Curious about clothes

[DaddyJ]

I'm curious about the significance of clothes. Specifically two things:

 

1. Do clothes help you get deeper into the mental space?

 

- Are there specific clothes that help you get into little space? or help you feel like a CG?

- Are there clothes your partner wears that turns up your energy? (aside from underwear etc which might be obviously provocative!)

- For littles, does wearing your big clothes ever make you feel little?

 

2. Do you have shared rituals or rules around clothes and getting dressed/changed?

 

- Do you like your caregiver to help you get dressed? or like helping your little get dressed?

- Do you have a say in what your partner wears?

- Do you have rules about what's suitable to wear at home versus in public?

 

I appreciate this is kind of a big topic, and I've made a jumble of questions.

I'd be really interested to read your response if any of these sparks something for you.

 

[LittleGlenn]

I don't have a Caregiver but I think I can answer some of them anyway!

Of course this is all personal and it differs for everyone.

 

1. Do clothes help you get deeper into the mental space?

Yes it does, Wearing something that's too large especially makes me get in the mood for ''Little space''

I might have clothes I'd be interested in trying but right now I am not that much into exploring it as I don't live on my own or have a Caregiver to share that experience with.

 

- Are there specific clothes that help you get into little space? or help you feel like a CG?

To be determine I guess? More exploring required!

 

- Are there clothes your partner wears that turns up your energy? (aside from underwear etc which might be obviously provocative!)

I think it would give me a boost to see her in a Caregiver outfit. And I'm sure it gives Caregivers a thrill to dress their Little in something adorable.

 

- For littles, does wearing your big clothes ever make you feel little?

As mentioned before, definitely yeah!

 

2. Do you have shared rituals or rules around clothes and getting dressed/changed?

I love the idea of my Caregiver to be in charge or at least have some say in what I wear. Even if it's just normal everyday clothing. 

 

- Do you like your caregiver to help you get dressed? or like helping your little get dressed?

The idea of my Caregiver dressing me or helping me get dressed? Definitely yes. 

 

- Do you have a say in what your partner wears?

I would give her compliments on her outfit and make her feel good about herself. I guess that that would be kind of part of my roll as a Little and as a partner.

 

- Do you have rules about what's suitable to wear at home versus in public?

You can't wear everything in public related to CG/L / DD/LG and I would like to pressure that you should never perform such actions in public. It's not fair for other people to be exposed to your kinks or kink lifestyle. Of course you can wear something that falls into the category of ''Little''.  I would suggest you go to event with other like minded people.

( Kind of the same as we are doing online. You wouldn't posts kinky dd/lg kind of stuff on facebook for your friends and family to see. Therefor we do it on a forum where everyone is ok with this interest )

 

 This is actually very important for anyone thinking of bdsm play outside the bedroom: Keep it stealth mode, because no one except you and your partner consented to see that

[kiaramoon]

we are still new to this but so far my daddy likes to pick out my outfit sometimes but for the most part he just picks out what panties i ware that day. i really like it when he lays out my outfit and tells me to go get dressed. my daddy is very slim so his clothes fit me ok they're not all that big on me. i always thought tho that a girl in her S.O.  shirt and then just panties whats the cutest thing. as far as clothes that put me in little space i love my kigarumi's(i think that's how its spelled) they are over sized and of cute characters, also anything super pink and girly. one of my fave outfits is my jelly saddles, above the ankle socks with lace a skirt jumper in pink denim, a vintage mlp shirt and my hair in pigtails. i really get into little space then. as for daddy i like when he has dress slacks and a button up on. that seems to make the punishment seem more intense for me.    

[cookiemonster]

May I come in and write some wordzzz

 

1.Do clothes help you get deeper into the mental space?

 

Heheh yess just thinking about going into my onesie makes me all excited and little. It's a rudolf but I wear it any time of the year whenever I want to. I even went to school like that with some of my friends and gave out christmas cards last year with my ugly hand writing and drawings. It was one of the best school days and I was giggling and jumping around all day. I had a reason and had other friends act silly with me to disguise my little-ness. So other people must have thought it was a special silly occasion but to me, that was the actual-reallll-happy-little-meeeee. I was able to and was allowed to be little in public all day that day.

 

Other than that, my go to little clothes include my elmo pj pants i wear every night or cow pj pants when it's colder. It's fluffier. I tend to forget about me being little and of course i cant be happy and excited every night but before I fall asleep in those pj pants and cuddling my big dog stuffie, i feel very comfortable and warm inside. I don't get those feelings if I'm wearing some sweat pants or shorts to bed.

 

Don't have a daddy right now, so not sure what he'd like me to wear or how he'd go about clothing. But hmm from my side, I find it very very very attractive when guys wear suits. I think it shows his authoritative side and it shows that he is proper. So that makes me want to follow him more and listen to what he says. It almost makes me kinda nervous(?) that I want to be good for him and I get the feeling that I can't act out.

