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[MemeDaddy]

So my babygirl has been hella stressed lately. I always ask her if there's anything I can do to help but she always says "I dunno". Life is getting her and she's gotten even more depressed lately and it's scaring me. I want to help but I don't know how. Anyone have any tips?

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

You can suggest that seeking therapy would be helpful. Let her know that you'll love and support her throughout the process- you're just concerned for her well-being. I wish you both the best of luck <3

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

It's hard to know what to do to help when you can't fully understand what she is going through. And the only way to really do that is to have spent a day in her shoes. You can however offer her all your love and support. She may very well benefit from help from a professional as Pouty Kitten suggested, but I would recommend having a talk with her about it first. Don't force the issue, but by all means bring it up for discussion and see what becomes of it. Stress is a major player/cause of depression. It can really take a toll on you.

 

I was going through depression myself for a lot of years and then my parents both became ill and I have had to take on the roll of being their carer. When this happened, I realised I had to find a way to just snap out of my depression and be strong and do what I could to step up to the plate and help them. I also found it very difficult to speak up about what was really going on and how I felt. Partly due to being afraid, embarrassment, nerves and just fear of being judged. I would also use the "I dunno" line when I just felt I couldn't speak up even though I wanted to, and I would be crying on the inside wishing that I could just say what was wrong and that I needed help.

 

Everybody's experiences are different, and of course I do not attempt to state that I know exactly what your little is going through, but I have a basic understanding. Depression is one of those things that is easy to get into and hard to get out of. Some peoples depression is circumstantial and others forms of depression go much deeper than that. It's so easy for people to say that you just stop being negative and be more positive, you stop hiding away from people and problems or stop shutting down or shutting the world out but that's just how it seems to those who aren't going through it. The solution seems all too easy and obvious when you are looking on from the outside. It's very different for the person going through it however, and for them to find the strength and do what is needed to improve their well being. Personally, that was the last thing I always wanted to hear. The whole "just change the way you think. Smile more.it's easy!" but it's not and it just serves to make you feel worse knowing that people really don't understand what you're gong through. Especially those who are close to you.

 

I'm no mental health professional here, but I would just let her know that you are there for her and that she has a support system. If you feel she might benefit from seeing a professional, talk to her about it but again don't force the issue. Don't push her to get better just let her know that you are here and that you love and care for her.

 

I hope this was helpful to you in some way and I hope your little starts feeling better soon! <3

[LolitasDaddy]

Is there anything you can do about what she is actually stressing out about? Sounds like you need to have a sit down adult conversation with her. If I was concerned about someone I loved, I'd not settle for "I dunno". Like stated above, it might be time for some professional help.

[Guest Bear]

I'm an idiot.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Has she seen anyone about the depression/stress levels? Sometimes we just plod on, dealing with it. But there is no shame in asking for professional help.

This might sound silly, but does she get enough exercise? That is quite a powerful remedy to things like stress. A simple walk in the fresh air every day. Maybe the two of you together, if you spend physical time together.

But in the mean time just let her know you are there. Try distract her rather than ask if she's ok for example. That might just keep her dwellers ng on it. You obviously want to help, so its natural to ask that kind of thing. Nothing wrong with that, but maybe try not focus too much on it all the time. Talk about your day, set her little easy tasks to occupy her mind, suggest a book to read together and talk about that, just simple ideas like that will give her positive little things to think about.

[lydia]

not sure this is for everyone... but for me when im really stressed and depressed sometimes some things to get the endorphins going helps a long way... having someone take me over their lap and lovingly administer a spanking helps a lot... and actually in Russia they do Russian Whipping Therapy for depressed people... i know this to be true as it is one of the best things that helps with my depression. i see a therapist 2 times a week every week for most my adult life and my therapist even recommends i contact one of my friends to help me out when she feels i need an emotional or stress release spanking... again might not be for everyone but it is what helps me the most.. 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Yeah, on that side note, discipline is brilliant for grounding me and releasing stress and anxiety. Won't work for everyone but as a non masochist, going through that other kind of physical "stress" really gets rid of the other, more emotional kind.