Can This work 12 years in

[BabyGirl78]

I have been married for 12 years in a normal husband/wife relationship..I was very dominant and controlling with my husband over the past few years (not in the bedroom, just in general) and he would just do whatever I said… Honestly this was kind of a turn off for me…. But I continued bossing him around… (I had a hormone deficiency which led to pretty severe depression). Anyhow in this process I was hurting him emotionally and didn’t even realize it… To the point that he had an affair…. We have decided to work things out, however I have found out he is very into the whole daddy dom thing and honestly…. I’m very into being submissive and actually prefer that and almost feel relieved that i don’t have to be in charge anymore…so this is all very exciting…I guess my question is …. Is it possible to reverse roles where he was not necessarily submissive but did everything for me and never said no or showed dominance prior… He actually thinks our situation is what led him to want to be a Daddy Dom…. There really isn't any age regression involved. But I love being called baby girl/princess and being punished and getting rewards! Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated!

[BabyGirl78]

I should add... That we would really like to make this into somewhat of a lifestyle inside and outside of the bedroom. We just don't want it to be obvious to our kids, family or in public.

[ANewDragon]

So, I would say that first off, This is a lifestyle, Like anything you can change it to fit your lifestyle. So as long as you and your husband are wanting to make the changes to where you are now the sub and he is the dom, yes it can work. 

 

As far as not making it obvious to the kids, family or the public, It is all about balance and doing the things that make you happy when you want to do it. You only have to tell those people that you want to tell if you want to tell anyone at all. 

[BabyGirl78]

I guess what I meant by lifestyle is not just in the bedroom.... Thanks for your reply!

[Guest buddhagirl]

I think it is possible to reverse roles. I don't know if you and your husband can achieve it, but it's conceivable. I've been married twice, the first time for 15 years, so I know a thing or two about marriage. It is, of course, harder to change the fundamental dynamic of your relationship the longer you're together. But, what you've been doing hasn't worked for either of you and DDlg seems more fulfilling, so it's worth a real try. That being said, you will need to be really patient with each other for a while as you try to change the dynamic and power in your relationship. It will take some time and there will be set-backs, possibly. I would suggest setting some rules in place that you two review weekly for awhile to enforce some change. If you like to be punished, clear punishment guidelines and enforcement from your husband could help, too. My current husband and I just naturally fell into this dynamic naturally, so it's been pretty easy. If he's truly dominant and you're truly submissive, it should be a relief to you both to move into this lifestyle.