Now Available: The Caregiver Application Form!

[LittleMissMaple]

Disclaimer:
This application is intended as a communication aid, not a replacement for building connection or trust. While it can help facilitate conversations around boundaries, caregiving style, and emotional needs, it is not a guarantee of safety or compatibility.

Littles and caregivers are encouraged to use this form mindfully, as part of a larger journey of getting to know one another — not as a shortcut or a checklist.

 

This form is designed to help littles find safe, emotionally mature, and genuinely caring caregivers. Whether you're looking for a serious dynamic or just need help filtering out red flags, this application encourages real connection, healthy boundaries, and kindness.

• Printable & Fillable
• Pastel-themed & cute as heck
• Includes emotional maturity check and red flag questions

Let's make the DDLG/CGL space softer, safer, and more full of love ❤️

Download link (Please tell me if it doesn't work): https://drive.google.com/file/d/15LD6esjjGHuX_zLLVUABNk7VdlLswFHS/view?usp=sharing

Feel free to use it, share it, or adapt it -- just please don't remove credit as I worked very hard on this!

With fluff and love,

-MissMaple

P.S 

This is not about exclusion - it's about safety and clarity.

Also, I would love to know your thoughts! I'm honestly stressing about it haha

Edited Tuesday at 09:22 AM by LittleMissMaple

[WizardofOSS]

Oh! That's beautiful!! Good work LittleMissMaple!! I'm gonna use this!

[LittleMissMaple]

Feel free to ask any questions or message me privately if you're unsure how to use it! I'm happy to help ❤️ 

 

[WizardofOSS]

Oh no, it really is well done! It's got eye-catching pastel graphics, beautiful fonts and many questions CG's and Daddy's have been asked by Littles, or we should be asking ourselves! Truly it's a good job!! Thank you!

Did you have an idea of where to post completed ones, or are these just for our own distribution?

Edited Monday at 06:34 PM by WizardofOSS

[LittleMissMaple]

3 minutes ago, WizardofOSS said:

Oh no, it really is well done! It's got eye-catching pastel graphics, beautiful fonts and many questions CG's and Daddy's have been asked by Littles, or we should be asking ourselves! Truly it's a good job!! Thank you!

Did you have an idea of where to post completed ones, or are these just for our own distribution?

Mmmmm, it was mainly for your own distribution. But I guess if you would like to, I would say to post completed ones in introductions or personal? ❤️ 

[NR_Daddy]

While the things contained within cover the essentials of CG/L and DDLG, I'd be extremely hesitant in filling out this form for anyone I start talking to online.

I'd rather just talk and get to know any little over time with normal conversation. Also when the time is right and without pressure, if I felt a connection with them, then discussions might flow into discussing some of the deeper parts of establishing a dynamic. If we decided upon embarking on a DDLG relationship, most of these things would have already been discussed.

It might suit some, but it wouldn't be something for me.

I don't want to criticise your effort, because I can see you have put a lot of effort in, but if someone has to fill out this form, then maybe they're not suited to this dynamic after all.

[LittleMissMaple]

8 minutes ago, NR_Daddy said:

While the things contained within cover the essentials of CG/L and DDLG, I'd be extremely hesitant in filling out this form for anyone I start talking to online.

I'd rather just talk and get to know any little over time with normal conversation. Also when the time is right and without pressure, if I felt a connection with them, then discussions might flow into discussing some of the deeper parts of establishing a dynamic. If we decided upon embarking on a DDLG relationship, most of these things would have already been discussed.

It might suit some, but it wouldn't be something for me.

I don't want to criticise your effort, because I can see you have put a lot of effort in, but if someone has to fill out this form, then maybe they're not suited to this dynamic after all.

Thank you for sharing your perspective — I truly do appreciate that you took the time to read through the form and offer your thoughts so thoughtfully.

I completely understand that this kind of tool may not suit everyone. Some people feel most comfortable building connections organically and slowly, and that’s totally valid. My intention with this form wasn’t to replace natural connection or conversation — it was to create a protective structure for littles (like myself) who have been hurt, manipulated, or rushed into unhealthy dynamics before.

For many of us, especially those with trauma or vulnerability in littlespace, having clear communication and emotional accountability upfront isn’t just helpful — it’s necessary. It’s a way of setting expectations, asking for safety, and filtering out those who may not be ready or willing to engage with the full emotional responsibility of a caregiver role.

I respect your approach, and I hope others who feel like you do find what works best for them. At the same time, I created this form for littles who are still trying to find their footing — and for CGs who want to support that process with care, clarity, and intention.

So while it may not suit everyone, I believe it will help those who need something like this — and that’s who it’s here for.

With kindness,
— MissMaple 🍓

[NR_Daddy]

2 minutes ago, LittleMissMaple said:

Thank you for sharing your perspective — I truly do appreciate that you took the time to read through the form and offer your thoughts so thoughtfully.

I completely understand that this kind of tool may not suit everyone. Some people feel most comfortable building connections organically and slowly, and that’s totally valid. My intention with this form wasn’t to replace natural connection or conversation — it was to create a protective structure for littles (like myself) who have been hurt, manipulated, or rushed into unhealthy dynamics before.

