How it feels to be big

[wolfdaddy]

Hi all!

 

By way of a first post to these forums, I hope it's OK to use this space to share my experience of being big - what I love about it and why. I hope this might provide some insight into why this daddy loves to be one, and what he is getting out of his side of the relationship.

 

 

So here goes  

 

 

I love to teach you things. I've devoted so much of my life to learning and it makes that effort feel extra worthwhile when I can pass it on to you, in love. Knowledge hoarded is stale. In teaching you, the things I have learned take on fresh meaning and new life.

 

I love to show you an experience for the first time. I've seen so much in life, but you let me experience the newness of things again. In experiencing them together with you, I get to experience them for the first time again too. Plus now I'm experiencing them *with you*.

 

I love being silly with you. I spend so much of my life in a very grown up job surrounded by very grown up and serious people and you are a gateway into a very light hearted kingdom. You're the gatekeeper of so much joy for me like that.

 

I love protecting you. It makes me feel capable. It reminds me how secure I am in the world. And to give you, you who are so innocent and small, some measure of my power in your service makes that power feel sanctified and pure.

 

I love to make love with you. I've been some very exciting places and done some very exciting things, but this is emotionally as bright and burning as anything I've ever experienced. You are with me, and so little, and you are wanting to please. Your littleness, and the innocence and vulnerability and openness of that makes me feel ravenous. It brings out this fierce fierce yearning to consume you that is raw and aggressive. I want to overwhelm you. To take you far our beyond yourself. In your experience of that, I get to taste it vicariously through you. The surrender and freedom and honesty of it. And at the very same time I am awed and humbled by your openness and vulnerability. Your littleness makes me feel big. That's how it goes. And I want to wrap my arms around you and not just possess but protect, to celebrate that you are one of the very very rare ones that is capable of going there, in trust. I want to use you, and to celebrate you. Look at this gift you have. Look at how wanted and how pleasing you can be. The pleasure you allow yourself and in that, the pleasure you can give! There is a doorway in you that most people cannot walk through, but in you it is wide open. There is the element of the divine to this. I feel big. I feel indescribable gratitude that you complete an energetic circuit I cannot make on my own, for this is a place it takes two to reach. You are so, so special to me. A jewel far beyond price.

 

I love it when our souls celebrate together. In so many mystic traditions it requires a masculine and a feminine energy to come together into a oneness that contains yet transcends them both. Like many polar energies, the masculine and feminine call each other out, call each other into greater being, as they spiral-dance together. And yes, masculine and feminine are powerful energies to bring together like this - but daddy and girl, there is some extra mystery to this, some greater power again.

 

I love your trust in me. It makes me want to be the very best man I can be. Do you know that? You want to be my good girl. And because you are I want to be the very best person I can be too.

 

I love how affectionate you are. I need affection as much as you do. I may be big, and in many ways I may be strong, but without love it all feels so empty. I love it when you climb all over me, laughing. When you grab and wont let go. When you make me little gifts. And you are so open to love where so many bigs have closed that down in themselves. You are so good at loving!

 

I love that you teach me too. You are capable of things I am not. I learn them just by being around you. You change me for the better. You help me be more fully who I am. 

 

 

Here's the thing:

 

Your ability to be little makes a space for me to be big. That's how our gifts balance. 

Thank you.

From the bottom of my soul, thank you for giving me the gift of this experience.

[PrincessAngelique<3]

*heart exploded* I love how you wrote this. I'm sure your little is so well loved!

[wolfdaddy]

Than you so much! Sadly my last relationship ended a year or so ago, but we remain very good friends It's all good. Everything in the right time, right? Thanks so much for commenting!!!! It's lovely to get feedback.

[PrincessAngelique<3]

Right! I'm sure you'll find your perfect little soon!

[Guest buddhagirl]

Lovely, Wolf. You sound like a true and good Daddy. My Daddy is a musician so his musings may not be as eloquent, but they are beautiful and lovely to me. Here's a letter he wrote to me about why he loves being my Daddy:

 

My dearest little Princess,

 

I love being your Daddy because our dynamic manifests and protects trust in our relationship and in each other in a very powerful way.

 

I love spanking you when you need to be spanked, and disciplining you in other ways to make you feel safe and protected.

 

I love how natural and right it feels, and how it simplifies any problems or disagreements we encounter.

 

It feels like our own little secret, which is very intimate, special, and magical.

 

I love that as your Daddy you respect me, trust me, adore me, and listen to me. That you follow through and do what I tell you to do.

 

I love that you want to be a good girl for your daddy and that you want to make me proud.

 

I like being the boss. I like being the one in charge. I feel challenged and fulfilled by carrying that responsibility.

 

I love that I can do whatever I want to do to you and you not only let me, but you like it, and that it makes you feel safe and protected and desired and loved.

 

I love being your daddy because I get to help you confront old wounds/past hurts/insecurities and help you come face to face with them, and allow you to let go of them, making more room for joy and happiness in your life.

