Grooming- Question for CG / Little / Middles

[Guest xx-Bear-xx]

Open Question for Both CGs and Littles/Middles!

Do you and your CG have any special routines or shared activities when it comes to appearance or "grooming" in your dynamic?

For example.... my Daddy use to pick my nail colors and designs.... it became a fun bonding activity and I would always think of him whenever I looked at my nails....

Grooming can be hair or makeup.. clothes.. nails... anything... it's being dressed and presented in a way that pleases your CG.... like a cherished doll....

Some enjoy the structure and ritual of their CG choosing outfits, accessories, or even scents for them.

Does anyone else have a routine or experience they enjoy or want to try ?

[Memento_Vivere]

I'm not currently in a dynamic but I suppose my answer to this in terms of previous would be yes, albeit mildly.

The nails are a good one and I'd often be asked my opinion on colours and usually my preference would be the one picked. The daily picking of outfits or underwear was definitely something I explored previously. Id be shown options and get to pick what my little would wear each day and this would be demonstrated in person or with pictures. Bath time is my favourite care activity and I loved being part of that with my little, helping get clean, drying afterwards, helping brush hair and then helping pick some nice PJs.

I think it definitely creates a close bond and enhances trust within the dynamic. Those subtle things also act as reminders throughout the day, like the nail colour for example 😊

[Aikko]

Love this! And your nails are all so pretty!! I don’t get my toes done often, but when I do, Daddy always picks the color. Not cuz he has to but because we both enjoy having him help me pick. I also ask him to help with my outfits and stuff cuz he’s actually pretty stylish. I like my independence but I also like when Daddy takes control of those types of things as my Dom sometimes. I am definitely into the idea of having Daddy in control of my grooming and style habits, but it would not be something I want all the time. As far as scent and stuff goes, yep, same there. I always seek his input and it’s because I want to smell good for me, but I also want it to be a scent I know Daddy loves. A good example there, is we talked about deodorant the one day and he was wearing the same scent my abusive ex wore and it didn’t trigger me, but he sought my input and we learned I didn’t like that scent anymore so he switched. Not because I couldn’t deal with it, because I could, but because he also wants to wear a scent that is pleasing to his little. So I guess yeah, we kinda do have that in our dynamic, but it wasn’t something I really considered till now. Thanks for the thought-provoking post! 😁

[Baby Manda]

In my online dynamic I preferred having my Caregiver pick all my clothes. I like wearing something someone else picked out for me.  It helped me feel cared for, cherished and supported. I also let my Caregiver pick my pajamas and underwear,  pull-up or diaper. It brought me comfort to know my Caregiver heard me when I shared my day and knew what I needed. It calmed my anxiety and built trust.

I sent pictures once I was dressed and loved the little encouragement from the comments.  

Both my online and in-person Caregivers have been ok with me sometimes asking about hairstyles, when I needed the extra support. It helps me get into littlespace better or feel pretty when I'm facing something really difficult. Pigtails, braids,  ponytail, hair down,  little clips, hair bows, and a mix of everything. I've never been brave enough to let anyone give me a bath or actually do my hair, but I am hopeful! 

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy will bathe me and get me ready for bed but for day to day wear I prefer He doesn't pick my attire. Being genderfluid it can be really hard to pick clothes that fit my gender at a given time. My Daddy is really good at knowing my gender but He also respects that the wrong attire can sometimes trigger gender dysphoria. 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

I don't let my, graphic t-shirts and jeans, Mommy pick my outfits. I'm a Fashionista, and don't want her handing me unmatchable unicorns. Just because there's a lot of pink and glitter, doesn't mean everything flows well.

I will ask her what she thinks, but only once I'm done getting ready. Though, it's more akin to putting on a pretend fashion show, and less of me asking for her permission/approval.

Hair? My hair is insanely thick and prone to curl drop, while my scalp is sensitive with seborrheic dermatitis. So I don't like other people doing my hair.

Nails? I don't normally do anything too fancy. I keep them trimmed neatly, but they're not currently painted. But I wouldn't let Mommy pick my polish either. They're on my hand, not hers.

Edited April 6 by .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ
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[Baby Manda]

55 minutes ago, .คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ said:

I don't let my, graphic t-shirts and jeans, Mommy pick my outfits. I'm a Fashionista, and don't want her handing me unmatchable unicorns. Just because there's a lot of pink and glitter, doesn't mean everything flows well.

I will ask her what she thinks, but only once I'm done getting ready. Though, it's more akin to putting on a pretend fashion show, and less of me asking for her permission/approval.

Hair? My hair is insanely thick and prone to curl drop, while my scalp is sensitive with seborrheic dermatitis. So I don't like other people doing my hair.

Nails? I don't normally do anything too fancy. I keep them trimmed neatly, but they're not currently painted. But I wouldn't let Mommy pick my polish either. They're on my hand, not hers.

I love this! You are you and it's beautiful! I have 2 daughters just like you when it comes to fashion, hair and nails! I'm not even allowed an opinion! Just stand there and oooo or aaaah!

I'm so thankful we live in a world where we can be who we are, at least today!