For many of us, especially those with trauma or vulnerability in littlespace, having clear communication and emotional accountability upfront isn’t just helpful — it’s necessary. It’s a way of setting expectations, asking for safety, and filtering out those who may not be ready or willing to engage with the full emotional responsibility of a caregiver role.

I respect your approach, and I hope others who feel like you do find what works best for them. At the same time, I created this form for littles who are still trying to find their footing — and for CGs who want to support that process with care, clarity, and intention.

So while it may not suit everyone, I believe it will help those who need something like this — and that’s who it’s here for.

With kindness,
— MissMaple 🍓

Thank you for your understanding MissMaple.

My mantra is to establish a connection based upon friendship at first. I try to connect with people as a person first, getting to know them without any kind of pressures of expectation of a future as anything more.

I personally couldn't consider being someone's daddy unless a connection is made in a platonic way first.

[LittleMissMaple]

1 minute ago, NR_Daddy said:

Thank you for your understanding MissMaple.

My mantra is to establish a connection based upon friendship at first. I try to connect with people as a person first, getting to know them without any kind of pressures of expectation of a future as anything more.

I personally couldn't consider being someone's daddy unless a connection is made in a platonic way first.

Oh of course! I completely agree with that, without the beginning of just a simple platonic friendship, personally to me it feels like rushing into a relationship without that first connection. And the cycle would just repeat if you get what I mean?

[LittleMissMaple]

Just now, LittleMissMaple said:

Oh of course! I completely agree with that, without the beginning of just a simple platonic friendship, personally to me it feels like rushing into a relationship without that first connection. And the cycle would just repeat if you get what I mean?

I didn't really intend my form to be used immediately, whenever a little wants their CG to, I guess? Once they feel comfortable and cant think of the right questions to ask. It's there for them as a guide or if they just want to outright give it to the cg in question 🤷‍♀️ Whatever ya'll do with it is up to you ❤️ Its to act as encouragement and as a guide

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

I think this form could be very helpful for neurodivergent communicators or incredibly shy Littles. But I'm worried the form could become a communication crutch for anybody not already stable enough.

On the flip side of it;

I also see how some caregivers might take advantage of it and be all, "I filled out this form, therefore I'm safe regardless of how you feel about the answers." And basically gaslight their way into relationships with the more vulnerable Littles. Not saying all Littles are vulnerable, but many certainly are.

Of course, that's not to say I don't appreciate the effort you've put into making this form. But I definitely think some kind of disclaimer about being prepared for communication outside of the form, is a good idea. That this is merely a tool and not meant to replace open communication.

Edit;

I'm aware that you said *encourages real connection* but that's not the same as referring to this sort of thing as a tool, imho.

Edited Monday at 09:11 PM by .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ
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[Little kaiya]

Certainly people will prefer different approaches and some may like tools while others may not. Personally the notion of having to read or fill out a form or a contract or something similar just make it feel like a business transaction which for me would be a massive turn off and an instant, thank you but hard no. Within any of the relationship my I've had over the years they developed and evolved differently so the thought of taking a formulaic approach feels, kind of cold and transactional to me. The questions I asked a potential partner would differ based on the person.

I can see for some folks standardizing an approach may reduce stress.  On tge other hand u can also see it adding a different kind by making it feel like a business transaction.

Edited Monday at 09:28 PM by Little kaiya

[LittleMissMaple]

11 hours ago, Little kaiya said:

Certainly people will prefer different approaches and some may like tools while others may not. Personally the notion of having to read or fill out a form or a contract or something similar just make it feel like a business transaction which for me would be a massive turn off and an instant, thank you but hard no. Within any of the relationship my I've had over the years they developed and evolved differently so the thought of taking a formulaic approach feels, kind of cold and transactional to me. The questions I asked a potential partner would differ based on the person.

I can see for some folks standardizing an approach may reduce stress.  On tge other hand u can also see it adding a different kind by making it feel like a business transaction.

 

12 hours ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

I think this form could be very helpful for neurodivergent communicators or incredibly shy Littles. But I'm worried the form could become a communication crutch for anybody not already stable enough.

On the flip side of it;

I also see how some caregivers might take advantage of it and be all, "I filled out this form, therefore I'm safe regardless of how you feel about the answers." And basically gaslight their way into relationships with the more vulnerable Littles. Not saying all Littles are vulnerable, but many certainly are.

Of course, that's not to say I don't appreciate the effort you've put into making this form. But I definitely think some kind of disclaimer about being prepared for communication outside of the form, is a good idea. That this is merely a tool and not meant to replace open communication.

Edit;

I'm aware that you said *encourages real connection* but that's not the same as referring to this sort of thing as a tool, imho.

Thank you both so much for taking the time to share your perspectives — I really appreciate thoughtful replies like these.

I want to gently clarify that the Caregiver Application is meant to be a supportive tool, not a substitute for communication. It's something littles (especially those who are shy, ND, or trauma-affected) can use if they struggle to express their needs or ask difficult questions upfront.