 

I love being your daddy because I know what conditions are best for you to thrive in and it is fulfilling for me to be able to create, maintain,  and safeguard those conditions for you.

 

I love being your daddy because I love my little girl and I want what is best for you, and you trust in me to know what is best.

 

I love being your daddy because it brings us closer together than I've ever felt with anyone before and I want that closeness with you in my life. I don't want this kind of closeness with anyone else, just with my little princess.

 

I love my little girl. You are my pride and joy. You make me feel very loved and very, very happy. 

-Your Daddy

[wolfdaddy]

Buddhagirl that was beautiful! Yes! I like the sound of your partner very much - what a man! That was beautifully put and *very* eloquent and he obviously gets it. That made me happy to read and I'm so pleased for both of you He mentions a few things here (the shared secret) that I feel too but didn't articulate, but yeah I *totally* resonate with this. Thanks

[Guest little domi]

Awww... Reading through this post made my little heart flutter. Thank you!

[Guest itsbabygirlbean]

This is beautiful, wolfdaddy!!!

[LittleBratMonster]

Wow, very beautiful. Excellently written. You will definitely make another Little happy eventually.

[MeowShy]

I feel like you know what a little really wants and you put it better than I ever could have! 

[Jaydotso]

Great writing! Thanks for sharing! Everything I aspire to be as a Daddy and exactly why I want to be that special person for a little one. 

[Gigglez]

Wooooow!!! A quick glimpse into a daddys soul!!! That was amaaaazing....ty so much for sharing!!!!

[Guest WolframSRC]

That was beautifull. Seemed very honest and from the heart.

I'd like to add some things, that i feel should be said:

 

I love to teach you things. 

I hope you will avoid from the mistakes I made and set out to make your own mistakes, which we can overcome together. 

 

I love to show you an experience for the first time.

Your view makes me reevaluate my own and creates whole new experiences that only the two of us share.

 

I love protecting you.

It makes me feel needed and wanted, giving me a place in life I would be sorely missing without you. 

 

I love to make love with you.

Dear god, that was so beautifull, it brought a tear to my eye.

 

 

Thank you for sharing wolfdaddy, it is an inspiring text and makes me want to improve myself.

[Papa_Mamihlapinatapei]

Ty for the post wolfdaddy, You expressed emotions very clearly, and it was educational.

 

This is how I would/will like to feel, excellent.

[A&Ω]

Wolf daddy- Awesome!

 

Your post is so eloquent and articulate. Very nice post. We'll spoken. You've brought to light some desires I have but hadn't identified. You made them real. Thank you from the bottom on my soul. Namaste *pranamasana*

[Guest curiousangelita]

i realllly needed to read this! sometimes i wonder what it would be like to be a daddy, and how they feel about the whole dynamic ... 

& this summed it up & more!!

[Guest RedDragon]

How am I just reading this!? This is sooooo great.

 

My favorite part...

 

I love your trust in me. It makes me want to be the very best man I can be. Do you know that? You want to be my good girl. And because you are I want to be the very best person I can be too.

 

This is the hidden truth of why I'm so drawn to Ddlg. I crave someone who wants to be the best little girl she can be. Who trusts in me to help bring out her best. And who trusts that I am also working to be the best Daddy I can possibly be, for both of us

 

 

Also from buddhagirl...

 

I love how natural and right it feels, and how it simplifies any problems or disagreements we encounter.

 

Today a co-worker told anyone who would listen how frustrated he is in his marriage. He's constantly under house arrest by the force of his own wife. He seemingly can never do anything right in her eyes. It sounds like nothing short of a disaster. IMO, structure is severely lacking. I cannot live my life under any similar terms. Being a Dom or Daddy Dom is a serious responsibility, one that involves constant attention and preparation. When there are no clearly defined or agreed upon roles, chaos can inevitably ensue. I believe in the harmony that is yin and yang, Dom and sub. This is why vanilla is my least favorite flavor. It is too easily compromised.

[littlelili]

WolfDaddy this is absolutely perfect

I needed to read it, it gives me hope.

[M-Felicity]

WolfDaddy~~~

 

I loved the posttt!

Now I better understand daddies :3

and I hope my fitire daddy will be like youuuu!!!~

 

Shank you for the pooost! 

 

xx Mia

[Guest AelaPiggy♥]

*heart melting* aww. what a lovely post.

[MadameButterfly]

Such a beautiful post.

[kissingkitten]

@wolfdaddy That description is beautiful. It makes me happy inside to hear that being a daddy's little gives him all these good things. It helped me understand what i do as a little is important. I like how it gives him space to not just be with other bigs and that he WANTS that. I hope you find your special little soon.

[Sarah889]

Daddy Dom - That was beautifully written. Beautiful post.

[Ariel_Anne]

This is so adorable! Your little (or future little) must feel so loved and spoiled! 

[Guest WendyBaby]

Honesty can be seen from the way you wrote this article.

Really love this.