Being around those who don't know you're little

[Baby Princess]

Hi there, I'm sure its something we've all struggled with at some point but does anyone have any pointers as to how to "hide" your little side when it wants to come out? I had my first run-in with this problem yesterday. I was with my friend who knows nothing of this lifestyle or my being a part of it and we were shopping and as soon as we got to the toy section I flipped and my little side came out. I tried to hide it and I did some but not well enough, she definitely thought I was being very odd. She took a snapchat, I believe for her boyfriend and said "we are in the little girl aisle" in a very sarcastic way and then I got excited about tsum tsum's and she said "I have no idea what those even are" again in a sarcastic 'I want the fuck out of here what is wrong with you' type of way. It made me very sad and I felt like I was in the wrong and I felt my little side was unvalidated. I know that isn't true and I talked to my SO and he assured me that its okay and I'll always be his little girl, but I still felt terrible about it and I just don't know how to completely hide that side when it wants to come out or how to feel okay about it when someone says those things that make you feel bad. Sorry if this is long or confusing, I'm just new to the whole aspect of being a little and I enjoy it highly but this was the first time I ever felt bad for it and I just want to see how others deal with this. Thanks 

[Silver_Lilly]

Hello! Um, I'm brand new, as in I JUST signed up for this site tonight, and I have never done any of this before, but I saw your post and I wanted to say something since you seemed sad. I don't know if this is wrong for this life style, or trying to hide it, but from a life point of view, I know what I am about to say is right. Your "friend" doesn't sound like a very nice friend. I'm not into age play, but I honestly love toys and toy stores. My friends all know this and don't mind, and are GLAD to see me so happy looking at new things and admiring toys.

 

A real friend shouldn't judge you for something that isn't hurting anyone, especially not so small a thing as admiring a toy. And a real friend definitely doesn't try to shame you, nor do they take a picture to send to someone else to help them ridicule you. I don't do any sort of age play, I just am me. I like cartoons and drawing, I like toys, and cute knee socks or thigh socks. I'm ridiculously happy over small things, and I will start bouncing up and down with joy. My friends all know these thing make me happy, and they're constantly telling me I'm "adorable" or "cute" for it. It makes them happy to see me happy. My friends don't live this life style or know about it, but just seeing me happy makes them smile, no matter what caused my joy.

 

I think you might want to consider how much of a true friend this person is, do they spend more time judging you and making you feel bad about yourself, or do they spend more time sharing affection with you and taking joy in your happiness?

 

Idk if that helps, but I hope it does

[acebaby]

i agree with what was said above! you don't necessarily have to be open about being a little, but if you really like these things, you shouldn't feel embarrassed or that you have to hide them from your friends. i love toys and toy stores, and i love tsum tsums as well, if any of my friends said anything about it i'd be hurt. it's not just about me being a little, it's just who i am and what i like. and it's not hurting anyone!

you do you, and find some friends who are more supportive :~)

[Baby Princess]

This was the only time she's ever made me feel bad about anything, she's been my best friend for years and has seen me and helped me through everything. She is one of the nicest and most caring people I know, and I'm sure she wouldn't have said anything if I had always been this way, but I've been away at school for roughly two years and only see her when I'm home. We still get along great but I have became a different person with different interests. Within the last 6 months or so I've explored my little side but only extensively in the last month or two. So me acting like a child probably was weird to her because I never did so before, I always saw her as the "immature" one honestly. I by no means think I need to drop her as a friend, I just think she found my behavior weird or abnormal because it's not the behavior she knows of me. 

 

I know you both said she doesn't have to have interest or even know about the ddlg lifestyle to be a supportive friend and I 100% agree with that. I still can't help but feel bad about it because it is a side of me I feel I have to hide, big me might walk down the aisles and think somethings cute but little bit jumps and runs around and baby talks and wants everything and I think thats why she found it odd. I appreciate your replies and I do know that regardless of anything or how she acted towards me, I shouldn't feel bad because it is who I am.  

[LittleBratMonster]

Hi there, I'm sure its something we've all struggled with at some point but does anyone have any pointers as to how to "hide" your little side when it wants to come out? I had my first run-in with this problem yesterday. I was with my friend who knows nothing of this lifestyle or my being a part of it and we were shopping and as soon as we got to the toy section I flipped and my little side came out. I tried to hide it and I did some but not well enough, she definitely thought I was being very odd. She took a snapchat, I believe for her boyfriend and said "we are in the little girl aisle" in a very sarcastic way and then I got excited about tsum tsum's and she said "I have no idea what those even are" again in a sarcastic 'I want the fuck out of here what is wrong with you' type of way. It made me very sad and I felt like I was in the wrong and I felt my little side was unvalidated. I know that isn't true and I talked to my SO and he assured me that its okay and I'll always be his little girl, but I still felt terrible about it and I just don't know how to completely hide that side when it wants to come out or how to feel okay about it when someone says those things that make you feel bad. Sorry if this is long or confusing, I'm just new to the whole aspect of being a little and I enjoy it highly but this was the first time I ever felt bad for it and I just want to see how others deal with this. Thanks 

 

Your friend wasn't being very nice. It's hard to deal with. I had to deal with it at work, but honestly, I don't give a shit what people think of me. Otherwise, I'll spend my life doing nothing that makes me happy because it might bother someone else. Forget that!

 

As long as you're happy, who cares what she thinks?