Taking Risks

[Guest Strawberry]

Hey everyone!

I met this couple that is actively looking to take in a baby girl and I absolutely adore them! I was already friends with them before finding this out, so I'm already pretty familiar with who they are and how we all differ. But I know that if I did get in a relationship with them, it wouldn't last or even be healthy because of who I am and how their relationship already works. I mentioned this to one of of them and she essentially said that you never know unless you try. If I know it's going to fail from the get-go, is it even worth a shot? Has anyone else been in a situation like this and what did you do?

Thank you for all of your help!!

xoxo Strawberry

[LolitasDaddy]

I'd never get into a relationship that I thought I was going to ruin. What's the point, unless you want to only be with one?

[DaddysLolita]

If you know it's not going to work, save yourself and them the heartache. Having trouble with one person can be very hard, let alone two people.

 

Unless YOU want to risk it. But that's a decision you'd have to make. Is it worth it?

 

<3

[Guest Strawberry]

Thank you both!! I guess I just needed to hear that. I'll follow my heart (and brain and instinct) ^.^ The search for the right CG goes on~~

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

I wouldn't even consider it. You've already answered your own question.

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

I agree with everybody here. I personally don't think it's worth taking the risk.

 

I hope whatever you decide it works out for the best.

[Sirsumwun]

So I'll be the hated one I guess.

 

A relationship of any type is up to you to define.  Whether it be casual short-term or serious and long-term.  Each one does have it's value and you can learn love and enjoy both a great deal.  The most important thing is to understand what you're comfortable with and where your limits are.  Identify those limits and make sure everyone involved understands and accepts those limits.

 

Another thing to consider is how it integrates with your life.  Will you be putting everything else on hold while you engage in this?  Or will you continue to focus your real energy elsewhere potentially missing out on this?

 

You can get the opinions of anyone you want, and I strongly encourage you to discuss this with as many people as you feel comfortable.  But ultimately it's up to you to understand what you're getting yourself into or missing out on. 

 

My personal opinion is that if the benefits outweigh the drawbacks then everything is worth pursuing.