How to encourage DDLG to boyfriend?

[バニーポム]

Hello I'm new here so I hope I'm posting this in the appropriate part of the forum.  <3 

 

So me and my boyfriend have been in a stable relationship for over a year. I have been interested in DDLG for quite some time but I haven't exactly fully introduced it to my boyfriend yet and don't know how to go at it exactly. We have a 6 year age gap between us, him being the oldest.

 

When it comes to intimate moments, we haven't gone the full way yet as we agreed that for now at least yet I would still like to introduce some vanilla play. He is aware that I am into having a dominant partner and I have briefly mentioned having a daddy kink as well. I jokingly asked him to let me call him daddy but he said it sounded a little awkward. (Maybe there's alternatives to the word 'daddy'?)

He did show interest in light BDSM and spanking.

 

Lately I've been looking up more about DDLG and I really wish to try it, I mean so far I would like it but the issue is how to explain it to him without overwhelming him.   

 

Any help would be greatly appreciated!   

[Guest Daddy995]

Well this will be my first post on this site , so i hope my answer will be of at least some help. 

 

First of all, the fact that you 2 have been together for a year allready should mean that u are really close and can share anything, so bringing up DDLG shouldn't be awkward. But i mean u can ease into it, like just call him daddy at times, and act like a lil girl , and see if he's into it. Saying u have a Daddy kink and actually putting it into action are 2 different things. He said it feels awkward to him , but that doesent mean he doesen't like it. It'd feel awkward to anyone at first , even if they love the thought of it.

 

Secondly, i think u should be more straight forward and open about it. Don't worry about if he is into it or not , just be like ''Daddy, i want to be ur lil girl''. When i read that you don't want to overwhelm him i laughed, cause I was worryed about the same thing with girls. Like would she see me differently if she knew how much i love DDLG? But you shouldn't keep that side of u bottled up just cause of these thoughts, or u'll never really enjoy ur sex life. I can speak on behalf on the male gender that we won't get overwhelmed, we will get excited if a girl brings up kinky stuff and wanna do it, the only difference between guys is how we'll react. Some may be awkward about it, while others may embrace it immediately.

 

That's it from me, I hope it helped at least a little, and that u'll soon have a loving, caring daddy =) 

[バニーポム]

Well this will be my first post on this site , so i hope my answer will be of at least some help. 

 

First of all, the fact that you 2 have been together for a year allready should mean that u are really close and can share anything, so bringing up DDLG shouldn't be awkward. But i mean u can ease into it, like just call him daddy at times, and act like a lil girl , and see if he's into it. Saying u have a Daddy kink and actually putting it into action are 2 different things. He said it feels awkward to him , but that doesent mean he doesen't like it. It'd feel awkward to anyone at first , even if they love the thought of it.

 

Secondly, i think u should be more straight forward and open about it. Don't worry about if he is into it or not , just be like ''Daddy, i want to be ur lil girl''. When i read that you don't want to overwhelm him i laughed, cause I was worryed about the same thing with girls. Like would she see me differently if she knew how much i love DDLG? But you shouldn't keep that side of u bottled up just cause of these thoughts, or u'll never really enjoy ur sex life. I can speak on behalf on the male gender that we won't get overwhelmed, we will get excited if a girl brings up kinky stuff and wanna do it, the only difference between guys is how we'll react. Some may be awkward about it, while others may embrace it immediately.

 

That's it from me, I hope it helped at least a little, and that u'll soon have a loving, caring daddy =) 

 

 Well, he constantly says that I act like a little girl already and teases me about it a lot already. ^u^ The reason why I worry is because due to a past experience I am super paranoid about losing people I care about so I am very wary of my actions or words, even small things, as I don't want to lose him like I lost my friends who were literally sisters to me and the first people I really had a bond with. 

[Guest Daddy995]

 

 Well, he constantly says that I act like a little girl already and teases me about it a lot already. ^u^ The reason why I worry is because due to a past experience I am super paranoid about losing people I care about so I am very wary of my actions or words, even small things, as I don't want to lose him like I lost my friends who were literally sisters to me and the first people I really had a bond with. 

 

 

Well I get that, but you have to take risks in life. If you just play it safe you will never be trully happy. I can see u really want to do DDLG with him, otherwise why would u ask a bunch of strangers on a forum about it ... So be a brave lil girl and tell ur daddy about it!

[バニーポム]

Well I get that, but you have to take risks in life. If you just play it safe you will never be trully happy. I can see u really want to do DDLG with him, otherwise why would u ask a bunch of strangers on a forum about it ... So be a brave lil girl and tell ur daddy about it!

I just need to have/make/create the perfect time/setting for it now hmm ...   

Thanks a lot for your replies! I would have never imagined myself discussing something like this on a forum but now I'm glad I have! 

[jellicle baby]

you should be able to share anything mostly, so bring it up again in detail and ask him his thoughts. he might warm up to the idea, and he might not. in the end, you can't decide what he feels comfortable with.

[teddybearprotectionspell]

My partner and I started experimenting with impact play over a year ago (at my request) and the last few months we started more of a ddlg dynamic. There's been a lot of bumps in the road along the way but it's all started to feel less stressful since I decided to work on enjoying the journey instead of fantasizing about my "goal" for our relationship. I've started acting more little when I feel it and over time he's picked up on cues and he'll naturally just act more "big" in response. Like sometimes he'll come home and I'll be coloring and watching cartoons and at first he seemed kinda surprised but it's just become a normal thing For me, being patient has been most important and sometimes the vulnerability I feel while trying to have a frank discussion on the subject makes me feel even more little, so that can be fun! Lol