Marraige and DDLG

[Papa_J]

There are times when I really need to be on big girl mode..my husband is new to this whole thing and I'm not sure that he understands that the specifics our ddlg roles are completely up to us.

 

Sometimes he thinks when I tell him I need a break from the power trip that I'm trying to get out of punishments and tells me you wanted this dom/sub lifestyle so I'm going to treat you like my sub and you will obey me as your dom..Okay so him saying that gets me excited and it continues but later I get aggravated...I just need to tell him I need breaks sometimes with out him getting upset with me...I'm almost confused and seems like reality is being mixed with the age play and ddlg roles..any advice?

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I think you're right in telling your husband that you need breaks without repercussion. If this is happening, I think you two need to sit down and discuss what you both want out of this.

 

You don't need to be 24/7 if that's not what you're comfortable with.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

You need to feel comfortable being honest with him. My daddy tells me I can tell him absolutely anything, as long as I do it respectfully.

Your husband should appreciate that you have limits and a need for down time.

This is the answer that is most relevant to pretty much every single issue and problem.....communication. Find a time when its not emotionally charged, sit down and talk. Even if you find it easier to write it down, to get your thoughts in order.

You are married. You must be able to talk to one another.

[DannyDaddy16]

I'm quite a few years away from marriage, but this is what I want eventually. Close to 24/7 being Daddy to my little girl and marriage.

[Ruby-Rainy]

Maybe bring it up so he is aware of it ahead and it doesn't seem like a whim or punishment avoidance. Say, "On Saturday afternoon I want to have a discussion in big girl mode."

 

When you have the discussion, mention that you still need to be 'big' too. Maybe you can wear pigtails or a certain headband/accessory/whatever on days you are feeling little, and if you deliberately take it off as a sign.