unhappy chores

[little mae]

I know I'm supposed to be super excited about my list of chores I get every day... but some days I am not so happy about them,.or happy to do them.

Does anyone else ever feel this way?

What do you do to help, and not want to cheat.

Good Girl but sometimes bad I guess...

♡

[sushishui]

I try to spend an hour doing absolutely nothing before I have to go to work. Because if I'm doing something I'm really excited about, it's hard to stop and go do something that I don't particularly want to do, but when I'm doing nothing and I'm bored, it's much easier for me to start working.

 

It also might help you to have a rule that you're not allowed to do fun things until your chores are done. Three or four years ago, I decided not to use my computer, phone, or TV for a month. I was amazed by how much time I had, and how much I got done.

[little mae]

Thank you.

I think the no phone before chores is a good incentive.

I'll talk to Daddy about that. Good idea.

Thanks♡

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

I'm pretty lazy, and even though I don't live with my daddy, I still have to do chores. They aren't fun. I do recommend that if there is a lot, maybe ask for a little help! Or have them keep you company while you do them. I know that always helps me. Though I cheat sometimes by having my best friend come over. She cleans the kitchen almost every time she does even though I never ask.

[little mae]

I Do think that the chores are a reminder of the love and link we have with our Daddys,and if we can find a way to be kept company by that thought, that does/would Help. Thank you♡♡♡♡♡

[Nathlana Kittensoul]

I know I'm supposed to be super excited about my list of chores I get every day... but some days I am not so happy about them,.or happy to do them.

Does anyone else ever feel this way?

What do you do to help, and not want to cheat.

Good Girl but sometimes bad I guess...

♡

You're not "supposed" to be anything. Being a little doesn't mean your desires are less important. This is your relationship too. If you don't like something or you don't want something then it doesn't have to be something you do, and no it doesn't make you bad. The point of DDlg is not for one partner to make the other do things they don't like. It's for two people who share similar interests to exchange power so they can do things they *both* want and like to do. My advice to you is to discuss it with your daddy. Tell him how you feel and what you want.

Now, if you actually want to have the chores but you're just being whiny about doing them, then my message doesn't really apply to you. I'll still leave it because it could be helpful to someone.

 

On a side note...I don't have chores. My Daddy lives in another country. I am 26 years old, I have 3 kids and 3 dogs and a full time job. So I wouldn't even have time for chores hehe

Edited April 10, 2016 by Nathlana Kittensoul

[little mae]

Thank you.

I Think, it's more of- these things are things I would like to get done, but I do not have the feeling I thought I would.... as in,,,I'm doing this for me Daddy and oooo, I like this now", I don't know if I'm making sense though.

I was expecting a feeling more close to a sub space, just because Daddy said so.

But- I think it's because my Daddy is to easy on punishment.

If he were to lay down the law, and punish if I do a notably half hearted job, then the feeling while doing the list, would intensify.

Anyway. ..

Thank you.

Yes,,it should be pleasing to us both, still working on that.

 

*~made me think~*

[pyonchi]

I absolutely hate doing chores too, it's so hard to motivate yourself ! > ^ <
Daddy and I live with a roomie who gets pretty angry when we slack on chores, so we absolutely have to do them.

Daddy washes the dishes, takes the dog out, cooks my meals during the week and takes the trash out, runs small errands.
I clean the cat's area, do the laundry, cook during the weekend, clean the dog's little gifts on the floor since I'm the first one up.

 

I know I always feel better when he keeps me company while I do my chores; also, I get tea after I'm done doing all of them! c: Physical/material rewards could be a good idea !

I try to watch an episode of a show I've already seen a thousand times before doing my chores. I get bored in middle of the episode so I'm actually eager to do my chores ~
 

[Nathlana Kittensoul]

Thank you.

I Think, it's more of- these things are things I would like to get done, but I do not have the feeling I thought I would.... as in,,,I'm doing this for me Daddy and oooo, I like this now", I don't know if I'm making sense though.

