, but still knows when to be assertive/dominant. He's my support system and he's always there when I need him, which in my opinion, is very important for littles. The financial part isn't so important, especially when a lot of cute little stuff (coloring books, stickers, etc.) can be found at the dollar store or for cheap prices. It isn't about money, really. That just goes for me as we have a rule list with rewards/punishments and I get little stuff from time to time for being good. To me, the most important thing is to be emotionally supportive and help your little stay on track with rules, which for me, are mostly based on self care.

 

Good luck ^.^

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

The care is way more important then being supported financially. Its important to me that he is loving but can be firm when needed. But he absolulty has to make me feel loved. 

[little mae]

I think Honesty, Strong Work ethic, and compassion are at the top of my list.

I also think that a Daddy that supports All of me, is what I need...

And I am blessed with just That.

My Daddy is 16 years my senior, and we have been married 4 years and knew each other 6.♡

[Guest cookie_crumble_princess]

A daddy with patience and gentleness are at the top of my list, in addition to having a passion for me! I specifically say for me, not the lifestyle of ddlg. Its important for him to care for me and get just as excited to see me, talk to me, snuggle with me, and accept me, as I am  feeling for him. After all, I was always myself before I found out about ddlg. I'm a little girl through and through, my little is mixed in every aspect of my life. The constant questions I ask, my need to learn, all the little things I get excited about (this is why any CG for me must have patience). Gentleness is a major attribute. I need someone to rein me in, and redirect me sometimes, snapping and growling in a mean way will only scare me and most assuredly get negative results in the future.

 

I feel everyone is intelligent in their own way. Age makes little difference to me, be legal and I'm fine. Being funny and all that is not necessary. I'll fall in love with my daddy's character and devotion will no doubt follow. Finances aren't a big deal for me. I can say this is a 100% true statement from me, tried and tested. He has what he has, as long as he makes good decision then I'm happy. I don't want the world, just my daddy and all his goodness.