New to DDlg. Little needs help

[justaspaceprincess]

So here it goes. I found out about this lifestyle about a year ago and have spent the time looking more into if it was something for me. little did I know Ive been a little in hiding for years and only over the past 3 months have I kind of embraced it.

I'm 21 and I have a 1 year old daughter so I tend to go into little space while taking care of her though my little age is probably closer to a middle (I have no idea where little ages start and end) I still enjoy watching her shows, playing with her toys and being able to baby talk without feeling judged because well I'm a mom and that's what we do with our babies. But once she falls asleep I want to cuddle up with my blankie and color or just not be an adult necessarily.

Her father and I broke up and just recently got back together but hes not the caregiver type whatsoever and thinks the "daddy kink" is weird and is always telling me to grow up (its not the best relationship but I do it for my daughter) so I don't feel I could even bring up being a little to him.

 

I'm not entirely sure where I was going with this but I guess I'm looking for more people who understand this lifestyle to talk to. I don't know anyone whos into it because all my friends bash on girls calling their boyfriends daddy so I don't even feel comfortable talking to them about it.

 

Also are there and other littles out there in relationships with someone where they cant be themselves? how do you cope with this kind of relationship? because it drives me mad

 

I guess in a way I just feel lost going into all of this.

 

[SweetMarie]

Welcome to the forum justaspaceprincess! You've come to the right place While I can't speak to being a mother, I can certainly relate to some of your other circumstances and feelings. It's hard being a closeted little. Fortunately you're able to be a little playing with your daughter, and feel free to talk to all of us whenever you want!

[Mojojojo1978]

Hello,

I am new to this too. I just created an account here. I am sorry that your husband(?) does not understand this or is not the caregiver type of person. At least you came out to him and it's not a secret. Unfortunately I don't really have any advice that could help. But I am sure this forum will be your source of hope. And like SweetMarie said, at least you have your daughter that you can be a little with. I truly hope that you do find hope here.

[Guest Mr TwitchPool]

Firstly, welcome,  secondly well done for being brave and stepping outside of your comfort zone and expressing how you feel.

 

Your partner is entitled to his opinion, not everyone understands the dynamic, I know it is frowned upon.

 

I guess, I cant offer relationship advice, If he is not willing to accept it or embrace it or at least try it, then personally I feel you both may continue to drift.  So many people stay together for the kids, regardless, its not always the best, especially if you are unhappy.  then living your life in misery because you cant be who you want is kinda no way to live at all.

 

This is just my opinion though, I am sure others will bring further valid reasons to it.

 

As for you, I think if you choose to continue this path, you need to set time aside for yourself.  Whether it be colouring or watching kiddy film, having a nap or lots of bubbles in a bubble bath.  I say this because, I dont believe its healthy to repress what you are naturally.

 

Most important is you are not alone, any people ere can help but also can offer a friendship such as other littles who I am sure would love a new pen pal or someone to chat to.

 

Thank you for sharing, and please remember this is just my opinion, youu must do what you feel is best for you and the bubba.

 

God Bless

 

T

[sushishui]

If he is not willing to accept it or embrace it or at least try it, then personally I feel you both may continue to drift.  So many people stay together for the kids, regardless, its not always the best, especially if you are unhappy.  then living your life in misery because you cant be who you want is kinda no way to live at all.

 

This is how I feel as well. It's not at all fun being trapped in a relationship where you always have to hide who you really are.