 

Pretty interesting and I wanna hear more from other people:) Especially those who can answer the second question, I wanna see how this is taking pace in a relationship.

[Guest Jennyanydots]

Woah. . .so here's the thing. I think that the answers to those questions could go in any direction depending on who you are asking. If I knew more about why you were asking, I might be able to give you a more satisfying answer. So for now, some generalizations about clothing and it's purpose (aside from keeping one legally covered)

 

Clothing is meant to reflect the person within, but it can also work the other way around - the person can end up reflecting the clothing they are wearing. If you want proof of this, watch a makeover show. I, and I think many women, wear clothing that reflects how we are feeling at the time. There have been times when I was unable (we'll say 'unable') to wear decent clothing and my self-esteem plumited. We can't change the face god gave us (maybe some, with plastic surgery and body modification, but not really) but we can easily change our clothes to reflect our mood and to express who we are. Women's magazines are full of articles talking about how to dress to make yourself feel more confident, sexier, etc etc. There is a lot of BS in those articles because they are trying to sell magazines, but there is truth in the premise. "Clothes make the man (or woman)". 

 

Personally, getting dressed is a ritual for me. Much like putting on makeup - which is why it drives me nuts when people complain about makeup being a lie or an insult to women. It's only an insult when you wear makeup in a vain attempt to make yourself look younger than you are because you are trying to reach some impossible social standard (set by a screwed up patriarchal system and meant to make men feel better about themselves; men should also feel good about themselves, but not use women to do so). Makeup and clothing are a way of showing others who you are, or feel you are, inside. So at the store I take time to consider what clothing says to me about the person wearing it, make sure it fits well enough, and make sure it reflects a mood I think I feel often. I also sometimes wear clothing that will make me feel the way I need to feel that day - more confident on days I'll have to do something stressful, more childlike on days I am spending quality time with my child, happy clothes for sad days, thoughtful clothes for introspective days and bright, warm clothes on sick days. And yes, of course, different clothing, makeup, hair, etc. for play; AND in accordance with the role I will be playing. It makes a HUGE difference, in my opinion. I become what I dress as. Perhaps more for me than others, as I actively practice purposefully chosing my clothing. 

 

If it isn't something you regularly practice, I think you would be surprised by the effect it can have on you. I definitely recommend trying it out for a week or two. 

 

Not that I am a huge fan or anything, but Steve Pavlina wrote an interesting 2 part piece on "learning about fashion" where a friend taught him how to pick clothing that reflects himself. Worth the read if you have time. There's a link at the top and bottom of the page to "part 2"

 

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2009/12/learning-about-fashion/

[DaddyJ]

I appreciate your very interesting responses. I'm curious about this whole topic which is why I tried to keep my questions broad and didn't go into reasons for asking. I hoped if I posed it in this way I'd get a range of comments, including things I hadn't thought of. My expectations weren't disappointed, now the topic seems even more interesting :-)

 

On my first question, I was dimly aware of various functions for clothing (helping construct our identities, shaping our moods and desires etc) but was curious to find some peoples personal experiences of 'using clothes' specifically related to ddlg. I also wondered if maybe certain clothes could act like a 'superstimulus' and that there might be some commonality in which items turned up the energy (apart from overtly sexual/provocative clothing).

 

On my second question (I'm not in a relationship currently), I'd want to be involved in daily dressing routines with my partner, and also choosing/shopping for clothes. I knew there was an issue with being careful in public, so was interested to hear more about others positions on this. I also asked just to learn about any rules people may have or personal reactions about what clothes might mean within the ddlg dynamic.

 

I'd be glad to read any more answers on this topic.

[pyonchi]

1. Do clothes help you get deeper into the mental space?

 

- Are there specific clothes that help you get into little space? 
Dresses, skirts, or anything that make my legs show, for some reason. I actually just realized this!

- Are there clothes your partner wears that turns up your energy?
Black clothing always gets me. I wish my Master would wear classy/formal clothes, though.

- For littles, does wearing your big clothes ever make you feel little?

I normally wear the stuff I'd wear in little space during the day (excluding collars with bells and cuffs, obviously), so not really.

Wearing my Master's clothes with no pants on makes me a little in no time, though. c:
 

2. Do you have shared rituals or rules around clothes and getting dressed/changed?

 

- Master doesn't really help me get dressed since he's usually asleep when I leave for school/work. We do have a rule that says I have to show him my outfit before going out, though. However, I would absolutely love to have little to no power on the way I dress; I'd also love to go shopping with Master!

[Guest SUeB]

Nope. i wear grown up clothes all the time. Not the kind of lg that needs the "stuff".

[mrbobystone]

This was such an insight! I love how you broke down the topic and made it so easy to understand. Keep up the great work! agatha coat