Help me out!

[Bern]

So, I'm really new to all of this and I have no idea of how to find someone who likes DDLG who is willing to help me work out whether I'm a DD or a little (I'm not 100% sure :X) 

 

And who doesn't mind me being a bit well ... inexperienced haha

 

Would you guys have any suggestions of things to read or ways to find out exactly what I am? 

 

I'd love any and all help!! 

[LittleMeredith]

Well, you can always talk a bit to friends, i would love to talk to you at least ^^

There is a personal section where you could post a topic and look for friends or maybe an SO.

[Bern]

The chat room is a great place to ask for advice

The Resources section is also great for finding articles related to DDlg or CGl. Also, there are also people called 'switches' who switch between being a caregiver/DD and being a little. So you can be both if that is what you feel you are!

Thanks Rosie I'll give them a look!! 

[Bern]

Well, you can always talk a bit to friends, i would love to talk to you at least ^^

There is a personal section where you could post a topic and look for friends or maybe an SO.

Hey, I don't know if you got my message or not, it said we have to be friends if you didn't let me know I'll try to send it again  

[Ringdancer]

She has to accept your friend request before you can message her.  The only ones you can message freely are the mods, same goes for private chat in the chat room.

[Bern]

She has to accept your friend request before you can message her.  The only ones you can message freely are the mods, same goes for private chat in the chat room.

Thank you!! All sorted now  

[Bern]

Hello! Take into consideration that you DONT have to be one or the other! You could possibly be a switch!!!

But if I was a switch would that mean having to find another Switch or would most people be accepting of me being a switch? I'd be very worried that I could disappoint or frustrate someone, I don't want to ruin anyone else's experience or possibly miss out on someone who could be a long time love just because I messed up! 

[Bern]

Absolutely not!!! It would just mean that sometimes you're little and sometimes you're big! That's not frustrating or disappointing! Most littles or caregivers who are with a switch like that they can experience the same feelings as them. (ie. being little with your little, and being a caregiver to your caregiver) This is a bit of a bad example, but it's a bit like being bisexual. It's not like you can ONLY be friends/date other bisexuals, you can be with anyone who you feel comfortable with. Just be open in communication with your partner about being a switch

Thanks It's nice to know that it wouldn't be a problem so long as I communicated it!  

[penny]

Yeah being a switch isn't a problem, I'm a switch too. The only time I could see it being an issue is if you got two doms together but then that's where communication is key.

 

Bounce around the forums and the chat a bit and I'm sure you'll find answers to all of your questions and before you go looking for that special someone try making some little and some big friends so you can experiment and see where you lie on the spectrum or if you're just in the middle.

[penny]

If you want to send me a friend request id be happy to answer any questions that you have

[Bern]

If you want to send me a friend request id be happy to answer any questions that you have

Thanks I've sent a request! I have to go to bed thanks to work tomorrow but I'd love to chat some time about all of this, maybe tomorrow I'll be able to!! Thanks

[Guest Hisnightingale]

You can add me if you wish, i used google for much of my research. I, personally, am a little but my Master and I are learning together .