Losing myself

[Babyscarlett83]

Do you ever find that as a little you can devote so much of yourself to your daddy that you start to lose who you were before? I'm finding that I'm thinking 24/7 about my daddy and how I can please him, it's harder because we are in a LDR and have been for a year now. I'm going to start tonight with a pamper session and I'm going to look into getting back into photography, it's something I used to enjoy and I know if I don't do my hobbies and get back into my own life I will explode.

[Guest buddhagirl]

If you're Daddy is a good Daddy, he will want you to be happy and take care of yourself. I know that my Daddy is very proud of me when I care for myself when he's not with me. And, yes, I can get fixated on Daddy. It's understandable because I adore him, he's my rock, he's the most important person in my life and has such a huge influence on me, but I need to maintain some balance in order for our relationship to be happy and healthy.

[Guest Denver Daddy]

I'm new to this site, but not to the lifestyle. A real daddy is a care giver, not a user. Your needs as a little should be very high on daddy's priority list. If the little isn't happy, then daddy isn't happy.

[Guest starrflower]

I do this too. Maybe people who are naturally submissive would tend to revolve their life around their partner. But some daddies may also do the same thing. Finding a hobby that is all your own is a great idea! I know how important it is to feel secure within yourself. And to find that strength whether you have a caregiver or not <3

[LittleNerd]

I very much lost myself in my first DDLG relationship, and that was LDR too. It was both of ours first relationship with this dynamic.

We found we both lost ourselves in it, the dependency was huge and although that would be nice in a closer relationship, in LDR it just turned out to make normal life all that more difficult.

 

We're still friends but it hurt far far far too much not to be together when we wanted to be. I've yet to find someone for a close distance relationship, but I definitely think finding something that you can do on your own is a great idea. Plus, it then gives you something new to speak to your Daddy about

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I think it's important to set aside time for yourself and what makes you happy. Your Daddy should encourage that and be understanding of your needs. You are your own person, too