Long distance dynamics different time zones

[KingVyn]

A couple days ago Ive felt the disconnection with someone who we are trying a dynamic with. Our time zones are definitely a whole lot different from each other.
when we are awake they are asleep and vice versa when we are heading to sleep they are awake. 
They are amazing and very intelligent, responsible, silly, and most of all caring. 
sometimes we get the chance to talk long but most of the time it’s difficult all getting together because our time zones are separated from theirs. 

[-Soul-]

Hi! Hello! Friendly Neighbourhood Soul here!Maintaining a Dynamic in a LDR with different time zones can be challenging, but with some creativity and consistency, can be very rewarding! Some ideas to maybe look at:-

Leave "Surprises" for Each Other

Since your schedules don't always align, set up small things for you both to discover when each of you wake up or get free time, like:-

 - Pre-recorded voice or video messages (good morning/night messages, lullabies, affirmations).

- Journal entries (Google Docs, Notion, or a shared diary app will help with this)

- Little space tasks or challenges (like “Colour this page and send me a pic!”)

Asynchronous Role-play & Tasks

- Virtual "Task Lists": you can leave tasks for your little to complete when they wake up. Example: “Brush your teeth and send me a picture! Pick your PJs and tell me about them!”

- Journaling / Sticker Charts: The little can write about their day or complete activities, and you can respond when you wake up.

- Habit Tracker App: Log routines, stickers, or rewards for being good.

"Overlapping" Time Rituals

Even if your time zones are opposite, find small windows where you're both awake.

- Video calls during overlaps (even if short, like waking up and saying goodnight).

- "Time Capsules" (record a voice memo for later, like a bedtime tuck-in).

 

Even when you’re not actively talking, small things can help maintain a sense of presence.

- Wear a matching colour or bracelet for example.

- Set alarms with their voice recording for wake-ups or reminders.

 

Ultimately with a little creativity and effort it can work!

 

I wish you all the best

[KingVyn]

Thankyou soul I was needing to hear this~ 👊🏾🤍

im sure the same amount of effort can be put into our cgmommy dynamic too right? Or maybe you have different ideas? 

[-Soul-]

Oh yes! Apologies I was just using CG/L as an example but yes CG/M works just the same way, maybe need to just change some of the “Little” things to less little things haha

Edited March 21 by -Soul-

[KingVyn]

Thanks bro 👊🏾🤍

[the_trucking_pawpaw]

7 hours ago, KingVyn said:

A couple days ago Ive felt the disconnection with someone who we are trying a dynamic with. Our time zones are definitely a whole lot different from each other.
when we are awake they are asleep and vice versa when we are heading to sleep they are awake. 
They are amazing and very intelligent, responsible, silly, and most of all caring. 
sometimes we get the chance to talk long but most of the time it’s difficult all getting together because our time zones are separated from theirs. 

 

6 hours ago, -Soul- said:

Hi! Hello! Friendly Neighbourhood Soul here!Maintaining a Dynamic in a LDR with different time zones can be challenging, but with some creativity and consistency, can be very rewarding! Some ideas to maybe look at:-

Leave "Surprises" for Each Other

Since your schedules don't always align, set up small things for you both to discover when each of you wake up or get free time, like:-

 - Pre-recorded voice or video messages (good morning/night messages, lullabies, affirmations).

- Journal entries (Google Docs, Notion, or a shared diary app will help with this)

- Little space tasks or challenges (like “Colour this page and send me a pic!”)

Asynchronous Role-play & Tasks

- Virtual "Task Lists": you can leave tasks for your little to complete when they wake up. Example: “Brush your teeth and send me a picture! Pick your PJs and tell me about them!”

- Journaling / Sticker Charts: The little can write about their day or complete activities, and you can respond when you wake up.

- Habit Tracker App: Log routines, stickers, or rewards for being good.

"Overlapping" Time Rituals

Even if your time zones are opposite, find small windows where you're both awake.

- Video calls during overlaps (even if short, like waking up and saying goodnight).

- "Time Capsules" (record a voice memo for later, like a bedtime tuck-in).

 

Even when you’re not actively talking, small things can help maintain a sense of presence.

- Wear a matching colour or bracelet for example.

- Set alarms with their voice recording for wake-ups or reminders.

 

Ultimately with a little creativity and effort it can work!

 

I wish you all the best

Thank you KingVyn for asking and thanks to Soul for your response. I'm new to the ddlg community as a CG and learning a lot. That is such good info to have, especially in this digital age. There are so many relationships happening from a distance and that sounds like great stuff to keep connected!

[-Soul-]

@the_trucking_pawpaw your most welcome my friend, we are fortunate that this digital age can have so many benefits. Don’t get me wrong there are drawbacks to it also but I am trying to take a new stance on life and focus on the positives! If you have any questions or the such feel free to reach out, while I don’t have all the answers I have been around a fair while to pick up things and make many friends within the community 

[beanbean]

7 hours ago, KingVyn said:

A couple days ago Ive felt the disconnection with someone who we are trying a dynamic with. Our time zones are definitely a whole lot different from each other.
when we are awake they are asleep and vice versa when we are heading to sleep they are awake. 
They are amazing and very intelligent, responsible, silly, and most of all caring. 
sometimes we get the chance to talk long but most of the time it’s difficult all getting together because our time zones are separated from theirs. 

It’s hard there has to be a deep understanding and both sides have to try there best to keep in contact even if it’s short message 

[the_trucking_pawpaw]

1 hour ago, -Soul- said:

@the_trucking_pawpaw your most welcome my friend, we are fortunate that this digital age can have so many benefits. Don’t get me wrong there are drawbacks to it also but I am trying to take a new stance on life and focus on the positives! If you have any questions or the such feel free to reach out, while I don’t have all the answers I have been around a fair while to pick up things and make many friends within the community 

Good to know! I'm actually planning on posting something in caregiver cafe soon as I have a little more time on a subject that has kinda triggered a daddy response in me to feel protective. Online relationships play a role in it both positively and negatively, but I think it needs mentioned and talked about! I've found this forum to be so open and friendly I feel like it's something that can be brought up and discussed.

[-Soul-]

@the_trucking_pawpaw I’ll keep eye out for it