'Absurd' or Harsh Punishments?

[Anisadora]

I'm having a little bit of issues with my Daddy and would like to know what yall think is an absurd punishment, or a harsh punishment for breaking a rule such as swearing, or such. 

 

Also; should a Daddy add on punishment after punishment for a little breaking one rule; getting mad; and ending up breaking another in the same time they breaks the first one? 

[Littleoneandonly]

I wouldn't like to be grounded for swearing I like add on punishments personally really it's all up to what you like

[twifox the genderfluid fox]

well...i grew up with hotsuace used as a punishment for a bad mouth, i actualy think hotsuace is a great punishment cus its functanl works and is genraly safe n can als help later too, if used right. the way it was done to me was they started with a mild hotsauce n when i had a bad mouth they put some straight on my tounge, and when i got used to that hotsuace the whent up to one that was a bit hotter, and so i got punsihd in a safe manner for bad languge, and i grew a toliernce for spicy things so now i can eat lots of spicey food most ppl cant. so. it not only punishs but as u get used to it u can eat more and more spicey foods. i think its a good punishment if used this way ,starting at a low heat and going up as the person gets used to the heat ur at

[Luca]

Essentially the thing that's really important is the respecting of limits. You two need to set up as a pair what is fair game in terms of punishment, you need to indicate the boundaries of what you're comfortable with. It's not about what any one of us considers above and beyond what's fair. It's about what you consider above and beyond what's fair.

[Guest itsbabygirlbean]

Essentially the thing that's really important is the respecting of limits. You two need to set up as a pair what is fair game in terms of punishment, you need to indicate the boundaries of what you're comfortable with. It's not about what any one of us considers above and beyond what's fair. It's about what you consider above and beyond what's fair.

Perfectly stated.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I think you two need to have a conversation about punishments and your expectations. Everyone is different so what may be absurd or harsh to me may not be to you, etc.

[DaddysLolita]

Essentially the thing that's really important is the respecting of limits. You two need to set up as a pair what is fair game in terms of punishment, you need to indicate the boundaries of what you're comfortable with. It's not about what any one of us considers above and beyond what's fair. It's about what you consider above and beyond what's fair.

 

This *nods nods*

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Punishment should be about changing a behaviour or putting you off doing it again. If you keep repeating the behaviour, the punishment needs to get harsher or for longer.

Once can be a mistake. More than once is a choice. Even habitual behaviours. These can be harder to stamp out, but with the right consequences, they will get modified too.

 

It's impossible to judge what is classed as absurd or too harsh in a particular relationship. But if you keep repeating a behaviour, it's probably not harsh enough. Or it's overly harsh and making you resentful. You need to talk to him as an adult and figure out what the real issue is.

[HerDarkDaddy]

Sounds to me like you two REALLY need to try a little communication before you try anything else.

 

If you have a rule against swearing...and you swear...then, there should be a punishment.  You swear again, you have earned another punishment. I can't get out of tickets for breaking three different speed limits, just because they were all done on the same drive.  Each one counts...each one comes with a punishment.

 

That being said...the punishment should fit the crime...or, at least, be agreed to by both of you at the onset of your whole DD/lg relationship. If you agreed to the punishment...then, it did not seem to harsh to you at the time.  And if you only think it is too harsh now, because you keep breaking the same rule...well, that doesn't make it harsh...that makes it necessary and probably needs to be increased.

 

Rules are used for a reason, as are punishments.  If the current punishments are correcting the issue...then, they need to be modified.