Daddy help, uncertainty, and Confusion

[Guest Little-Skitzy]

I'm gonna try to explain this as best I can. Me and my boyfriend have gotten into DD/lg over the past few months and I need some advice. I have gotten very used to going into Little space and being Little very easily. I want to have things like coloring books and pacis but I really have no way to get them since I'm still at home with my parents. I can't get the cute clothes I want without them freaking out and saying I need to grow up. I can't enjoy being Little unless I'm with Daddy or by myself and even by myself I can only watch the cute shows I like, but no coloring or stuffies. I have to act like an adult at home and it is very hard for me. As for my Daddy issue, he doesn't seem to be sure on how to be a daddy. All he does is set bedtimes and punishments and calls me princess. He hasn't really treated me like a little. And I'm not sure how to talk to him about it or show him that I want to have more schedules and actually watch cute movies with him and sit in his lap while he plays games. I have no idea how to really be little with him when he doesn't really know how to be a daddy. I have to resist being in full little space because it makes him nervous or he's not sure what to do. Any help or advice here is welcome. 

[Princess-P]

My best advice is talk to him. All relationships need communication. Since your both adults... I'm hoping, since your here lol... Then this should be a easy thing to do. Don't try having this conversation while being little. Be a grown up and tell him what you want. Maybe he doesn't know its what you want or maybe he's not interested, you won't know until you ask.

 

As for coloring and other little passtimes... Again, your an adult. Buy whatever you want its your money. And if you don't have your own money then earn some and do what you like with it. No one can tell you how to spend your own income.I'm not saying suck a passifire all day in front of your parents.. Let's be respectful, your kink is your own and others don't need to share it with you, but how are they to stop you from coloring or dressing a certain way?

 

Just remember your an adult first, being little doesn't change that. If you want something, get it. Want to do something? Do it. And always communicate with your partner. Your little side will be much happier being able to come out and play freely.

[Guest Little-Skitzy]

Thank you so much Princess P, I actually feel pretty stoked now about doing what I want. You are completely right, it is my life As for my Daddy I will talk to him today and tell him how I feel. Thank you

[LolitasDaddy]

You should both come up with a list of expectations, and things that you like. Find as much common ground as you can, but don't forget to experiment, and try new things. If there is a specific thing you want, or are missing ask. Chances are, there is something he is curious about, or wants to do.

[DaddysLolita]

I agree with Princess p. You need to talk to him about your wants/needs. Find out how he feels and go from there.

 

As for coloring, color! Being at home with family can definitely change how you can be little but could you color in your bedroom? Wear cute clothes to bed or while you're alone? Keep a stuffie somewhere safe and private? I feel like there's so many ways to be little in secret..I know it's hard to do so but until you can be freely little, finding little ways to be little will probably help.

 

There's also lots of things to experiment with and no right or wrong way to be a Daddy or little, it's more about finding what works for you both and making it your own. Best wishes

 

<3

[Guest Little-Skitzy]

So I talked to him about it, and it got really awkward. He likes following along with a few things, but he really doesn't have much interest in the topic. :/ I'm not really sure how to get him more interested but I also don't want to annoy him or something with the topic.

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

Hi Skity!

 

First of all let me say that I can relate to some of your story. I live at home taking care of both my parents who are sick so its very hard for me to get to express my little side. Aside from my time with Daddy, (we are LDR atm) I'm always having to be adult. I do have colouring books and stuffies but I keep them hidden away. It can be really hard but I manage okay with little things like that. If you think a kids colouring book isn't doable have you thought about buying an adults colouring book? They are still fun even though there's no princesses or cute animals to colour! lol. I've been thinking lately about buying a paci and just having it for when I sleep.  I sometimes get the chance to have a nap (and yes I have a blankie tee hee) so it would be useful for then also. But all my little stuff is just hidden away. I mean sure, I wish I could be more little more often but I think I've managed what I can for now under the circumstances. I also have a lot of 'little' apps on my phone.  Perhaps that's an idea? There's an app called ChoreMonster but it's aslo on the web too if you don't have a smartphone! Here's the site if you have never heard of or used it before. 

 

https://www.choremonster.com/

 

It allows your Daddy to give you a list of things to do and it might be a nice reminder of your little side when you're heavily caught up in adult things?

 

I'm sorry to hear about your Daddy and the issues there. I agree on what has already been said in terms of communication and you two working out the details of your dynamic. Perhaps though, some of his behavior is due to lack of knowledge? I am also sorry to read your last comment about him seeming uninterested. But maybe he just needs time to adjust? Still, being a Daddy is about much more than set bedtimes and punishments and he needs to realise that.

 

All the best!

[Princess-P]

If youve talked to your boyfriend and your conversation was very clear about what you both are and are not interested in...that's really all you can do. If hes just not interested in aspects you cant change his mind or talk him into it. What will happen in that case is if he DOES go along just to please you it will be a forced attempt and neither of you will feel good about it.

 

All that's left to do is deside if the things he's not interested in are wants or needs for you. If there just wants are you happy without them? If there needs can you accept that he's not going to be able to meet those needs?

 

Don't get me wrong I'm jot saying break up, just evaluate the situation now that you both know where the other stands, and see what you can do to work around your different interests.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

You can't make anyone accept anything. If he doesn't want those things, that's hus choice, not yours.

I never like the posts by people asking or advising how to change someone to fit their ideals. It's not worth the effort.

If I was with someone who wanted me to change who I was or wanted me to pretend or put effort in to like something that was against my personal beliefs or tastes, I would not want to be with that person.

Maybe you can compromise and leave certain things out of the relationship and enjoy the other stuff together whilst exploring those few things alone, or you can accept you aren't compatible.

[Guest Little-Skitzy]

So he talked to me again today about it, it turns out he's interested in it. However, he's really shy and nervous to try it, he's been researching and learning as much as he can and this surprised me. He really wants to get into it more and had explained to me that he hadn't been able to express this to me without shying up which is why he said he wasn't interested the last time we talked, turns out he just didn't know how to ask me things about it at the time. Thank you all for the helpful advice that you all gave me. I'm glad I was able to talk to him, and I'm so happy he came to me and surprised me the way he did. I guess I know what he was feeling when I first talked to him. I'm his first relationship so he still gets nervous talking about kinks or rather that's what he said this morning. Again thank you all.

[LittleMiss]

When I lived with my Master, we did live with his parents for a few months, to help us get on our feet. My mother and I are very much alike in the fact that I believe she's also a little and have talked to her about it. As a result, I've always been open with the fact I like to color.

 

Masters mother thought I was weird and that I needed to grow up, since her Masters nephews found my stash of stuffies and coloring supplies. What I eventually did was I would hide the stuff and color and stuff when no one but Master, a friend of ours, or I were around.

 

When you get money, go to Walmart and invest in a few grey totes, so no one can see what's in them. Write something on it like "Clothes: too big" so no one wants to look in it and put your little stuff in it. (: I did that and put it in our closet and no one got into it. You can even use regular boxes.. Then you could decorate the inside!