What made you get "more little"?

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Might sound weird as a question, but hopefully it makes sense.

I have always felt my own little niche of being a little girl.

Still a grown up in her forties, just more innocent, naive, giggly, and my voice changes a little. Not a great change, it just gets a little higher when I talk to my daddy.

It was always quite a subtle thing.

I had notced that a few times recently, I have felt that side of me open up more with him.

My "little space" was coming about more , and feelng stronger.

For instance the other day he was giving me a maintanance spanking, and between the different stages, I found myself reaching for his thumb to suck, and twiddlng with my hair, which is something I haven't done since growng up. I used to do it all the time as a child.

I have realsed the more time I spend with him, the more I see that he accepts this part of me, the more it runs free.

And now its the big me that is the rarity around him.

My friend (who is training in psychology) says it seems that in the past, I could never accept it or let it be released because I always had bigger balls than the guys I ended up with.

But it actually seems that the big me is the act, the little me is the real me. Thats partly why I resented those relationships so much.

So, is this a common thing? Has anyone else noticed this kind of thing? And if so, do you know how it happend and what helped set it free?

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I'm very comfortable around my Daddy and one of the many reasons why I love him is because I'm allowed to let go and be vulnerable. I've always been the "strong" one amongst friends and family so when I found Daddy, it was a huge sigh of relief- I got to embrace a part of myself that's been absent for so long.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Thank you. I think part of my wonderment comes from only discovering and accepting this part of myself recently.

[Princess Joe Joe]

Wow! This is actually really funny, because I had noticed the same thing about myself. I came into DDlg with my Papa thinking I wasn't big about age regression. I was simply a naive, giggly woman who's voice got softer and who wished to be nurtured and cared for. 'Little space' was never a big thing for me personally. Which is why, to my surpise, when Papa made me noodles yesterday I found myself tugging my ear and sucking furiously on my thumb which is something I hadn't done since I was three. I feel like my little side is flourishing under Papas nurturing and possessive care. <3 I am excited to explore this side of me more and I am excited for you as well MyDaddyMyWorld

[DaddysLolita]

I totally understand what you're saying!

 

When Daddy and I started.. things were a little different as far as interests go. With time, we have explored other things, things we had considered off limits in the beginning, things we have come to like. I find myself being little more often than not and I think it's because he's so supportive and encourages me to explore and find myself. There's a great feeling of safety in doing so with him. He never judges me, never makes me feel bad or awkward for wanting to try something or mentioning an interest.

 

Previous reservations for both of us have been replaced with open mindedness and in doing that I've found that my interests extend a little further than originally thought.

 

He just makes it so easy to explore.. sometimes I have to ask for reassurance that I'm still his big girl too.

 

Little just runs rampant.

 

<3

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

I so get what you mean! My little side has shined through so much lately that I I feel myself doing things that I did as a child and being completely comfortable with having this little side be the bigger part of me as time goes on. Daddy encourages me to be little as much as possible and I think I have really blossomed under his nurturing guidance. I think the tables have really turned and what I once thought was me being adult with a touch of little has now become me the little... that's it. lol. I mean sure there's times where I can't be anything else but adult due to circumstance and responsibilities, but as soon as that is over its like I'm immediately in little space and its so very natural to me now.

 

Daddy is always so supportive of me in general, but also my little side. Its the way that he makes me feel free to just be me and be little with no embarrassment or shame in the things I do or the way my little is. That is what helps me grow and yet regress somewhat even more.

 

We're also always open to new ideas and each time we add something new to our dynamic...It's only makes it more wonderful. <3

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

It's really a comfort thing. The more comfortable you are the truer to your real self you'll be.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Thank you all for those wonderful comments. It's helped to make me realise I'm not losing my mind, haha.

I love seeing so many similar mindsets and experiences. I really appreciate all your input

He's gone back home now, so that part of me has to go back in its box (Oh that makes me think of my last conversation with daddy at the weekend about all of this. I gave that same phrase to him, about when I'm not with him, or when we're in public, and he squeezed my hand and said he never wants me to put any part of myself away in a box). He loves the big me, such as at his works Xmas party. I put the little me to sleep and was his grown up lady. He loved it.

But he also loves the little me, the one only he gets to see.

I will be living with him in the summer, and I'm sure that means it will be fully free. That's kind of both scary and wonderful! But of course he still wants the big me during the more sub/dom moments, and around other people.

[sassy]

This thread is really timely for me ....   My Daddy and I just had a major eye-opening discussion this past month.  Not to go too much off topic, but in an effort to make sense, some background is necessary.  We have been together a long time, 13 years.  When we started out we were D/s, evolved to M/s, then back to D/s.  Then to some sort of limbo that always kind of included DD/lg.  We tried domestic discipline for awhile, too.  The issue was, what we just realized recently (talk about lightbulb moments), was that in all of these dynamics we were playing out parts of our personalities, but not being completely true to ourselves.  DD/lg is who we are.  I have just now come to understand that *I* am my little.  That isn't just a little part of me, but it IS me.  I have always been that playful, giggly, big kid who never really grew up.  But I have also always kept that under wraps a bit.  I tried to protect my little heart because I didn't think I could stand the rejection if someone I loved didn't accept me for who I really am.  So I have always kept that part of me a little reserved and a little protected.  Like some others have said, I think it is really about comfort ... the more comfortable you become in your skin, the more the inner you shines through.  I know for us, even though we had seen each other's soft underbelly, so to speak, we both still had a little bit of a guard up because we were afraid we were failing the other based on the ups and downs of our previous dynamics.  But now, now we are comfortable.  Now it is safe to be fully and completely ourselves.  Since our discussion I have noticed that I am much more free with my littleness ... I am only "big" when I absolutely have to be.  The more little I am, the happier he is and the more true to myself I am.

