Did I do something wrong?

[Guest Becca12]

My daddy and I were perfectly fine until recently. We would talk less and less because he was always so busy and I understood that. But he randomly stopped talking to me. No texts no phone calls nothing. Our last texts didn't indicate that anything was wrong. I can't help but feel like maybe I did something wrong? I tried to be as loving and understandable as possible even when we spoke only an hour a day for awhile. I don't know if I should wait and see if he talks to me or if I should try to move on.

[Guest]

First and foremost, no. You did nothing wrong. This often happens in relationships, they fade out, people flake. But for someone to totally stop talking to you, that is mentally abusive, cruel and wrong. This post could be helpful for you https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/7602-im-certain-better-days-are-ahead/?hl=gaslighting&do=findComment&comment=43852

[GlitterCritter]

Hey! There could be any number of reasons why your Daddy has stopped communicating with you... and it may not even be your fault! Sometime's a person's interests or feelings change... this is normal! Though sadly, it can be hurtful and leave others like yourself feeling lost when the other person in the relationship chooses to run from the issue rather than have an open discussion about what's going on...

I hope you find the closure you need! :c *hugs*

[tinykitty]

I'm sorry you're having to go through this   There is another possibility though beyond intentional fading.

 

I had a friend do this, he was busy so our communications got less and less.... until he just... vanished it seemed.  Our communication had dwindled prior too due to his busy life/work. When he vanished, I wrote and asked what'd I do wrong but got no reply.  About two weeks later, he wrote again apologising profusely.  

 

He hadn't meant to vanish and said no no no I hadn't done a single thing wrong.  He lives overseas and work had sent him away to work distance without warning and he had no internet at home that night to email to tell me and in the morning it was still out, and he just assumed "free wifi" at the inn meant exactly that so he figured he'd write there and we'd hang out and chat, but he never could get his phone to link up to even send a "don't worry, work" message anywhere he went, which would have let me know he's at a crappy inn somewhere.  He's not up to anything weird, he just can't get connection long enough to get his email open to even send "work" to me. 

[cutie_patootie]

Hi Becca,

 

I've been a member of this site for almost a year now and sadly, this is not the first nor is it the second time I've heard this story about a little being abandoned.  Regardless of why Daddy ceased communications, he should not have taken the cowardly way out.  He should have been completely open and honest with you, even if it hurt your feelings to hear that he was no longer interested in a relationship.  A little hurt now is better than being left waiting and wondering what happened.  Alas, it seems transparency tends to be lacking in relationships of any kind these days.

 

I hope your heart heals quickly but I also know how difficult (from personal experience - abandoned by a Mommy) it can be to have to deal with this kind of thing.  Should you feel the need, I am a good listener and I listen without judgement.  However, if you prefer not to chat, give yourself plenty of time to heal on the inside and on the outside before you consider another relationship... love yourself first. 

[Guest Becca12]

I'm sorry you're having to go through this   There is another possibility though beyond intentional fading.

 

I had a friend do this, he was busy so our communications got less and less.... until he just... vanished it seemed.  Our communication had dwindled prior too due to his busy life/work. When he vanished, I wrote and asked what'd I do wrong but got no reply.  About two weeks later, he wrote again apologising profusely.  

 

He hadn't meant to vanish and said no no no I hadn't done a single thing wrong.  He lives overseas and work had sent him away to work distance without warning and he had no internet at home that night to email to tell me and in the morning it was still out, and he just assumed "free wifi" at the inn meant exactly that so he figured he'd write there and we'd hang out and chat, but he never could get his phone to link up to even send a "don't worry, work" message anywhere he went, which would have let me know he's at a crappy inn somewhere.  He's not up to anything weird, he just can't get connection long enough to get his email open to even send "work" to me.

 

I'm really hoping something like this could be the reason but I just feel like maybe he was talking to someone else. It was a huge gut feeling I had but I decided to trust him. I'll wait it out but I'm trying hard not to keep my hopes up since it'll hurt more. Thank you for responding

[Guest NewYorkDaddy]

We'll see. It has happened to me a few times. I think it's easier to take someone not seriously if they're long distance and online. It is messed up but it happens. I suggest if you do move on and decided to be courted online, do so with someone within reasonable distance from your residence.

[arineunha]

I'm sorry to hear, some people do that when they're too cowardly and afraid to actually break up, so they kind of fade out and maybe they believe that it would be easier for you to deal with but actually it just turns out to be more hurtful. when you meet someone, you need to encourage them to talk about what's wrong but if they won't respond, it's time to focus on yourself and move on. i'm sure you'll meet someone else