I was expecting a feeling more close to a sub space, just because Daddy said so.

But- I think it's because my Daddy is to easy on punishment.

If he were to lay down the law, and punish if I do a notably half hearted job, then the feeling while doing the list, would intensify.

Anyway. ..

Thank you.

Yes,,it should be pleasing to us both, still working on that.

*~made me think~*

Ahh sub space, oki I get what you're saying. I don't know if you live with your daddy or not? Encouragement can be helpful "I know you don't like doing dishes but be a good girl and do it for Daddy" if your Daddy doesn't like punishing. Else you could just tell him you're struggling with it and ask him to be more strict with you about it.

 

Good luck!

[little mae]

Thank you- you guys!!!!!♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

[lilfunlove]

Daddy and I use the ChoreMonster app. He has my chores on there, and as I get them done, I check them off on the app., and it notifies Daddy that its completed. Plus I get to earn points for rewards that Daddy creates on the app. Right now I have 50 points on there and I'm saving up for the Food Fight reward he listed on there (75 points). He's making me work for it though, he made each chore worth only one point. I'm so excited to have a food fight with him! It's gonna be fun!!   

[little mae]

This is a Really cool idea. Wow,neat! ( :

ThanksYa

[Guest DaddyXavier]

It really depends on your dynamic to be honest.

 

Some littles might just want happy chores/playtime and are not interested in the D/s aspect of DDlg. Others need the guidance and authority.

 

Unhappy chores I see are chores that are really chores - things you have to do, just to live, or to become a better person, but may be tedious or something you don't wanna do. I once had a sub who wanted to lose weight and get in shape. She was very, very heavy into discipline and protocol. So I gave her a chore; every day work out for an hour on Skype. If she refused, then we wouldn't have playtime when I went to visit, and I'd have her also sit in the corner. It was an unhappy chore, and she didn't like the punishments, but she liked the results after a year.

[Guest DaddyXavier]

Also I wanted to add: Consent is your choice in all things BDSM/DDlg/relationships.

[little mae]

I crave the authority of a loving Dd/lg aspect I think. He is starting to see that it actually qualifies as love to me.

The chores are things that are both needed, but extras that are not necessary.

So both. He makes a list each day... I do them, but I have not tested to see if he will really use the authority he has. And I Won't purposely test him, so maybe this is premature.

I know, once I see his dominate in this way, it will mean the world to me.And the chores and list will take on a (life) so to speak.

But I continue to try my best- so I haven't seen it recently.

A few years back I saw it, and it was amazing. .. but it actually scared me at the time, which caused him to back WAY up, which is not what I wanted in the end.

I've always been his little girl....

So I am lucky in many ways.

He's just ultra gentle and sweet.

And No, I'm not a masochist... so it's just like a child, needed, wanting that kind of love.

Sorry for the long winded reply.

~Mae♡

[little mae]

Most of the chores are extras..

And I thought I should add, I am very much needing a deep D/s relationship to be fulfilled. I think some people may think I take things to seriously, but it's just important to me as a person.

And All of these replies are giving me ideas to share with my daddy, so Thank You.♡

[Nathlana Kittensoul]

Most of the chores are extras..

And I thought I should add, I am very much needing a deep D/s relationship to be fulfilled. I think some people may think I take things to seriously, but it's just important to me as a person.

And All of these replies are giving me ideas to share with my daddy, so Thank You.♡

I would definitely encourage you to take things just as seriously as they feel to you

[TurtleTheKittenTamer]

Definitely. For me a relationship is about allowing the other person to feel comfortable enough to be themselves and to tell their partner how they feel, including if they feel like they can't express it -- but only if they want to.

 

When you feel like you can completely be yourself around someone, without pressure -- I think that's meaningful.

Edited April 11, 2016 by TurtleTheKittenTamer

[little mae]

Thank you guys.

 

I think a good heart to heart is in order.

 

And I know that he will ttake my words to heart.

He is a great partner, some things are just harder to talk about than others, especially being his little.

♡Mae♡

Thanks again●