When did you realize you were ready to be a Daddy / Mommy?

[Jay Gatsby]

I'm curious to know the responses of everyone's experiences to these intriguing questions!

If there's more to your story that you'd like to share, please feel free.

 

• When did you truly feel that you were ready to become a Daddy / Mommy , to take on the responsibility of a Little? 
• Was it a growth of confidence after research, in which you said to yourself, "I think I'm ready to take care of a little, to care for them and be there for them always!"   or 
• Was it a gut feeling in which you just wanted to dive and get the experience that way and take it as it goes? 
• (A follow up to the second question) Did you ever feel "truly" ready, or did you just feel that you were prepared enough to jump into it?

[HunnyBee]

Well, in all reality i guess it started when Bee and i started dating. I was there for her before her and i were even an item. I took better care of her than whoever was in her life at that point in time, it was very natural for me. That being said the very first time i ever saw her i knew i would marry her, but i never knew we would reach this point in our relationship, but i'm so happy we did. 

 

Before the thought of being in  DDLG relationship i told her that i wanted to carry her, to succeed more than i would in life, and that i would give anything for her to continue in life in a way that would benefit her the most. I drove her to be the best she could be, and reach her goals. For the first time in my whole life i coddled her, and felt like i needed to take care of her. I cared about her happiness, which has never been the case with me ever. 

 

one night, i told her, "You know, with everything i've done, You're my little girl. I've earned the right to call you that." I think that was the point in which i knew that she was my responsibility, and i knew that my little girl needed me, and that i needed to be there for her through anything, because i'm all she has. I love it, I love holding her hand and guiding her and constantly being there for her. I love it. 

 

When it comes to my little girl, i never really felt unsure of the feeling, even if i didn't know how to express it like i do now. i knew that my job was clear, to provide, love, nurture, and protect my little one. I've always been this way, even if i may not seem like the kind of person who would be in this sort of relationship dynamic, I have always been incredibly protective of her. That has to be my biggest, or one of my biggest traits as her Daddy. I have always known that i would always protect her from anyone or anything. 

 

Did i ever feel ready? no. Did i ever feel unready? No. My desire to protect her, to drive her, to be there for her, to make her all she can be through love, and caring, and protection made me fall into this. She loves where she is, And i love where i am. She's my little girl, and I think both of us have always known that, but just very recently found out that we could be this loving, this pure, and this in love with each other for who we are, and for where are strengths are. 

[Saki]

As a child you are looked after. As you grow up you learn to look after yourself. But there comes a point in your growing maturity when it is time to make meaningful decisions for other people, in whatever capacity. I knew pretty soon that I was not only comfortable with the weight of responsibilty this brought, but that I had a liking for it. I felt uplifted by the love and admiration it engendered. Before I knew of DD/lg, I knew I needed to be a caregiver.

 

I have a maxim to describe (genereally) my feelings about taking on the responsible role or caregiver: it takes broad shoulders to shelter a light heart. The light heartedness of those who depend on my broad shoulders gives me joy, hope and strength.

[sushishui]

I've administered a hypnosis community for almost a year now, which is where I met my last sub. She was having lots of hallucinations because her previous Dom wasn't as great a hypnotist as he thought he was, and she was very depressed because he dumped her, and she was extremely easy to hypnotize, so all of the abusive hypnotists that wandered into our community gravitated toward her.

 

So amidst all of this, I realized that caring for and protecting her felt better than anything I'd ever done before. I'm not sure if I'll find that here, but that's what I'm looking for.

[LosAngelesPapaBear]

I've been a teacher most of my adult life. I wanted children, but my ex-wife wasn't interested in having them. I attended a party with my 14 year old niece and one of the attendees saw something in me that I didn't know was there... I had never heard the term DDlg, DaddyDom, etc., before meeting her. This 18 year old tracked me down through the hosts. I had no idea what she wanted with me, but consented to meet with her. We have been inseparable since, and I love her with all I am, without expectation, judgement, or condition. I did not learn any of these terms on day 1, however. That grew out of our profound friendship. The more time we spent together, the more we wanted. I gave no shits about how we looked walking down the street holding hands. I fell into the role so naturally I didn't notice, but she certainly did. I am as proud of her as a Daddy can be. She makes me happy. I learned I was ready when she informed me there was a "label" for our relationship. It is currently asexual, and we are happy together. I have no regrets, and I would change nothing.

[DaddyJ]

I stumbled on the ddlg community about a year ago and immediately felt at home. I recognised that I've always been a caregiver/daddy dom but never knew the label, it was liberating to discover that others understood and wanted to share this way of relating. Actually it was a key to connect up many things for me. My pet theory for a 'root cause' is that I felt extremely secure in my early years and now find reward in giving similar feelings of love and reassurance to a partner.

 

I'd say I truly felt ready to be a CG for someone after interactions with the first person I really connected with from the community. In particular when they gave spirited challenges, I enjoyed meeting these and for the first time felt some confirmation of my competence in the role. Of course there is a range of understanding on what being a caregiver can entail. Learning never stops, there is always more knowledge and experience of the dynamic to be had, but I've a quiet certainty that this is what I am.

[DeepSpaceDaddy]

Great questions and great responses. Being brand new to this, I look forward to reading more.

