Things you wish littles knew?

[Chibi Fruit]

I'm a new little and I'm very curious to know if there's anything other Littles, middles, DD, MD, or CG wish all newer Littles knew when beginning to explore this lifestyle. Or even any advice you wish you would have received yourself a bit earlier on? Also You can call me Chi BTW. ʕ ꈍᴥꈍʔ

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

Hi hi! Welcome to the lifestyle! ♡

I've got a few thoughts you might find useful. They're listed for easier reading, but not in order of importance. You may know some of this already, but I don't want to assume anything.

•  If you're trauma-based, seek professional help. You are not alone, but don't let Littlespace become a crutch.
•  It's totally acceptable to be/stay single. Having a dom/mommy/daddy/caregiver is not mandatory to be a Little.
•  Your feelings and boundaries are valid.
•  You're allowed to say no.
•  If a situation feels like a red flag, follow your instincts.
•  There is no right or wrong way to be Little.
•  It's okay to just be yourself.
•  Exploration and experimenting with other roles, beyond just being a Little, is totally fine.
•  Honest communication with partner(s) is important in a romantic relationship.
•  Having intimacy isn't a requirement to be a Little in a DDLG relationship. Platonic caregivers exist.
•  Not all Littles are submissive, not all caregivers are doms.
•  It's okay to step away from the lifestyle at any time, but equally okay to rejoin.
•  Familiarize yourself with BDSM terminology, such as SSC (safe sane consensual).
• DDLG is a subcommunity of BDSM.

[Chibi Fruit]

1 minute ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

Hi hi! Welcome to the lifestyle! ♡

I've got a few thoughts you might find useful. They're listed for easier reading, but not in order of importance. You may know some of this already, but I don't want to assume anything.

•  If you're trauma-based, seek professional help. You are not alone, but don't let Littlespace become a crutch.
•  It's totally acceptable to be/stay single. Having a dom/mommy/daddy/caregiver is not mandatory to be a Little.
•  Your feelings and boundaries are valid.
•  You're allowed to say no.
•  If a situation feels like a red flag, follow your instincts.
•  There is no right or wrong way to be Little.
•  It's okay to just be yourself.
•  Exploration and experimenting with other roles, beyond just being a Little, is totally fine.
•  Honest communication with partner(s) is important in a romantic relationship.
•  Having intimacy isn't a requirement to be a Little in a DDLG relationship. Platonic caregivers exist.
•  Not all Littles are submissive, not all caregivers are doms.
•  It's okay to step away from the lifestyle at any time, but equally okay to rejoin.
•  Familiarize yourself with BDSM terminology, such as SSC (safe sane consensual).
• DDLG is a subcommunity of BDSM.

What a wonderful break down! I really appreciate your response.♡ I'd like to toot my little horn at already knowing what SSC, PRICK, RACK and the 4 c's are! ᕙ(‾̀◡‾́)ᕗ I tried my very best to learn the bare bones basics before joining the forum. I'm hoping i did well. As for my mental health, I have access to my therapist should I need to see her, but I am happy to announce, i no longer need to go regularly. Only every 6 months or so when I need a gentle nudge back into the right direction. 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@Chibi Fruit You're more than welcomed!

It's good to know you've been doing your research! And I think you're doing well! But don't ever be afraid to reach out and ask the forum questions. I'm not the only one who's willing to ramble some good advice, or general knowledge, at newer users around here. And while my account is on the newer end, I've been involved with this lifestyle for a little over a decade. Now, I'm not trying to suggest that I think I know everything ever, but what I do know, I don't mind sharing- and what I don't know, I don't mind looking for.

I'm also glad to hear that you're doing so well, despite trauma. It's always nice to see others that are doing better. I can tell you now that it never goes away, but it does get easier to deal with. I'll add you back, so you'll be able to pm me. Feel free to ask me any questions you might have, and I'll answer them to the best of my ability. 

[Chibi Fruit]

Oh absolutely! I hope it doesn't sound odd to say that I lurked around the forum for a couple of days before joining. I wasnt trying to be a weirdo, just get a feeling for the site. I ended up joining because I saw so many people active and accepting. Really made me feel like this would be a safer place to ask questions and interact with similar people. Especially because my personal life currently doesn't have much room for my little space.

