Age Differences in DDLG

[NottsDaddy]

Of course there is, and older is obviously a very relative term; I know someone who was told they were over the hill at 25 hahaha which is of course absurd

[Guest buddhagirl]

Is there any place for older littles?

Yes, there is, Mlittlelife! https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4307-not-so-young-little-over-30-represent/page-6?hl=littles&do=findComment&comment=40857

[Jezebel88]

Well, I'm definitely in the minority here. Daddy and i have a 36 year age gap. He is absolutely perfect for me and I've had to kiss a lot of frogs to find him. I had vowed to never date a man in his 60s after a really bad experience with a "daddy" 40 years older than me, but here i am. It all depends on the person and how well the two of you connect.

[jellicle baby]

it makes me honestly uncomfortable if my partner is younger than I am, but a slight age gap is just a boost to the dynamic for me, but I've learned that too wide a gap is unhealthy for me. I normally don't date people younger than I am.

[ladybug°rain]

Well, I'm definitely in the minority here. Daddy and i have a 36 year age gap. He is absolutely perfect for me and I've had to kiss a lot of frogs to find him. I had vowed to never date a man in his 60s after a really bad experience with a "daddy" 40 years older than me, but here i am. It all depends on the person and how well the two of you connect.

My daddy and I have a 25 year age gap between us and I don't know how to mention it to anyone without them freaking out. To us it's perfectly fine and we don't care because our connection is great and he say's he's always learning new things from me (:  He makes me really happy and I make him really happy and that's more important than age. I'm glad I found someone else w/ a very large age gap. 

 

I do feel scared to tell anyone how much older my boyfriend/Daddy is because society isn't very open about large age gaps and I feel I'll be judged and no one will understand. I would love to have a friend to talk to about it openly though ):  but I don't know if that'll happen.

[littleinhiding]

I am an older little and just finished struggling with realizing it. My Papa bear is my age and is just at the tip of the iceberg in understanding He had an affair that lasted a year which is very unusual considering his ethics. He says he will do anything at all to win me back. I'm just not sure he can. He has never been very nurturing or protective and he is at lest trying to play at this. It makes me very very sad that it might be too late for me and that this relationship may not be enough to keep the sadness away, which is usually when I am in my littlest state and where I am every single day most of the day due to this affair I need him to know I'm not playing. I hope there is a place for older littles like the little above just asked, or is there a chat room for those like us? I think that would be amazing!!! Any ideas anyone? It's always the caregiver that is the older. Why not the little?

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[Guest cookie_crumble_princess]

When I was younger I used to believe I was only attracted to older men. I thought they had a certain maturity, were better able to teach me, guide me and respect me. I don't believe that anymore. Given living life 10 - 15 yrs later I've now mellowed out and become more open and accepting. Now, finding someone has very little to do with their age imho. Not every 18 year will be immature, not every 20 - 25 year old is a party boy, nor will every 30+ will be settled and ready to live a life of commitment.

 

 I am not denying that we as humans mature and evolve with age.  However, people are more than their age. They are a product of their history, environment (either positively or negatively affected), of their nature and their need to encompass then project their dreams. These attributes don't always come full circle to correlate with their age.

[LittleBratMonster]

I prefer older. It just works for me.

[Guest littlemissbri]

I do tend to prefer an older guy but personally it's less about the 'maturity' and more just about experience and stability. If someone is older and they're not in a stable situation then their age isn't enough. I'm still changing and figuring myself out and finding myself and for me it feels safer to do so when the person I'm with is already mostly there. Yeah I might end up changing to the point where we don't work anymore but at least I'm not trying to handle my changes and those of my partner. Yes everyone changes and grows and learns their entire lives but it's usually easier to find someone who's at least settled into life a bit more when they've gone passed my age a ways. If someone my age is at that point then sure I'd love to give it a go but... I've not had much luck there and I am horrible uncomfortable with younger men as a romantic/sexual partner.

[Littlerudegirl]

I've always been attracted to men significantly older than me. I'm 24 and my daddy is 19 years older than me. I think that's how I realized I'm a little, although I know this isnt the case for everybody. As soon as I called him daddy the first time it felt so great and he absolutely loved it

[Hellooooooooooo!]

My daddy is a lot older than me.... In my experience it doesn't matter.... I'm about to be 19 and my current daddy is 39.... My little space (she's around 5ish) found this a little scary at first but she has grown to love having him around... I would say that it doesn't really matter. What ever is comfortable for you. I prefer older men because of their expieience and it makes my feel really innocent and niave... In a good way

[Guest Jennyanydots]

In response to OP:

 

I don't believe that physical age plays much role in "play", and I think that's true for most of us. While it does depend a bit on local culture, you might have to worry about people assuming your partner is your actual dad/mom; or you might encounter people who disapprove. In that case you have to ask yourself how much does the opinion of strangers matter to me? For myself, I really rather enjoy people getting worked up over my refusal to conform to their ridiculous social standards and I consider it and added bonus. Others find it mortifying the first time someone assumes that their date is their parent and the social stigma against an age gap is enough to stop them ever having a relationship with a significantly older or younger person.

 

As side from that, it's really a matter of taste and who you are attracted to. I have been attracted to men in their 40s and 50s since I was about 13 years old (no I did not do anything inappropriate at that age!). Physically attracted and attracted to their (generally speaking) life experience and...mental state? It seems to me that people of different age ranges seem to reach similar places mentally...their personal philosophy evolves.

 

So to sum up, I would say, first decide what you are comfortable with in a social context and second decide whether you prefer someone who is at your current level of understanding or someone who might give you insight into where you might evolve to in 10, 15, 20 or more years. And finally, do realize that all men (and women) do NOT evolve equally. As stated previously, there are some men in their 60s or better who are at I'll selfiah, self centered, spoiled brats.

[jellicle baby]

I've been in a few relationships where there was as much as a 6 year gap, and then a 1 year gap, and then I had a 3 year gap, and my daddy of five months is only 6 months older than me, and I honestly feel this is the healthiest relationship I have ever had, ddlg or otherwise. 

[Asmariea]

My Daddy is 6 years younger than me. Sometimes I feel not like a little because of it. I love being a little and Daddy is a good Daddy, and treats me as a little, but sometimes because of my age its hard.

[Guest cherryteapot]

i prefer my daddy's to be a little older than me usually between 1-5 years! i always think of the half your age plus seven rule but do it to his? like if he was 20, half of that is 10 plus 7, so the absolute youngest i should be is 17, this is an age old rule! wayyy back from the 60's remember! half your age plus 7= youngest socially acceptable