Needing advice

[Little Rivas]

My daddy says stuff that comes off mean without meaning it when im big me... And it will make me cry and he gets irritated that i cry because he feels like its something that i should not be bothered by... The thing is when he says the things he says it doesnt just bother the big me it bothers the little me... so i break down and cry and i dont know how to explain it. :/ any advice please

[Komorebi]

if you have told him that it hurts you and he has dismissed it than that is not okay. I can't really by someone saying something mean and not meaning when they get irritated that you are upset by it.  have you told him when things are calm that what he has said has upset you? if he still dismisses your feeling than it might be time to leave. no one has any right to invalidate another feelings.

[princesstianna]

hello! sorry to hear that. i hope you're feeling okay now.

 

i was in a similar situation, but i made sure to explain how bad it hurts and why. as a little we're very needy and vulnerable and even the small things can hurt us bad. so me and my previous daddy came up with a "diary" system. so when im feeling hurt, i just write it down in this cute little pink book or draw a picture and then show it to him. sometimes we talk about ti later, or afterwards but its a cute way for me to take the time and explain how i feel (little words or big girl words) and then it's there! not as a means of leverage and always going back to it to make my daddy feel bad, but as a reminder about you and how to act when you're in little space or just in general. hope this helped!

[xbabygirlbx]

That isn't okay... If you've told him that these things hurt you and he continues to say/do them, then he isn't being a very good daddy or person to you. If you haven't, then definitely explain further how it hurts you. If he cannot stop and will not, then it is not a healthy relationship to be in.

 

Good luck with everything, and hang in there <3