Do new Daddies have issues finding littles?

[Lochees]

As a new daddy I've seemed to notice that most littles prefer daddies with experience and that is completely understandable. Any advice about this or just general stories about being a new daddy and finding a little that is ok with that would be greatly appreciated!

[Lazarus_1_506]

I am a new daddy...This is my first little.  I simply attacked this like every facet of my life...Knowledge is power.  I found this group, and others, did lots of research, and still am.  When I find things that are confusing or unclear, I bring it to this or other boards to get more experienced people's advice.  Other than that I kind of just use my natural tendencies(I have always looked out for and cared for those around me).  I focus on making her happy, finding out what if anything she needs, and basically my goal is, unless its needed to not be, allow her as much time, and help getting into little space as possible.  As such, she says I am doing a good job.  When in big space, we have more serious discussions, talk about failings or whats being done right and anything I might need.

 

As far as finding a little, man I had no idea how many there were, just join a couple groups on Facebook.  I get several messages a week asking if I have a little from people interested.  I'm sure it won't take long to find someone you can connect with...

[Lochees]

Thanks a lot man! I had no idea there were Facebook groups on this I'll have to give it a try

[ANewDragon]

Lochees,

 

I would recommend that you learn, and that you take it slow with the little that you do find. There are plenty of littles looking for a daddy, but I would definitely take your time and learn about being a daddy before you start looking for a little. You want to become a friend and start kind of vanilla before you really start a DD/lg relationship, that is because of the amount of trust and respect you need for each other before entering into DD/lg.

 

If you want to talk more, you can friend me.  

[Guest NYGuy]

It's definitely something you don't want to rush as it is a huge undertaking to get into any relationship with real people and real feelings. Ddlg relationships are that but multiplied greatly. You don't want to just jump into being someone's daddy the same way you wouldn't just jump into a serious relationship out of nowhere in vanilla standards. Try to make friends and find a right match after learning all you can about being a big and what it's like to care for a little. The reason some littles might be apprehensive with inexperienced daddies is because some who rush in have gotten overwhelmed and abandoned their littles.

 

Good luck out there. Hope you do eventually find someone nice to share this with. Don't forget to keep learning everyday before you make any commitments! Feel free to talk to me if I can ever be of help btw.

[Guest Bear]

This isn't a job application, man, if you click then you click. 

[Princess-P]

From a littles perspective having experience isn't everything because there's no cookie cutter way to be a Daddy and what experience you could have with one little may be completly useless with another.

 

There's a lot of ways to discover what kind of Daddy you are on your own like reading forums, thinking up situations and how you may react to them, your feelings on sexuality and little spaces, if you are interested in ABDL, incorporating rules and punishments, and what your ideal sexual and non sexual playtimes look like. Also chat with other Daddy's and littles (as friends not as a basis for relationship) and get advice from them. Then when you feel confident in your own personal knowledge of what your interested in the confidence will come shining through to any little you may be interested in. And once you click you two can figure it out together.

 

Any little (experienced or not) is just looking for a Daddy who makes her happy. Experience doent make you a "good Daddy" how you conduct yourself does.

[Lochees]

Thanks again everyone! I do plan on taking it very slow and trusting each other completely before I would feel right bring caled daddy, that title should be earned imo. I'm also reading tons of stuff from here, tumblr, etc. And working up a list of what I think I'd like etc. There's a lot of stuff to do :3

 

I was just a little apprehensive because I was starting to look and most seemed to want experience which is understandable. You all have given great advice again thanks :3

[hbear]

My daddy was a first time daddy when he met me. Im his first little.

 

Hes started to learn things I like when I'm little. and such.

 

I think most importantly is to find someone you're compatible without the dd/lg aspect. This makes it a lot easier for potential littles to feel WAY more comfortable.