Can't contact my little, don't know what to do.

[paddedbman]

Hey there, first time poster. I've mentioned this a few times in the chat, but I thought I would bring this up in the forum proper.

 

A few days before the end of 2015, a woman answered a personal I put up offering to be my little. I agreed, and for the next week and a half we really hit it off. We are long distance by several states and both still live with our families (I'm 24, she's 21) but we were making it work and really having fun. But then her father found our texts (that did get very sexual) and it appears he's cut her off from any method of contacting me. I say "it appears" because, as the title suggests, I can't contact her to find out. I know it's pretty weird and messed up a father would punish his adult daughter for having a sexual relationship, but there you go.

 

It's now been 5 weeks since this happened, and she has only been able to contact me once, 3 weeks ago. All she said was she was she was sorry for not getting back to me and she hopes she can get back to me soon. I've talked to several people, both vanilla and kinky, about what to do in this situation. Some of them say I should wait until she can contact me, others say I should leave her, others say she's doing this on purpose.

 

I honestly don't know what to do or think on this matter anymore. This whole thing has been frustrating and exhausting and if anyone here has any advice that could help, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

That's a tough situation. If i were in your shoes, I would move on because it's not worth my time to wait for someone especially when there's no security involved. I don't deal with inconsistencies very well and nobody deserves that.

[paddedbman]

I guess my hang up with doing that is that I don't want to punish her for something that isn't her fault. Like, if she did come back and I had gotten a new little by the time she did, I don't know it just seems cruel and I don't want to do that to her. But like you said, nobody deserves to feel like this and I can't wait for ever. I'm just really stuck on what to do.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I guess my hang up with doing that is that I don't want to punish her for something that isn't her fault. Like, if she did come back and I had gotten a new little by the time she did, I don't know it just seems cruel and I don't want to do that to her. But like you said, nobody deserves to feel like this and I can't wait for ever. I'm just really stuck on what to do.

 

If she comes back and you have a new little then she has to understand the reason why. You aren't going to sit around and wait for someone with no guarantees. Life is never put on pause so do what makes you happy.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I'm sorry but I really would let it go. Sounds like there's much more to it than that. You were only talking to her for just over a week. Maybe the father story was an easy way to get out of whatever this was.

Seriously, I'd let it go. So much drama after ten days? Not worth it.

[Urbane]

I have to agree with the previous replies. I personally don't invest further time into a relationship if it's not being returned.

[paddedbman]

I guess you're all right, I was really only holding out hope for so long because it felt so good to finally be a daddy, even a long distance one. But in the end, I gotta do whats right for me, and whats right for me is to find a little who has the freedom to talk to me. Thanks for the advice, it honestly does help.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Good for you. Be patient and never "settle".

[Gaia]

Hey, paddedbman. I see you got plenty of advice, and it looks as though you've already made a decision, but I can't help but add what I know about controlling families.. I'm from one. My master and I knew each other since I was 16. We started our present relationship when I was 17. I know that's young, but what I have to say is many times I couldn't communicate with him or see him for days or even weeks because my family did not approve of our relationship. They are of a strict, Christian background and don't even think vanilla relationships are okay... So, all i'm saying is unless she's just using that as an excuse, I know her side of it. Last thought: Get the f*** out of your parent's home. You're a perfectly capable adult and should be living your own life.

[Gaia]

Sorry if I sound rough.

[paddedbman]

Nothin is easier said than done than "get out of your parents house." At least I have a job now and can save money, she has medical conditions that keep people from hiring her.

 

I want to be with her, I really do. But I've been so depressed this month waiting for her to contact I can't handle it. How did you and your master get through?