My Little just wont open up to me and i feel useless ?

[TattooedDaddy]

I have been struggling to get my little to communicate more with me. She has a strong tendency to withdrawal and not tell me what is bothering her when i know she is sad. I try to take it very easy and gently try and coax her to open up more , "baby steps" if you will but nothing seems to work and I feel useless and that I am a bad daddy. I do everything I can to make her happy but its heartbreaking when she wont ever tell me whats wrong. I am desperate and its killing me to see her in pain. What can i do? Any suggestions?

[LadyPuff]

I struggle with things like this, sometimes. Not all the time, though. Daddy works with me.

I think it would b most important and helpful for you to talk to your little, when she's not upset. Tell her how Important it is for you and your relationship that she understands it would be best to tell you. Even if it's hard. She doesn't have to tell you everytime, just make an effort to remember that it upsets when Daddy can't help her. Even if she starts telling you just a bit more often, explain it can help and make a big positive impact. It is VERY helpful and important for you to give her praise and tell her how proud you are, and good she was for being able to tell you.
I'm unaware if you two have an in-person dynamic, or LDR. Either way, maybe try to give her other methods of how to tell you. Writing it down, or typing it to you, may make it much easier for her. I know it's a big thing for me. Making the words come out is hard, so when I'm upset and such, I normally text it to my Daddy.

Please keep us updated on how things go, and if you don't know how to tell her, show her this post. I hope this is helpful.

[Daddy1978]

I have the same problem with my little. She just locks up. I try to get her to talk, but she just won't talk. So I have her lay in bed with me and I hold her and kiss her neck ( not sexy like) and tell her that I love her and hate to see her like that. As I hold her I give her some nice strong squeezes from time to time as we lay there to let her know I am not going anywhere and that I am there for her. After 30-60 minutes she settle down some, and I tell her ( not ask,but in a nice voice) to roll over and put her head on my chest and watch tv with me. I put something on she will like and rub her head till she falls asleep. She is pretty exhausted from being upset so it dose not take long. And the next day she's feeling better and will tell me whats going on. Some littles just need time and need to know for a fact that you are a rock and will just be there for them before they open up and feel safe agean. Hope that helps. It can be very frustrating so hang in there. Good luck.

[doll face]

Your being a caring daddy just being there. I'm sure she knows this and loves you for it. Sometimes we have things we can't talk about until it's clear in out little heads how to tell it.

[Guest Unrequited]

As powerless as you feel, you have to watch from the sidelines and just be there for comfort. If you push too hard, she might just withdraw from you, but all you can do is just be there and hope that you can pull her out of her shell like a freshly-cooked piece of escargot...

 

I'm actually pretty hungry.

 

Just keep being there for her; I wish you the best, man.

[Guest FatherFigure_34]

You've gotten great advice about this situation. I'd like to add that you seem to going about things the right way with her. So, no need to feel that you're doing wrong, due to her not opening up. As others stated, it may just take some time. Perhaps, she'll start to open up soon. Just being there and caring about her needs means a lot to her, I'm sure.

 

Best of luck to you.