Just in the sense that  I'm still learning what being a little means for me and I'm not ready to share that with anyone I know yet. Even though my partner knew I was a little long before I did, I want the chance to intimately understand this new side of myself on my own. For my bad days my mini stuffies, my journal, and meditation carry me through when my IRL friends are unavailable to spend time together. Uh but I digress because I think I'm starting to ramble. In short thank you so much, everyone on here so far has been wonderful. ʕ ꈍᴥꈍʔ

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

I think a lot of people do that before potentially joining any new-to-them website. I always like to check and see how active forums are, myself. And then what type of posts get made. It's nice having a general idea for what you're about to step into. So no, I don't think it sounds odd that you lurked. And for the most part, this is absolutely a safer place to ask any questions.

Notice that I said safer and not safe or safest. There is no such thing as a purely safe place anywhere, but our staff here is very good at handling issues when they pop up. So don't be afraid to report anything that happens, if you ever need to. They're both very chill and easygoing. It really is rare here to run into problems, but can still happen, given the nature of the site.

And it's absolutely okay to ramble here. Admittedly, a lot of us here do that, myself included, lol. I'm glad you've got a bit of an idea of what to do on not-so-good days. Hopefully you'll be able to expand your Littlespace to exactly how you want it! My whole house looks like an actual toddler lives here, but it's actually just my stuff. I've reached Zen levels of Littlespace to where I'm not embarrassed by my stuff around the house, even when new people show up. If something like this is your long-term goal, just remember that as long as you're not hurting yourself or others, you're totally fine. 

[Chibi Fruit]

13 minutes ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

I think a lot of people do that before potentially joining any new-to-them website. I always like to check and see how active forums are, myself. And then what type of posts get made. It's nice having a general idea for what you're about to step into. So no, I don't think it sounds odd that you lurked. And for the most part, this is absolutely a safer place to ask any questions.

Notice that I said safer and not safe or safest. There is no such thing as a purely safe place anywhere, but our staff here is very good at handling issues when they pop up. So don't be afraid to report anything that happens, if you ever need to. They're both very chill and easygoing. It really is rare here to run into problems, but can still happen, given the nature of the site.

And it's absolutely okay to ramble here. Admittedly, a lot of us here do that, myself included, lol. I'm glad you've got a bit of an idea of what to do on not-so-good days. Hopefully you'll be able to expand your Littlespace to exactly how you want it! My whole house looks like an actual toddler lives here, but it's actually just my stuff. I've reached Zen levels of Littlespace to where I'm not embarrassed by my stuff around the house, even when new people show up. If something like this is your long-term goal, just remember that as long as you're not hurting yourself or others, you're totally fine. 

I absolutely get what you mean by safer and not safest. I'm more familiar with reddit and that's where I first started looking things up. Not sure why I initially thought that would be a good idea, but it did lead me here in the end so I'm going with it. It is truly heart warming to see everyone taking care of each other here. Brings tears to my wee little eyes ༼☯﹏☯༽ One day I would absolutely love having a house full of stuffies and little stuff ♡

My partner isn't quite comfortable with it on that level though and I'm ok with that! He's still in his own phase of discovery and we work together to keep each other safe and comfy. I have a plan and rules for creating my own personal, private little space i can go hog wild in. ᕙ(‾̀◡‾́)ᕗ

 

I've only really been active today but having others littles to talk to today and other people who understand has been a cathartic experience of it's own i wasn't really aware I needed until now. I'm so grateful to the people who made this space and keep it safe for all us ʕ ꈍᴥꈍʔ I'm also really happy your able to live freely and authentically. It's inspiring to see and definitely something I will keep in mind if anyone ever tries to make me feel less than for being who I am. ♡

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@Chibi Fruit

Reddit? Oh... oh dear, lol. Reading thots and the many shit posts, yes. But actually joining any subreddits? Absolutely not.

Community is always a nice thing to have, and our community here is rather cozy. I hope you manage to reach your goals, both big and small! We're here, if you need us~