You're absolutely right — no form or questionnaire should ever replace open, evolving conversation. And I love the idea of adding a soft disclaimer to remind littles that this isn’t a substitute for ongoing connection — just a comfort tool when words are hard.

I also really appreciate the reminder that CGs could potentially misuse the form to “prove” safety without actually showing it in their actions. That’s a concern I hadn’t thought of in that way, and I’ll definitely include a gentle note about that as well.

This tool won’t be for everyone, and that’s okay. But I hope it offers a bit of extra safety and clarity for those of us who need it. 💗 Thank you again for such thoughtful feedback.

— MissMaple 🍓❤️

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

I feel that there's no real reason to completely shut this down with a firm 'no', because communication can actually be hard sometimes. Will I ever use this personally? No, probably not. But I do appreciate a good tool regardless.

And yeah, I think adding those soft disclaimers about potential risks and intended usage, would be for the best. Not just for your safety, but the potential users as well.

I had one last thought regarding Littles who have trauma though. I think that also having a soft disclaimer about seeking professional help, could be beneficial.

The way I see it, if they are needing this list due to trauma, then there's potential that they don't currently get therapy for one reason or another. Gentle reminders with reassurance like this, can be helpful for the more vulnerable individuals, imho.

I know there's still stigma that goes along with getting mental help, so that's where I'm coming from with this feedback. Just feel the need to state that I'm not shaming anyone by sharing this opinion.

[WizardofOSS]

Hmm....all valid responses, but I think I need to add some real life examples to why this form is a good tool to use among organic conversation, relationship building and friendship if I may.

My wife is Autstic and ADHD. Whenever we are about to see a movie, or eat at a restaurant, she has a compelling need to research the story, menu, whatever to minimize surprises, pressure and stress. It's not due to trauma, just a need to minimize surprises and pressure which she has difficulty dealing with due to her condition. I have seen many other littles with ADHD or even on the 'tism' spectrum. Whether they also use this strategy to minimize stress I cannot say, but this form is similar to the 'personals' or 'introductions' we all fill out on forums like this. I do know that many littles creep those profiles and even your posts before replying to an invitation. (I see it in my feed) This form simply provides another data point to minimize stress, establish more known parameters and make the little feel less stressed.

On the flip side, this is also a tool of very good questions Littles and GG's should consider when entering this dynamic. New CG's haven't thought of some of these questions, and new littles can use these to watch for red flags and get an idea ahead of time what things to be looking for. I see this as a win-win tool in our toolbox for establishing happy and healthy relationships.

Could someone use this to catfish someone? Sure, but a prudent and quick search of a person's profile, posts or even asking friends (as one little asked me not too long ago about another CG) will reveal the truth. It's not a certificate of truth, simply a preview of a person's feeling that may help create less stress, set expectations and create a more meaningful conversation.

It's not for everyone, I understand that, but why leave a tool in the rain when it's available? Even in an organically grown friendship, you never know when some of these questions might be useful to ask or even consider. After years in this dynamic, I found these questions very thought provoking and relevant to anyone. Answers will change over time, and what you do with those answers are up to you.

Thanks for attending my TED talk.  

[LittleMissMaple]

14 minutes ago, WizardofOSS said:

Hmm....all valid responses, but I think I need to add some real life examples to why this form is a good tool to use among organic conversation, relationship building and friendship if I may.

My wife is Autstic and ADHD. Whenever we are about to see a movie, or eat at a restaurant, she has a compelling need to research the story, menu, whatever to minimize surprises, pressure and stress. It's not due to trauma, just a need to minimize surprises and pressure which she has difficulty dealing with due to her condition. I have seen many other littles with ADHD or even on the 'tism' spectrum. Whether they also use this strategy to minimize stress I cannot say, but this form is similar to the 'personals' or 'introductions' we all fill out on forums like this. I do know that many littles creep those profiles and even your posts before replying to an invitation. (I see it in my feed) This form simply provides another data point to minimize stress, establish more known parameters and make the little feel less stressed.

On the flip side, this is also a tool of very good questions Littles and GG's should consider when entering this dynamic. New CG's haven't thought of some of these questions, and new littles can use these to watch for red flags and get an idea ahead of time what things to be looking for. I see this as a win-win tool in our toolbox for establishing happy and healthy relationships.

Could someone use this to catfish someone? Sure, but a prudent and quick search of a person's profile, posts or even asking friends (as one little asked me not too long ago about another CG) will reveal the truth. It's not a certificate of truth, simply a preview of a person's feeling that may help create less stress, set expectations and create a more meaningful conversation.

It's not for everyone, I understand that, but why leave a tool in the rain when it's available? Even in an organically grown friendship, you never know when some of these questions might be useful to ask or even consider. After years in this dynamic, I found these questions very thought provoking and relevant to anyone. Answers will change over time, and what you do with those answers are up to you.

Thanks for attending my TED talk.  

Thank you so much for saying this☺️ 

I've been trying to say something similar, but I could never put it into the right words! So, thank you!

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

I appreciate the added disclaimer in the op!