Confused.

[Fitsel]

My girlfriend introduced me to this lifestyle. I told her (it was true) that I was okay with trying. I told her often that I needed her help- but she became hesitant. I feel like I put too much on her by asking to teach me from scrap? She seems shy and reserved about it now, and I just wanted to know if there were main points to being daddy. I liked being called daddy, and it sort of hurts that she drew back so quickly and so early.. Also, any help in being more of a dom than a sub would be EXTREMELY helpful.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

Please take a look at this thread: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/51-general-advice-for-new-daddies/

 

Dominance is part of your personality or you may find out that it's not. I think it's important that you ask her what she expects and vice versa because then you two can learn and grow with each other.

[lilvioletcub]

Talk with her as adults on what she wants from this dynamic and what she would want from a daddy

[Guest Lovesdaddy1972]

Wondering if there's a previous thread for new littles too?

[Masteratm]

I agree with everyone's point but also make sure that she truly knows you are not judging her. She could be scared of rejection or lack of confidence. Just do some research on the dd/lg and keep an open mind there are differ type of this lifestyle that the both of you will have to find the right style. There is not right or wrong it's what ever makes the both of you happy.

[Guest D@ddyDom]

Read the post for new Daddies that was hyperlinked. Also, search and learn on your own. I would recommend not asking her to teach you. As a "Dom" it is in your best interest to be the one who take initiative. I would then talk to her about what you are learning, and explain the traits that match up to your personality.

 

I would also try to find out if her interest was on a whim. Maybe she saw some things that peaked her interest and now she is unsure and backing down.

 

The one statement that stood out to me was "any help in being more of a dom than a sub would be EXTREMELY helpful". I believe that having a touch of a submissive side can help you become a better Dom. I think it can help you relate better to the submissive and understanding her. I am not 100% sure, but you may also be over compensating as a Dom because you have submissive tendencies.

 

The key to this relationship is open communication, trust, and respect. If she isn't open to talk about it, I would recommend stepping back a little bit and waiting for it to return naturally.