Age Differences in DDLG

[SylviDoll]

Hi there, everyone! This question is more geared toward Littles, but I'd love to hear from anyone. How much does Daddy/Little age difference play a role in your relationship? I know that some people prefer a CG older than they are. For myself though, in theory, I'd rather be in a relationship with someone fairly close to my age (I'm 19). Thoughts?

[tiny kitty]

my Daddy is actually slightly younger than me, although you'd never guess it. Almost everyone we know thinks he's older - partly because he looks it, but moreso because he acts much older than he is. Honestly, i tend to forget his age, because he's acted older for as long as i've known him. The important part for me is behavior; physical age is unimportant to me. 

[LadyPuff]

I'm far from picky. I don't have much care for age in any relationship. To me the only important thing is connection to your partner. Most important thing is the SSC. Safe, Sane, Consensual.
In my current relationship, my Daddy and I do have what some would consider a large age gap. Over 5 years. It doesn't matter for us, though. I find myself mostly falling into relationships with those older than me. Like the example Tiny Kitty had given for her Daddy, I tend to be much more mentally mature. Many people, after knowing me, would consider my mental age to be more closer to my Daddy's.

I understand many people have the biggest issue with age gaps in that, there's not much to connect with. Interests could be strongly different due to  sometimes, decades between age. That's not much of an issue with me, either. I would say I'm pretty well rounded in knowledge of 1930s life forward. Even if we don't know everything, that's a nice part! You can always learn and bond even more with your Daddy or Little over interests! If you don't like everything your partner does, it's not the end of the world. My Daddy is far from old, even if he says he's not.
All I know is I'm happy with my Daddy and he's age has nothing to do with it. He is who he is, and that is what's important! =^.^=
 

[SylviDoll]

I think, for me, I'm just afraid that we won't be able to relate well because of the age difference. But I suppose you never know until you try, right?

Puff, I like what you said about being able to learn from each other. I hadn't thought about it that way ^^

[tiny kitty]

Sometimes, an age difference can make it harder for two people to relate. An age gap can lead to growing up with different cultural outlooks, different tastes, and being in different places in life. All of these things, when present, have the possibility of putting a strain on a relationship. However, it's important to note a few things;

 

1. There is no difference that you can guarantee will be present with an age gap. Some things are more likely to happen, but everyone is different.

2. These traits, while they can sometimes make things more difficult, do not have to spell doom for a relationship. It is up to you to decide when looking at a partner's traits which things you consider dealbreakers and which things you don't mind working with.

 

My suggestion would basically be to not worry about partner age. Instead, just focus on who someone is, and decide how you feel about their traits. Whether their age is responsible for those traits is a lot less important than how you feel about them.

[Guest MaddMari]

Age is a number. As long as you have alot in common and love each other there should be no reason to at least try you know? But make sure you feel like its whats best for the both of you.

[lilvioletcub]

I'm 25 my daddy is 27

 

I think with age gap its good to go three years older so for you looking between 19-22 would be good to much older (like 30-50) would send off red flags to people who didn't know any better.

 

Really the only rule with age gap for anything dating or DD/lg is if your an adult they should be too (ie no 13-16 year olds) though you being 19 you could look for a 17 or 18 year old to date really though the only thing that matters is your happy and meeting each others needs Safe Sane Consental

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

The age difference between me (25) and my Daddy (29) works out perfectly for us. I feel like we are still able to relate and learn from eachother. I think the oldest I'd go is 35 but that's really pushing it.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

The gap itself didn't matter, could have only been by a few months, but yes, he had to be older. That was one of my non negotiables.

That was even before I knew I needed a daddy.

My daddy is two and a half years older than me.

[DaddyJsPrincess]

Being demisexual, it's hard to say. But my track record suggests I tend to make connections with older males and similarly-aged females. My Daddy and I have an 11 year age gap, and I do like that he's older than me, but I don't think that would have made or broken our relationship. I'm an old soul, and I have a brother that is older than Daddy is, so there's not too much that gets "lost in translation"  I wish we would have met sooner, but I understand on a cosmic (not to mention legal) level why we could not.

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

My Daddy is 2 years younger than me (he's 27 and I'm 29) but as everybody else has already said, age is just a number.

 

My brother is quite a few years older than me and we always fight because of this and then about 5 years ago, I met and dated a man the same age. I thought it would be difficult given the relationship with my brother but you wouldn't have even known there was an age difference! As long as you both feel comfortable and are happy, who cares? I don't think you need to worry too much!

 

[Guest starrflower]

I used to be drawn to men much older than me, but realized that age and maturity don't always go hand in hand.  So now it's purely about connection.  There may be a slight issue with him being too much younger though

[KittenLittle]

My Daddy just turned 26, while I'm 19 and won't turn 20 till August. I haven't known about dd/lg for longer than a few months, I've typically acted like a little just because that's who I am, but I personally have always been attracted to older guys I highly doubt I'd date someone over 10 years older than me but, I have always dated older or dated guys who seemed older. I'm also bisexual and I still tend to be attracted to older woman too. I think it's just who you're attracted to and how you get along.

