How do I deal with other Daddys trying to get with my princess ?

[daddyzane]

So hey me and my little both use tumblr, she posted a selfie on her blog she said she needed some self confidence (she asked me before doing it of course) but now there are loads of guys messaging her and me. She shows me the messages and I tell them where to go but It still gets me worried. How do I deal with this ?

[Guest Mr TwitchPool]

If she tells you then she loves you.

 

That in itself should provide you with the confidence you need.

 

There will always be people who will want to step on toes and express their feelings online in life it doesnt matter.

 

Its if she didnt tell you then you should worry.

 

Reward her for telling you and laugh it off,  So long as she is posting things online you are allowing yourselves to be a victim of people who troll.  Of course how you handle it makes the difference.

[wolfdaddy]

I think you can rest assured that no genuine 'daddy' would ever want to get involved with someone else's little. In kink generally that's a pretty cardinal rule, as in good vanilla relationships too. Anyone chasing someone else's partner is a jerk, and hopefully your princess understands that. If she doesn't then that's your actual problem.

[XxDeadsetxX]

If people are messaging you guys. You shouldn't have to worry much. They're just jealous so you should be proud people think she's attractive. So ignore them and maybe even block them! You shouldn't have to worry about other Daddy's if your Princess loves you! 

 

(Plus, if she's attractive, you're gunna have to expect other Daddy's and other vanillas trying to get with her)

[Guest NYGuy]

She came right to you so always let her know how much you trust her and just ignore what 99% of thirsty desperate men try to do. Your little doesn't seem like the type to be whisked away by fakes and immaturity. Edited April 9, 2016 by NYGuy

[Guest sirdude77]

Sure fire way to control this: someone else hits on your little, say to her "you two would make a nice couple" then walk away. Watch her run to you.

If she doesn't, find a new little.

[LolitasDaddy]

I don't think many littles would appreciate being tested by having their Daddy walk away from them. The little hasn't done anything wrong, and surely hasn't earned a 'sure fire' test.

 

The Daddy in this situation should she she is doing the right thing, and trust needs to be built.

[sushishui]

I agree with LolitasDaddy. sirdude77's test is definitely a good one, but it's not appropriate to every situation. If you do that every time someone hits on your little, she's going to feel abandoned, like you don't really want her. I would only do that when it seems like she's genuinely interested in the guy hitting on her.

[Guest sirdude77]

If its an online issue, its not even worth discussing. In public, that might happen once and it wont ever happen again when your together.

[LolitasDaddy]

So you threaten to walk away because of your own insecurities? Real nice.

[Nathlana Kittensoul]

Sure fire way to control this: someone else hits on your little, say to her "you two would make a nice couple" then walk away. Watch her run to you.

If she doesn't, find a new little.

Seems kind of mean. It's not her fault other people are hitting on her. That would hurt my feelings if my Daddy did that to me. I might be a kittencorn but I'm still sensitive.

[Guest kyril]

I would advice against complicating your relationship by "testing" your partner. Trust is always important in a healthy relationship, don't play games with someone's feelings, instead be honest, learn to communicate, talk about your concerns and have faith in your partner.

 

In OP's case, you shouldn't worry, she told you, showed you the messages. That means she respect what she has with you, loves and trusts you. What you need to do is to calm yourself down even though I understand you don't like having other guys trying to be all over her, but return the trust and have faith she has it under control. Don't let things like these put pressure or control your relationship, it's not worth it.

[DaddysLolita]

 

In OP's case, you shouldn't worry, she told you, showed you the messages. That means she respect what she has with you, loves and trusts you. What you need to do is to calm yourself down even though I understand you don't like having other guys trying to be all over her, but return the trust and have faith she has it under control. Don't let things like these put pressure or control your relationship, it's not worth it.

I agree with this, she's showing you the messages, don't worry. If she were hiding them or talking to other people without your knowledge, be concerned. I think it shows a great deal of respect that she even told you. If her chosen route of confidence boosting starts making you uncomfortable, then you need to have a talk with her.

 

I disagree with the suggestion to walk away from her, that seems detrimental to me in this situation.

 

<3

[Guest DaddyXavier]

Sure fire way to control this: someone else hits on your little, say to her "you two would make a nice couple" then walk away. Watch her run to you.

If she doesn't, find a new little.

 

This. You respond the same way you'd respond to in any relationship.

 

Don't get jealous. Don't get worked up. Her actions > her words. 

[Guest StainedBlack]

I'm a little more possessive then other people, so take what I say with a grain of salt. First off, I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner posting pictures for praise from other men on tumblr. But she did ask you and you gave her permission. Also it sounds like she's showing you and talking to you about the messages which is great. She's not trying to hide it. Now you have to see how she handles it. Does she tell them to shove off? Does she ignore it? Or does she talk to them and humor them for attention? Communication is key. Don't be afraid to sit down and have a real conversation about how it makes you uncomfortable.

[Rain]

As someone who has been tested as Sirdude suggested I can say it can have a very negative impact on your relationship. In my case the relationship went from comfortable to toxic. I always questioned when he was going to walk away and if I was good enough. Granted in my case I went to him for help with someone who was hitting on me so slightly different circumstances but I'd recommend saving that as a last resort.

[Nathlana Kittensoul]

That kind of "test", for me, would probably be a deal breaker. If he thinks it's ok to hurt me emotionally to appease his own insecurities, then he doesn't deserve me.

 

Daddies shouldn't test littles, littles shouldn't test Daddies, husbands shouldn't test wives, girlfriends shouldn't test boyfriends. People in adult relationships should be open and honest about their feelings and work things out in a mature responsible manner. You shouldn't insult or devalue the person you supposedly love as some sort of test.

[TurtleTheKittenTamer]

I completely agree that testing is wrong.

 

Although I feel if it was done in a non-malicious way the other person should let the other partner know how they made them feel.

 

A malicious test would be a total deal breaker for me, some stupid test that was a mistake done for good intentions is different, I would tell my partner that I felt hurt and explain why. If not immediately then when I felt ready.

 

I would still consider all tests a mistake, hurtful, and unnecessary. They display a lack of trust. But whether it was malice or just insecurity would be different I think.

 

It's not like I would never forgive my little if she tested me when she was feeling especially insecure and then felt awfully guilty about it worried that I'd think I didn't trust her.

Everything is a grey area and there are no absolute blank and whites

Edited April 11, 2016 by TurtleTheKittenTamer

[TurtleTheKittenTamer]

Actually this has given me an idea to start a topic about "Deal breakers".