Long enough to plant the idea, then poof.

[Mr. Walden]

Hi everyone,

 

Well, a little background first... I met my little just 2 short months ago. I have never been in a ddlg relationship before, but the second the idea was introduced, I embraced it entirely. She was perfect... adorable, sweet and loving. She looked up to me with awe and admiration, and I felt like I finally was able to feel "warm fuzzies" again (was emotionally numb as a result of a toxic past marriage). I digress...

 

The loving, care giver dynamic was the missing piece to feel normal again. Being totally new to the ddlg lifestyle it was very awkward due to my previous misconceptions and rash judgements of this "taboo" topic.... but once I grew comfortable with my little's desires... I felt like I finally figured out what I was missing in my life. I was her everything, and put in that "roll"... she was mine.

 

Well, life has the tenacity to keep moving forward despite yourban protests. Due to things outside of my control, I am going to have to move across country permanently. Well, there we go. I finally figured out the type of relationship that makes me feel complete, and now I have to start from scratch. Crap. We still talk online, but I'm not naive. Long distance relationships never last, especially if there isn't a possibility of reunification. And, let's be honest... "our" community is relatively small, and for us old school types a relationship with our physical presence isn't a real relationship at all.

 

Sorry for rambling... I know, I know... plenty of fish in the sea, yaddayadda. I hope to meet another girl with the same desires in a relationship, but I'm not going to hold my breath. Oh well. I guess my first question on this forum would be.. how many of you out there actually have a physically present relationship with your little/daddy? Are most of the ddlg-minded people out there destined to accept an online relationship? Any advice? I'll be moving to a new city, with no local connections, and being still new to the ddlg dynamic, i have no idea where to start building like-minded friendships.

 

In any case, I am very excited that I came across this dynamic, and grateful there are people out there like me who can express themselves in a forum like this. Take care, have fun and be safe, friends!

 

WF

[doll face]

Thankyou. Sweet post. Sometimes it just not possible to be in the same vicinity as someone you like. Don't loose touch with your little though as you both have and had so much love

[DaddysLolita]

I guess my first question on this forum would be.. how many of you out there actually have a physically present relationship with your little/daddy? Are most of the ddlg-minded people out there destined to accept an online relationship? Any advice?

We have a LDR with an occasional presence in the real world. From what I've seen around the forum, a lot of relationships are online but there's more than a fair share that are living together.

 

The biggest advice I can give is to find out what kind of relationship you need. Some people are comfortable with online only. Some are not and need physical presence as well.

 

Personally, I need physical presence. Online only is not for me.

 

As for finding new people in your city, I don't have much advice on that as I don't know how to find people in my city either >_<

 

<3

[jellicle baby]

my daddy is in my physical life. we've been together almost four months now. i met him here in real life and introduced him to this dynamic. he warmed up to it immediately and is the world's greatest <3

[Honeybun]

May I ask where you're moving to? Some areas of the country have higher concentrations of littles than others, but you really just have to look around for them! However, long distance relationships work when a good amount of effort is put into them, and a whole lot of trust! It's up to you if that's the kind you ultimately want though.

 

Either way, good luck! And have a safe trip to your new home.

[StarEyed]

Never say never. You should really try to stay optimistic. There are a lot of naysayers to online friendships and relationships. And a lot of people say that they aren't real relationships. But I've had several successful attempts with at least online friendships with people from around the world. (I even fell in love with someone from another country but that didn't end well) Saying that it won't happen or won't work sets yourself up for it not to work. Yes it takes time to plan meetups but you have to enjoy the time that you have with the person you're talking to whether it be in the flesh or in text. I suggest finding someone that lives within a reasonable driving distance from you though that way you can still visit them fairly frequently. Get skype or another instant messenger and set up regular times when you can see video feed or voice to voice chat. I think actually talking voice to voice helps a lot. It changes the relationship from just a random person behind a computer to a flesh and bone person just by hearing their voice. Those are just my suggestions though. I wish you lots of luck  

[BestMate22]

Hey,

 

I wouldn't give up on your relationship yet. I'm in a LDR with my little. (I live in the UK and she lives in the US) and she's perfect. I'd obviously love to live 10 minutes from her but considering all the things that could be wrong with a relationship living far away really isn't a big deal in my opinion. Trust and communication is huge in an LDR though. We skype nearly every night and are in constant communication via kik during the day.

 

We are currently saving up to meet one another and it's something that motivates us both. The connection I feel with my little over the internet is more than I could ever feel with a vanilla partner.

 

My advice would be give it your best shot and see what happens.

[Guest buddhagirl]

I'm very lucky that my Daddy is also my husband. We know we are super fortunate to have found each other in the city where we live.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

My Daddy and I have an in real life relationship. My Daddy and I did not start out with a ddlg dynamic but it grew into one.

 

I think that when you find the right person, you have the ability to introduce this dynamic to your partner.

[バニーポム]

Your story is so sweet yet I admit, I had to hold back some tears. Getting separated from someone you love, the deprivation that comes after ... it's never a nice experience. Yet I really hope you succeed in finding that special someone in your new location, everyone deserves to lead a happy life so don't give up!   

As for me and my partner, we don't live very far away so we do meet up every week even though he's busy with work and I am busy with school.  <3 

[Littlest_Lushie]

My Daddy and I share an entirely in person, physical relationship. We had met online, he turned out to live 15 minutes from my hometown, which at the time was an hour away. Within a matter of weeks, we were seeing eachother everyday that we possibly could and a month or two later I moved into his apartment with him and his 2 roommates. We started out as a vanilla type thing for a little bit, but that soon turned into more when we discussed what we were into and I showed him the wonderful world of dd/lg. We'll have our 6 months in about 4 days from now. 

 

It seems like an LDR is something that you just aren't interested in. And thats okay, long distance is not for the faint of heart and not everyone will agree with that. Dating sites seem to always have a search option, theres a personals forum here, FetLife is good for events (but, is hit or miss site for a lot of people, as a little in the ddlg dynamic I find it difficult to find other people near me to connect with because I do live in a smaller area,) or you can also just try vanilla dating at first. There is literally nothing wrong with, and people even may encourage that you start as a vanilla couple first! 

 

All hope is NOT gone, and I'm sure its scary feeling like you lost this lovely little and moving is always rough. But, even speaking with her online couldn't hurt, you could still try to facilitate the warm fuzzies and continue to learn more about this dynamic as good/loving friends.