[Harley_Quinn]

My daddy is only a couple months older than me haha but he acts older than other men my age and I of course am naturally acting younger than other girls my age but I prefer being with him than someone actually older. I dunno why. And younger always failed so yeah

[SylviDoll]

The more I think about it, the less important age seems to be. I think that because society seems to frown upon large age gaps, I've been hesitant. Thanks everyone for all the input!

[sylvanianbaby]

my ex-mommy was 19 years older than me ._____.

 

(i fall easily for people who are older  )

[snuggleprincess]

It seems like the majority of Littles say age is just a number.....

 

That makes me wonder if I have a problem lol because I am almost exclusively attracted to older men.  My last boyfriend was 20 years older! My current one is 12 years older. For me, it is like a deep need  to be with someone older, like in their mid 30's (I am 27).  I have definitely felt attraction to guys my age and slightly younger, and some I felt gotten a Daddy vibe from which I liked, but nothing really fulfills that desire like being with someone who is actually older.

[hbear]

I personally have always been attracted to guys older than me. Whether ddlg or not. I just have always been more interested in steadiness and commitment and long term. Not that guys my age or younger cant be, but generally not.

 

My daddy is only a little over a year older than me. But he acts VERY mature.  Like if I met him not knowing him. Id think he was at LEAST 25, if not older.

[littlemonstergirl]

My Daddy is 8 years older than me, he is turning 34 and I will be turning 26 this year. I didn't really set out to find someone older than me it just happened. 

[Guest Wholockprincess23]

Age to me doesn't matter. What matters is the level of maturity and how he makes me feel. I'm nearly 25 (next month) and I think it's just as easy to meet someone who is 21 who is mature and treats me right as easy as it would be to meet someone 35 who is mature and treats me right. Every single person is different. If you find someone with their life together who is young or your age, then I think that could work for some people. Generally, though, I prefer someone at least 5 years older than me and no more than 15 years older than me. 40 would be my limit right now, I think. He'd have to be pretty special to change that.

[DaddyBerry]

Very well put, Wholockprincess... And many of the other littles in this thread. I agree that with you all that you start with a general range in mind... As a Daddy, I care about the connection first and being able to help my little grow and feel desired and appreciated. I think if that connection is strong then any age difference fades to the back of your mind and you concentrate on your relationship. Great thread.

[chibikitty]

Not to sound like a creep, but I love older doms. My current partner is 5 years older than I am, but I certainly wouldn't mind a bigger age gap. I don't think I could see someone younger than me as my daddy, unless they were very mature for their age. There is just something about someone being older than me that really does it for me.. Maturity is also really important to me. If a dom isn't mature enough for me, that's something that wouldn't work for me .

[Guest buddhagirl]

I think this is a funny topic because there are so many assumptions in the question. Yes, there are some expected attributes attached to age and age differences, BUT age is also just a number--both are true. I thought I wanted someone older than me, and what do you know?! I ended up marrying the wisest, most grounded, strong, loving, caring and AMAZING Daddy in the whole world and he's 10 years YOUNGER than me! Weird, right? But true. I'm a mature, wise, accomplished professional myself, so he always blows me away with the depth of his character, calm and wisdom. People are people and, while there may be some generalities we can make about the pros and cons of age differences, there are many exceptions and people can surprise you. 

 

I'll also add a life lesson I've learned. It is very challenging to find the RIGHT person--the person whose values align with yours, in the right place in life, that you have mutual attraction, that you enjoy their company even when you're sick, that is kind and honest, and all of the things you want and need in someone to make you happy. Making something like age or height or hair color a priority makes finding YOUR needle in the haystack so much harder. While it is true that I thought I wanted an older guy, it breaks my heart to think that I might have said no to Daddy when he asked me out on our first date because of his age. I would have cheated myself out of the love of my life for a silly reason. I think it's good to be open and flexible when trying to find your ONE. 

[NottsDaddy]

I wouldn't go as far to say age is just a number but maturity levels are relative and also tend to vary by gender (as a vague guide line not a rule of course) so you can get quite mature 21 years old and very immature 30 year old.   Also age gaps can appear relatively bigger or smaller depending on your age at the time;  If your 18 and then 24 year old partner would seem a lot older/more grown up but the same person was 30 and the partner 36 it would event register for a lot of people.

 

Some people look for or are happy with bigger age gaps; personally I just go with how I feel with that particular person rather than check their birth certificate  . Personally my previous two Baby-girls were both 14 years younger than me but I do think you can get to a point were the age gap can become an issue not necessarily in the short term but looking at the long term aiming for a forever after situation though doesn't mean it wont work it depends on the people. 

 

Some would say that age gaps lend themselves to the natural dynamic of DDLG but its down to personal taste of course; I would like to say you really should go with what makes you happy not worry about the opinions of others because if we did that we wouldn't be here in the first place right?

 

[Guest Milittlelife]

Is there any place for older littles?