Am I being too sensitive?

[laaaaureeenn]

I'm new here, and I've searched for a post relating to the questions I have and I can't find one, please direct me to such if you already know of one though.

 

 

So it's valentines day and I got Vincent a ton of stuff, for us because it's a holiday for us, and i spent over $100. When he opened it he said "wow looks like you bought yourself a bunch of stuff," and he's said it four times since. Am I being too sensitive or is he in the wrong, when he apologized he told me he was "sorry for not knowing that I was going to be overly sensitive." I though caregivers were supposed to help you feel better, it has turned into a big  thing and when he came home last he walked out without saying a word and slammed the door. Valentines day is ruined for me and i've been crying on and off all day i'm so hurt. 

 

Please help. Thank you. 

[LittleJosh]

ok, from a boys point of view:

 

you said you got him a bunch of stuff for you both? of course there is no need to explain 'what' but first, it was a nice idea!, second, you didnt say if HE got you anything!? Did he not get anything for you (or you both) and left it up to you? If so, thats not being nice at all. 

 

Your not being over-sensitive. I dont belive in that word at all. But him saying "sorry for not knowing that I was going to be overly sensitive."  is really rude  too. im sorrry. He started that scentense with "im sorry" and ended it by shaming your feelings. Your feelings ARE important no matter what and esepcially as a care-giver he should have had ALOT more understanding.

 

SO, in answer..NO..your NOT being over-sensitive. He is being UNDER-sensitive!

[Guest Hisnightingale]

Personally, I do not think you are being overly sensitive. He kept pushing it and expected you to laugh it off. Communication, between both of you, is necessary. When things have calmed down you could tell him calmly how it made you feel and that you aren't sure if he is happy with the gifts or if he genuinely isn't sure about them. Him storming off isn't very good either. It's up to him to keep the line of communication open just as much as it is up to you. I hope all goes well and we're all here if you need to vent <3.​

[BeardDaddy]

Yeah, I've got to agree. If it's stuff you can both use, then it's definitely rude, and a little guilt trippy to mention it multiple times.

[LolitaDaddy]

You were thought-ful, he was thought-less. Unfortunately wisdom come a heavy cost if not heeded to early on.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

You know I really hate it when people try to invalidate your feelings and apologize for YOU feeling the way you did. You did nothing wrong and he's being the insensitive asshole.

[Cherry41]

I hate that too...when somebody says, "I'm sorry...I didn't know you were going to (insert some annoying or unpleasant behavior here) over it." They're not sorry for anything...they just want to sound like they're being nice when they're really getting little digs in. 

 

As for the situation...I would try to find out exactly what his deal is. Does he maybe not realize that what you bought was meant for the two of you to use together...and not V-Day gifts from you to you? 

[mac tíre milis]

you are not being too sensitive, he is just being too much of an ass hole.