Good girls need attention too!

[dariachick]

In this and in many other facets of D/s the brat persona is one that quite a few people fall into, they brat to get their way, or to get attention. A lot of a CG's time is spent somehow managing behaviour. So it seems as if brats get lots of attention.

 

But what about good girls? You know the ones who once given a rule or a task do everything in their power to do it. Do they get attention too? And if so how?

 

Please tell me is it true that only squeaky gears get the grease or do good girls get attention too?

[Guest cookie_crumble_princess]

I would like to know this as well. I basically fall into the good girl category and will happily/not happily follow a rule once set.

[Bart]

Of course! I'm a firm believer of positive reinforcement. Rewarding good behaviour is fun for all, and strengthens the will to be a good girl

[Guest littlebitty]

Brilliant topic! I am tired of hearing about bratty behaviour to be honest....what about the girls that are good girls ?doesn't mean we are easy, push overs just means we are very submissive and loyal to our daddy's/doms/masters and to be honest I literally would not dare mess around with bratty behaviour and my ex Sir.....oh no no!!! Or even my current daddy.

 

I can happily say I follow my daddy's rules, he has final say and I get full love, support and I get awesome thoughtful gifts and surprises, he pushes my boundaries and I get amazing orgasms so what else do I need? I can happily say as an actual parent myself you get more out of a child (or little for that matter) with positive reinforcement then anything else.

[DaddyJ]

From my point of view, a CG most likely has their partner in their thoughts all the time (even though other demands and responsibilities will get in the way). It's not a question of only paying attention if they're being noisy or unruly! 

 

I don't think you can say one type of persona will automatically get more attention than another. The different styles within the dynamic will impact how time is spent, but not necessary the amount of time spent together.

 

Personally I don't have a strong preference for good girls or brats, I think it's only one consideration among many, people are so different (I recognise that some do have a preference one way or the other). There is no special trick required for good girls to get attention - just sharing what they've been doing or thinking or asking questions should be enough. 

 

I also agree good girls aren't push overs, they can still question rules or challenge their CG in different ways it's just the style of play isn't so obviously antagonistic. And I'd say giving rewards for good behaviour is fulfilling for both.

[Guest buddhagirl]

I am not a good girl or a brat--I am just a little girl. Sometimes I'm really, really good, and sometimes I'm pretty naughty. I definitely get more attention when I'm naughty, but that makes sense. My own children get more attention when they are misbehaving than when they are being angels. Daddy knows that I misbehave for two reasons: 1) I'm feeling playful but am doing it in a naughty or inappropriate way, 2) I'm feeling insecure and need attention, love and reassurance. He will stop whatever he's doing to address bad behavior, but not always for good behavior. 

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

Absolutely! I am a bit cheeky but most of the time, I am a good girl. Daddy makes sure I am rewarded accordingly. Positive reinforcement definitely works better with me.

[alpacaprincess]

This is an awesome topic! I myself am a good girl 95% of the time, and I never act out/misbehave intentionally. I try really hard to behave, but being a little girl, it is hard sometimes! If I felt that misbehaving was the only way to get attention, though, I would probably act out more, if only out of frustration. Positive reinforcement works MUCH better for me!

[Guest littlebitty]

Love some of these comments! I think alot of the reason this may have been bought up as a topic is that there appears to be alot of topics on a few ddlg sites and social media about bratty behaviour recently.. It made me think how many littles are just good behaving submissives?

 

I think like anything your mood fluctuates and that determines your daily behaviour and its down to what the dominant will actually deem appropriate to punish. Like I said my previous and current partner made it clear I simply wouldnt be allowed to behave 'like a madam' . And I agree there are always reasons behind acting out...some people genuinely do enjoy that type of dynamic.I just was encouraged to 'use big girl words' to explain and ask for what I need. And its difficult sometimes.

I just think its refreshing to hear theres plenty of littles who are sweet and behave themselves and are getting lots of positive praise from their care givers.

I have a question how many good girls are actually pretty fiesty in their adult lives? Anyone?