[TurtleTheKittenTamer]

Me and my little just got ready together, it happened naturally... until I just felt like reaching out to her when she was feeling extra little and I googled for advice on aftercare, to help her, then I found this place and wanted to join up. So I surprised her with the idea and she loved it.

[WickedJax]

My first little introduced me to Ddlg actually, and we learned together. Now that I think about it, maybe I'm not quite ready, I certainly feel like I have a lot to learn about the life style.

[Big Red]

I have always had a interest in DL, so incorporated it in bdsm time from time if they were willing, it was not till one girl got so drunk after we had a session then a drinking game(I have a high tolerance :< ) that I was in a position to care for her the next 12-16 hours what with feeding her and having her drink from straws, back rubs, and assisted trips to the bathroom. I loved every minute of it! The next day she apologized but I reassured her that I did enjoy it. It was clearly different from standard bdsm and somewhat separated from the abdl. I then found at this time atleast, I was a caregiver. I dont think I would consider myself a Daddy till the first girl I was using various practices on wanted to call me Daddy (other then for sessions).

I always enjoyed helping others I care for, but this was a different dynamic that I got into many years back.

[Guest RedDragon]

I didn't know anything about Ddlg when I got into Bdsm. I think I learned about it on fetlife a few years ago but I didn't explore it. I've never explored it until now. I just didn't know anything about it so I had no idea that this was me. It's really fulfilling to me now because I realized recently this is where I belong.

 

I don't know why I'm drawn to it, or drawn to littles I should say. I just like it. And I really like knowing I'm going to be a Daddy and I just know that's who I am. Do I feel ready? Not exactly. Lucky for me I love learning.

[MommyLovesHerMinion]

• I had been into BDSM for a while, I enjoyed the petplay aspect of it and was actually a submissive with VERY high standards for a Dominant. I was very picky and not necessarily bossy but I knew what I wanted and felt like I could never find the one for me, I was always incomplete in a relationship so I found myself jumping from place to place. I stumbled upon a pup named Toshi, we became friends first and I realized how fun it was to be the "Alpha." Over time I built this urge for him to be mine, for him to see that I was the Alpha and I had the advantage. Learning alot more about the Dom/sub relationship first by him submitting to me and just through studies, he really was the one who introduced me to the MD/lb dynamic from a different point of view. I had known about it from the Littles point of view but I had never seen myself as a Mommy, I always wanted to refrain from having submissives even though they gravitated towards me. I am the adult in my home life, juggling and keeping a family together while continuing the pattern of being the one who has her head on straight I felt like I didn't want that in my sex life. Through him I have found that there are a plethora of different dynamics, I dont see myself as a Mistress that title has never sit well with me, Mommy feels right it feels like it fits. Of course I am still learning I will never stop learning because every little is different and every little requires something unique. So to sum it up I dont think I ever woke up and said I am truly ready for this , because you are never truly ready, its just something that fits. I enjoy the reward it brings me and my little. 

[AmadeusEx]

Actually, i just stumbled on tumblr (say that 3 times)  with a couple of ddlg blogs, and after a while following them (at first i thought it was just bdsm) i started to notice the ddlg aspects of it and my dick got confused, then i just embraced it and here i am now

[dnswd]

Started for me when I was really young, was 17 at that time and was fooling around with an older woman (yes yes I know its one of those graduate stories  ). I had a dominant personality and she introduced me to the BDSM world. She is submissive and was my very first mentor. Introduced me to others in the various lifestyles and I learned from all of them. Over the years explored found what I liked and didnt like. Time passed by and learned the various kinks, attending conferences and workshops (Rope was my favorite among all) and found that I enjoyed the D/s lifestyle. More time passed and again over the years saw that while I did enjoy the D/s lifestyle it wasnt the right fit for me. Honestly by this time I zero clue about DDlg, I guess it was cause of the friends I had and none were into that lifestyle (most of us were knotters). A friend's friend asked if could help out with an event and I got dragged in (had too much time on my hands at that time lol) as a volunteer for little's playground. That was my first exposure to DDlg and as they say the rest is history and continue learning about it. Though not so much as of late cause of my career and taking a step back from the lifestyle till I can get settled in again.

Edited May 19, 2016 by dnswd

[Guest ♪ ♩ ♫ ♬ⓇⓄⒷ♪ ♩ ♫ ♬]

i  honestly wasn't sure  about the term  or what DDLG relationship was Till  my gf  told me about it and  described Everything 

Which got me intrigued  since ive never  Took  part in  anything in that  Manner She Explained i Already act like her Daddy  protective Caring 

understanding and just wanting to please her any way possible just to put a smile on her Face its been 2 years in 3 months  And i Love my Princess /Best friend So Very Much Words Dont suffice  <3 <3 <3

[Angel(Daddy)]

Well to be honest. She came to me with the idea, but looking back I've Always been ready. Since meeting her I've always nurtured and cared for her, pushed her to be the best she could be. I knew as soon as we started to get to know each other she was the one I wanted to take care of for the rest of my life. It fits both of our personalities perfect.

[JayThaame]

It wasn't something I really considered until my last relationship. It wasn't specifically dd/lg, but a lot of the aspects of it where present. I've been interested in the life style, and was already being a DD without the actual title. So here I am now, trying to learn more.