Does my daddy love me?

[Lizychu]

Me and my daddy were together last night and I was coming out of subspace, I kept telling my daddy how much I love him. But he wouldn't say it back he would look at me and nod, or say I know. He left today, and now I'm feeling alone and like he hates me or he wants a new little. I don't know what to do he won't talk to me today.

[Guest NewYorkDaddy]

Have a talk with him, sounds like he may not. Actions speak louder than words but we all need to hear it often. I know I like to hear it. But if he acts dismissive and aloof as well as not saying I love you; talk with him

 

Honestly things don't look good. Is he always like that? Aloof?

[LolitaDaddy]

How long have you known each other & as dd/lg? 1st time? I'm sorry, but your intuition might be on to something & communications is key in moving forward. My opinion is, dd, give your lg lots of "I love you's."

[LolitasDaddy]

Has he said "I love you" in the past?

[cuddly_daddy]

Sounds to be like the communication needs to be re-addressed and sitting him down to talk with him would be the right place to start. Explain to him exactly how you feel, then let him respond. He might not give the answer your like, but the final outcome should be something your ok with, or something you need to make a decision on. Either way you need to be prepared for the choices ahead

[Lizychu]

He has before and we've been together a while. I feel terrible, I'm crying and shaking. I just feel like he doesn't want me now. Like I did something horribly wrong, and my punishment is him replacing me or leaving me.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Was it your first time in subspace? Is he an experienced dom? Does he struggle handling emotions? There are many possible reasons behind this. Worst case scenario is that he's simply an inconsiderate, selfish ass, but there are lots of other feasible scenarios. You need to use your grown up head and ask him what's going on.

[Guest littlebitty]

how long have you been together? Aside from whether you in a ddlg dynamic, do you love him? Not after play, are you at the point where you can actually say I love this person. I suspect you coming out of subspace said something that caught him off guard and he panicked. Which isnt great and he needs to handle things better in future.

 

But this is my point it sucks he didnt say I love you back and your were in a fragile way. But how have you jumped to he hates you/wants to replace you?

 

Those 3 words are not to be played with. If you really love him you need to have talk openly and as adults. You obviously feel rejected and hurt. Its time to put the big girl head on take a deep breath and explore this. And if he is just not at that point to say it dont push him. Personally I would rather my daddy said that when he really means it then just off the cuff or because he feels guilty.

If it is that you were just caught up in the moment then he needs to be extra sensitive to your feelings (but you cant make him say he loves you regardless of subspace or not).

[Lizychu]

Littlebitty, he has said it before and we tell eachother all the time that we love each other. But he had to go see his family, and he said he would message me and talk to me but he isn't and when he does they are short. And he is only answering my questions in 3 words or less. I feel as though I've done something wrong. Like this is my punishment.

[Bisou_Bisou]

It seems like an awful kind of punishment, especially if it isn't one you've discussed previously.

 

I would just ignore his ass. Give him a taste of his own medicine. I hate reading stuff like this. I get that you're dependent on him as your caregiver, but you also need to be an adult and depend on yourself. If he's not saying I love you and he won't tell you why, there's nothing you can do about it. Sit back and wait for him to come around and "grow up" into an adult head space.

 

If he's said he loves you before and you believed it to be true, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. He'll come around.

[Guest littlebitty]

Ok, thanks for answering my questions.

What he is doing wrong and I am not surprised you are feeling so terrible. However my opinion is he isn't intitntionally punishing you.

 

He sounds like he doesnt realise whats gone on and with out being rude quite often happens with men! You said something deep and meaningful and for some reason didnt he respond and now Its all kind of awkward for both of you. Firstly, you do need to find out why he didnt say he loves you. Was it just he was tired after your session and a one off? or Is there a deeper issue.

 

But right now you need to understand you did nothing wrong. You are not to feel punished for his lack of support and care. Leave him to it, and focusn on stuff that you enjoy. Give him space to sort his head out and hopefully realise he hasnt treated you correctly.

I an not sure how experienced he is as a dom but It sounds like he needs to do some reading up or ask some questions to more experienced ones.