I think I went on a rambling trail there for awhile ... I hope that made sense!

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Yes it made a lot of sense. Thank you for sharing your story. It's a learning process, and it's not only about finding yourself, but accepting yourself.

I only figured myself out properly less than a year ago, after a particularly stressful break up.

And that was the pinnacle of a few years of beginning to realise what I actually needed in a relationship. It took a very long time, and a difficult journey to get there. I genuinely buried this side of me my whole life, so deep I didn't even know it existed.

But now I'm free because the right person came along and allowed me to be.

We have many facets. Sub/dom, dD/lg, master/slave, boyfriend /girlfriend etc etc. It's a beautiful journey and we are both learning more as we grow as a couple.

[MadameButterfly]

This happened to me with my daddy. I've had two other daddies before him, and they were not good ones. So one day I was talking to my daddy very early in our relationship through messaging, and he made me feel really little. I had never felt that 'little' before and it scared me a lot at first. It had never happened like that with my other daddies before him. He makes me feel so comfortable and safe, that I let myself go and be little. But we have to be careful because we're currently LDR and I get very scared when I come out of little space and need aftercare.

[A Cuddly Dom]

 I have found over the course of the last year that I'm slowly becoming more comfortable with letting my little side come out. I think it's because of my friends here in this community and the love and support I had with my previous partner. She really encouraged my little side to come out more, and was very nurturing in that respect. I enjoyed letting go to a degree, the freedom in giving up some of the responsibility and need to be in control that I constantly feel as an adult and as a Dom. It can be hard to let go, when one is expected to be in control of everything at all times. I'm gradually exploring my little side now, letting him figure out his likes and dislikes. Mostly it's simple stuff like breakfast cereals and cartoons from my actual childhood, and the movies I grew up watching. I also really like warm pajamas made of soft materials. I would like to revisit some other activities like playing with clay, playdoh, and slime. I will still impulse buy little canisters of goop if they are on sale at a store   

 

 I'm not sure just how far I will venture into letting that side of me out, only time will tell. But, it is nice to have finally found a dynamic in which I can express all aspects of myself without fear. Here's hoping everyone will grow into their little selves and live happily ever after!

[Guest starrflower]

Thank you for starting this topic I also pushed my little/middle down for years. I was also unaware of it, but as time went on my little wanted to break free. I wore a mask most of the time and I love the thought of never wearing it again. My struggle now is only my biological age. I am in my forties and do not want it to hinder me from accepting and exploring my true little self

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Thank you guys. It's not always an easy journey. Even when we discover this side of ourselves and allow it to be free, the new challenge can be then having to switch back to grown up mode when it's needed. And for me myself, sadly that's most of the time!

I am in my forties. I was 43 when this first began, and 44 when it really began to be properly released. At first it was almostvan act, seeing how it worked, where I felt I belonged in the "little" spectrum, figuring it out in my own head.

You can be little at twenty, you can be little at sixty I assume. My daddy says I will still be his little girl when we're both old and grey. It's a very overused cliché, but doesn't stop it being true - being little is a state of mind unhindered by age, gender, size, sexuality or anything else.

[littleguwls_Dada]

Thank you soo much for this thread, MyDaddyMyWorld....Reading theses comments has meant so much to my lttle guwl and to me...to see others are going through the same growing and seeking process that we are experiencing...Thanks soo much

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Well you are welcome! Quite surprised to see its a hot topic! Just never thought these feelings were so typical.

[Dadaslittleguwl]

i identify with much of whats been posted.  Finding myself open up and allowing my little self to come out more and more as trust grows.  Guards that maybe i wasnt even aware of having have faded away.

 

Its nice to know the feelings we have are shared by others.. i think it gives a sense of validity to them.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Yes that's true. Like I've probably said, I buried it so far deep inside even I didn't know it was there, and goes some way towards explaining one reason I had so much resentment towards certain guys I've been involved with, and why I was never really happy at all.

[creepycutie805]

Other than how I never grew out of most of my childhood interests and I feel like I stopped growing up at 16... I've wondered if the fact that I didn't get affection like most other kids could be one thing that plays a part in my littleness. My parents weren't the type to give out hugs, a shoulder to cry on, and words of encouragement to their children. Instead, if I got a bad grade at school or messed up on a little task, they would tell me I was dumb and useless rather than making any attempt to correct my mistakes. My mom is strict so I rarely got to hang out with friends or do fun outdoors kid stuff while growing up either.

 

Being "little" does feel like the real me as well. I'm pretty much in little space almost all the time. Being around my family is probably the only thing that puts me out of it. But my littleness is there even when I'm doing "big" stuff like work, of course it will be more subtle than if I were by myself or with the guy I like.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Thank you guys for more points of view.

It's funny, I'm going through a really, badly stressful time right now. Three major issues all at once. That might normally make me feel more little, but it's like it's sent it into hiding. I have to be big and strong more than at any other time for a long while. It's like deep inside I know I cannot go there, as it would affect my ability to fight through.

[jellicle baby]

ever since I was an actual child, I loved being teased for being small or short, and I loved being nurtured and loved. when I later discovered this life I took an interest in more material childish things like pacifiers and sippy cups. through self discovery of sorts I've come to realize I'm a lot more little than I thought ^-^ now it's an integral part of my personality!