I Believe I Am A Switch But There's An Issue

[John]

This is going to be a very short topic, I just want some assistance on this. I'm currently in a DDLG relationship and I take on the role of them dom, but just recently after my little pinned me down as a joke and I played along with it, I realized that I, at some times, would also like to be submissive to someone, the only issue is that my little wouldn't ever want to be a dom, I've hypothetically brought up her being a dom and she thought it was really funny I'd even bring anything like that up. I would like to remain in my relationship with her, but it becomes hard to be a dom when I'm in "little space".

[IkumiKao]

I have the same problem right now. Im a Switch, im a Daddy but also a little. my little is 100% a sub and even the idea of daddy being a little really upsets her. what makes it harder is that we are monogamous, we see it not only sexually and romantically but emotionally the thought of someone elses embrace on our partner is sickening even if it was only platonic or minimalistic. We are still sorting this issue out but its looking like I will have to keep that little side away from her completely and anytime ive been cutesy with her as her daddy is now to her as a little very confusing and feels like its mixed in now, she needs that distinction, so its really hard when the little isnt a switch. she is made aware of that side but i need to keep it away from her so she doesnt get confused and upset by it, she is a full time little after all, and a quite young one (mentally), Might have to find a really good friend that would care for me in a vanilla? way but then make them aware of what a little is and that it is what i am, which is why i need that nurturing etc. I know this doesn't really help your scenario but maybe it gives you some ideas? or hope, you are not alone <3.

[Guest Elencha]

Hmm. I don't know if this is helpful or not, but from the perspective of someone who, like your little, apparently, wants absolutely no part of domming, maybe leaving off the switch label would help. Maybe simply couching it as "Daddy needs you to take care of him, sometimes" would be more appealing than "Daddy wants to be the little sometimes." I mean, even those who are very adamant about being submissive and nurtured understand that daddy can't be Superman ALL the time. We just don't want to feel like we're gonna have to find daddy a daddy of his own, ya know?

 

Just my two cents, spend it if you can...

[Fluffy]

I'm a Switch and my Little is well, a Little. While she's capable of fulfilling Mommy Dom behaviors, it's not something she likes doing all the time. However, one thing we can do, is both of us enter Littlespace at the same time. I call these, "Little Playdates." During such playdates we both experience littlespace together. Sometimes we both take advantage of not having a Daddy/Mommy tell us what to do and we break rules and act all rebellious. Now, naturally there is a wrong and a right way to regulate this (as rules are there for a reason), so this is something that requires a good amount of conversation before implementing.